would ending my life make her see the truth .....

@HelScream (2823)
Philippines
September 15, 2009 6:49am CST
i cant explain how down I am right now i already told her the truth on the matter but still she refuses to accept it I was just thinking about what would convince her would it be ending my life in front of her for her to believe all this I am saying is true how she be so insensitive
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@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
hi helscream, don't do that.. .. i hate people doing that thing, or just thinking that thing.. that's not the solution on that problem, you are just making another problem or issue to both of you.. maybe you are down right now and you don't know what to do to let her come back to you.. but all i know is ending your life is not the solution to that, you are just making yourself a fool to her.. and don't let that happen, why did you end up thinking that thing?? what happen?? pls. explain. janebeth.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
no janebeth i was jut thinking about it the other night I was really going to do it things we think when we are too low well for now I am still alive and answering your post lol dont worry I will be fine and I have forgiven her already discernment is what I did ,no pride when it come to loving a person for now i will just let time pass and take each day at a time
@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
that's good.. you are really using your head..!! enjoy life and don't surrender, time heals hellscream.. maybe tomorrow or on the next month, both of you will start another chapters in your life..
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Okay..i have to be honest with you... maybe she's falling out of love... Do not put yourself in a situation whre she will belittle you... pick yourself up dear! if you have tried your best..and nothing can make her change her mind....maybe she doesn't really want to........ move on! Yeah i know it's easy to say...but hard to do.. I've been there..I even thought I was gonna die myself.. I almost took my own life many instances already... but guess what? i didn't... there's more to life than letting all my time and emotions revolve for only one person who doesn't return my love.... It is gonna hurt.... I know. But keep yourself busy and try to find new friends... keep your mind off her... it might still hurt in a few days... in a week..in a month... but if you think of it..it won't be as painful as it is the day you tried to move on... Time will heal
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
thats a probability my friend since she is tied up with the promise to love me forever and it looks she cant accomplish that promise thats why she has to put the blame on me well if this makes it easier for her to go on with her life and dont feel guilt on her side for fooling around and doing stuff she usually do then I guess she has the freedom back again ...she thought she love me lol well I guess immature and first timer always thought they are in love lol
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• Philippines
17 Sep 09
remeber..promises are made to be broken... we would know if the person does not love us as before...yet we try to ignore what we see...we try to convince ourselves on things we want to believe instead.... I have done things in the past just to follow my heart.. and now I have been paying for those mistakes up to now...... Sometimes it is better to listen to your mind and love yourself more...
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Ending your life huh?Well,all i can say is that you will be the loser.Why take your life just because a person won't believe that you have a clear conscience?As long as you know the truth and other people don't believe that you can do such thing,why bother with one person who is so narrow minded?(Sorry for that) Please,try to think things over and Pray to God for guidance on what to do with this problem of yours.Talk always to some of your friends,i know they will be able to give you some sound advice. Take care and GOD BLESS!
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
it was just a thought my friend i wont let it dwell that thought too long on my mind though. Having a relationship should make you a better person but I am going the other way around so that means she is not good for me too bad i thought this was it
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
Thank God!Now I can sleep well knowing you're okay and moving on! God Bless You with your plans!
@sjvenden27 (1847)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Killing yourself would not solve this problem!! I see that you are trying to show her some how that you are serious and that you are telling her the truth..If you killed yourself the only thing that would change; is you are no longer here... It can be hard to deal with when someone just will not take your word for it; regardless of what others have said to the same person.. Question for you?? Have you tried to just let things calm down for a couple days.. And then try talking with her, when you both have a little time to sort things out within yourselves... Its not avoiding the problem, but taking a step back and looking at the situation... In some situations time is what heals those wounds of the heart... yes it will still be there the pain will be the same.. but may be if you both calm down and then talk; the two of you will really hear what the other is saying... it doesnt always work, but everything is worth a shot once..
