Kissing Your Children

Thank you both for sharing this. If you are comfortable with it, that's great. It's just not something I'm comfortable with in my own family. Do you think I am passing on a bad experience by not allowing my kids to kiss family members on the lips? Just wondering.

I'm 25 and still kiss my parents and Grandparents on the lips. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. It is just a peck to let them know that I love them and care about them. I come from an affectionate family that always hugs and kisses goodbye.

I love your of course. To you, kissing your kids on the lips must just be a given, but perhaps that's the experience of your family. It wasn't in mine, so it feels wrong to me. I like that you are firm in your convictions. I am too.

What country are you from? Just getting a feel. Yeah, tongue would be especially bad. I think if you do kiss your kids on the lips it would be frowned on at school age in America overall. I also think your kids would become uncomfortable. I know mine are even embarrassed at getting hugs that other kids see at times, and there is a big no about hugging or kissing other students, so it becomes a social issue, not a parental one.

I am not being judgemental, and I'm sorry you feel that way. You mentioned school age, so I was thinking about my experiences with my own children. At second grade level they began being uncomfortable with public displays of affection at school. I drive my kids to school due to their medical needs, so I was thinking about what their reaction would be if they did in fact get kissed on the lips at school. Kissing your kids can occur anywhere, in any location. The reason I asked what country people are from is that I know there are different cultural views on this, as well as co-sleeping which is another of my topics I posted about. I find it interesting to see how viewpoints change on a topic depending on the cultural diversity of the people responding. That's all. If you like to kiss your kids on the lips, that's fine. It is just not a practice I enjoy or think is appropriate for my family. I understand others will feel differently which is why I started this discussion. I love how diverse the human population is, and am sorry if you took offense at something I said or misinterpreted my intentions.

My son is in first grade and I still kiss him on the lips. He is in no way embarrassed by it and nobody thinks its inappropriate. I dont see where in the world you get that it is frowned upon in america once they are school age.

Glad you've thought about it pre-parent. I dislike when parents kiss their kids on the lips.

I agree with you on that. Just curious, what would you tell your kids if they wanted to kiss you on the lips. Why would you tell them it's inappropriate? Do you think that no one should kiss their kids on the lips, or its just not for you personally? Thanks for your candor.

School definitely adds an element to the mix. that's why I was wondering what age people think is too old. The whole peer pressure issue of being seen given affection to your mom is an interesting topic in and of itself.

Thanks for sharing your perspective. I think it's great that you show your kids love and don't force them to kiss on the lips. With my relatives who did it always felt like being forced. I mean, who wants to kiss someone you don't see often or much like anyhow, much less on the lips. I think a lot of my feelings of kissing your kids on the lips stems from my own experiences as a kid. It just felt to me like an infringement on my personal space, and as I said before my immediate family was not outwardly affectionate at all.

I'm wondering what you mean by this. Are you saying that you are interested in kissing your nephew? I guess that would open up a whole different topic here on myLot now wouldn't it. Thanks for responding to the discussion though.

English isnt his first language. What he was trying to say is, he probably doesnt have any kids but he kisses his nephew on the lips.