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
yes i am keeping myself away from her for now and see if she mellows i know she wont change what she is thinking and I wont force her to do so i wont try to defend myself anymore for I have done that already and had failed now i think time is the only thing both of us need .... i think it was not love she felt on the first place just a childish feeling she thought that it was love well what can you expect from a first timer
• United States
21 Sep 09
How are things now that its been a couple days?? Hope all is well for you.. That comment about being a first timer in love... love can not be judge by the person's life experiences... Love can not be measured with a measuring cup, or a scale.. Love is pure; anger and other negative thoughts just cloud the visions of love.. but its still there.. I would like to share something with you... You have gotten to know a bit about me from other discussions we have had.. My ex was my first love, my first boyfriend, my first husband... Even now after the clouds have pretty much disappeared.. There is still love there.. and always will be...The times we shared, the memories, our son.. Those are all stepping stones that we have walked together for 8 years.. and now we walk apart.. I can see the love in his eyes once more.. vice a versus a... but that will not change the future because of the choices we made in the past.. The "we" is no longer... only for our son...(but that's a different for a different discussion) Anyways I hope you are feeling better; or finding ways to get throw this my friend
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
ending your life.. sounds like you want more revenge then anything. that's pretty selfish. I know you are down, and you probably dont want to hear what i have to say, but i was really depressed for a long time too, and it will get better. I dont know your situation, but if you move forward slowly instead of dwelling, your life will go on and you will feel better a little bit day by day. You wont believe me i know. i didn't believe it when people told me either. but.. you have to keep living. The thing is.. you'd probably hurt other people more then you'd hurt her, like your parents, siblings, friends that care for you, co-workers.. I think taking ones life is the easy and selfish way out. please dont take it lightly.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
my friend it was just a mere though I have at my weakest moment and I know it would be a cowards way out to end everything but now I think I have to embrace this all and carry the cross that was meant to be mine .... a challenge on my part. but for now time is the only friend I have
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
16 Sep 09
I am glad it was just a weak moment and not a constant thought in your mind. Life is much more precious then i used to care to believe.. After you live your life on earth, your gone.. there is no more you.. So what is it that is bad happening in your life right now ?
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
15 Sep 09
Hi bro it's been awhile since I've seen you around. I'm sure you are under stress and I'll take it that you don't mean what you said about killing yourself. What the others say are indeed true, no one is worth our lives. If they can't have that special trust reserved, then it's too bad for them and not for us.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
well you always seemed to know me that much already bro you are right simply stated if they cant believe in us how on earth are they gonna love us or even trust us lol yes i wont take my life i fear God then I love her
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
16 Sep 09
That's more like it. Anyway, we don't know what our future lies in store for us. We can be unhappy for the first decade of our lives, and then gain happiness throughout the whole way..
@nenuphar (117)
• France
15 Sep 09
I'm trying to find a way to convince you that we're here only temporarily (a life time!). If she doesn't understand you nor accept your apologies or explanations, then let it be... she's not the right person for you and nor worthy of your love. You better let her go and take your precious time to find someone more suitable for you rather than wasting your life for her! There are many more others who are even worthier of your love! So cheer up, look forward and march on, soldier!
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
yes mam lol well i will let me just let this feeling out for now and try to be human for a while sometime pain is needed for us to move on and what is there to look back when all else is forgotten
@nenuphar (117)
• France
15 Sep 09
That's the right attitude! Bravo!
@jugsjugs (13038)
15 Sep 09
No one is worth ending your life for as long as you know the truth why even bother.You may care for this person,i am sure you will find someone else that cares for you rather than you just care for that person.You may even find that the person you care about may find out the truth and then wants to say sorry.Give it time i am sure you will feel different or they will in a few days.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
well finding someone new wont be on my mind my friend i think I have enough to last me a life time yes truth but what good is truth when it is not being believed
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
that girl is really lucky to have you.
@med889 (5954)
15 Sep 09
This is not the solution to make someone realized what she has done, why don't you think positively and act reasonably too because the girl is immature and you cannot let yourself be carried away because she is acting childishly. Just do not talk to her some days and you will see how she realizes everything.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Well for now its hurting like hell well I never intentionally want to end my life specially if there is no guilt involve on my side but if she ask this I dont know IF I WOULD BE ABLE TO REFUSE HER call me fl coz i am foolishly in love withyes med i think time would be the only thing that would be on my side now.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
what's in her for you to love her like thst?
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
16 Sep 09
No, this is definately not the way to make anyone see the truth in our words. The fact of the matter is, if she wanted to believe you, she would. Chances are, whatever you need her to know, deep down, she already knows, but she may need time to think about the matter. You may be hurting right now, but take it from smeone who has been there, if you simply move forward for yourself, things will be mch better in the end and they really do worl out for the best. Right now, I think that you should focus on yourself. You obviously care deeply about his woman, but for whatever reason, she is having trouble accepting something that you feel she should accept. Let me tell you, the last thing you want to do is to hurt yourself or anyone in your life that you love and takign your life will only accompish that. You would leave behind you many grieving people with many unanswered questions, and it would not accompish anyhting good at all. Try putting some space between you and this woman for a while. Leave it in her hands and tell her that if and when she is ready to talk, you may or may not have the time to listen. Simply put, take time out, move forward with your own life and if/when she is ready to talk about things, then, make the decision as to whether you really want to listen and talk or not. In my case, by the time he was ready to talk, I had figured out just how much better off I really was without him in my life. I am so much happier as a result even though it was a hard thing for me to go through at the time.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
yes my friend i wont do it for it is a cowards way our it was just a spur of the moment thing that happens when one is to weak i will try to make a little space for us to breath and let time heal what needs to healed i am seeing a different way of life now for if i am loose her on the process i wont regret it for I have given my all laid down all my defenses and love her the way I know how....
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
I you cannot think of anything to convince her that you were telling the her truth then maybe, you just ask her if what you need to do for her to believe that you are telling her the truth. Of course, she has her own ways for her to believe in you. Just do your best and show to her that you're not guilty. Show her that you are sincere and honest person. Now, if she still refuse to believe in you after all the things you have done, I guess you just need to stay out of her life until she realize that she's wrong. I think she knew how much you really love her and no matter how she'll hurt you, you will not leave her. Think about yourself also.. It doesn't mean that you love her, you need to put yourself down. Ending your life will only makes her think that your guilty and easily surrender with simple problem. Show to her that you're strong. Hope the best for you..
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
she needs the truth thats what she is asking I already give it to her but she wont believe so now how else can I explain when all truths are out lol not unless she is willing to listen would all this thing be resolve
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
That's not the solution. Just accept the fact, move on and have a better life. If it matters about love life, there are many fishes in the ocean. There are other things for her to believe in you but not taking your life away because one mistake can never be solve by another mistake.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
yes you are right well i am done with the fishes for now lol time to love myself till I find it time to find another one to share my thoughts and the one who actually believe in me no more long distance relationship this thing never really works lots of doubts and malicious things well at least when you are not in a long distance relationship it would be easy to prove the the person you love that you are saying and acting loyally to them..... time to start a new day...
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
A man experiencing scorching heat would most certainly say that the most important thing in the world is water. A man drowning at sea would quickly say it is air that makes life worth living. For you HelScream, it just seems to hurt because you see that person as the most important.. at least, for the moment. However it feels right now, it's just like anything else: fleeting, temporary, changing. Nothing as simple as this is worth ending one's life.
@gemini13 (333)
• India
16 Sep 09
such insensitivity is not worth giving away ones life... i don't what happened between you guys but dieing is never an option..you are also a part of someone else's life your mom dad your siblings..family so think about it ending your life is a very very bad way to make her realize
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
i wont my friend it was just a spur of the moment thought but wont do it for I value life and the one who give me life yes you are right it is never an option time to move on and get it over with
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
women are really hard to understand.sometimes we don't say what we really feel or think.your girlfriend maybe just want you to feel more guilty if you done wrong to her.just give her time to realize on her own that you're saying the truth. sometimes, the more you want to please her,the more she ignores you.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
she want me to admit on thing she say that I have done while i did not do it how can I feel guilt when I havent done anything to feel guilty of I am not naive like her reasons why she thought I was doing it on the first place well anyways this happened when you have an immature gf lol
@judysims (82)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Well, actually....no. It will convince her that you were a nut job and so glad she didn't get too mixed up with you. I don't exactly think that's what you're out to accomplish.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
yes you are right that is not what I am out to accomplish just a thought but not really meant to be done and not she is not worth my life only the maker can take my life and no one else can...
@crazydaisy (3899)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
Ending your life will only prove, that you had one! If you haven't convinced her by now, you never will. Time to move on my friend, she is not worth losing your life over. cd
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
you are right cd i wont be able to convince her she has a mind of her own so yeah time to move on ....
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
Hi HelScream, Please, ending your life is not the answer, nothing is worth that. Take things one day at a time and see if she learns the truth, but never, ever, consider ending your life. There is always another way. Blessings.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
moving on and leave life as if she never really existed and really never even met her well thats another way around well i think I have to breath and live again for now time is all I have and I would gladly use it to make me a better person and dont let myself be destroyed by the degrading things she describe me off
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Its not the solution that would make her believe on all that your saying. Ending ones life will never put an end to what ever your issues are. It would only make things so complicated. So my friend live your life, no matter what difficulties there in its the essence of life.
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
hi helscream, you're honestly love this girl that you really feel upset and even thinking to cut off your life, which a terrible sin to do. Life is a gift from God and he is the only one who have the right to cut it. At present you are really very emotional, hence no advices would really relieve what you are being experience now. However, you still have more life ahead of yours, and if this girl are not easily forgiving type. I must say she really have a cold heart, and a person like you could not be proven guilty unless supported with credible evidence. In your cases you insisting on your innocence which the girl should accept you when she see no evidences. A true love wait, forgives and forgets. Why making the day longer in sorrow, when both mind and hearts shouts for the two of you to reunite? No need to take it longer as you just both suffer but once she open her hearts again to you it would be endless happiness for both of you.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
yes you are right only he who creates us has the right to take away what he has created. It was a foolish of me to even think of but cant help it but I am ok now and I can assure you my friend taking my life would be not on my list anytime lol now that I know the reason behind all this its just so silly and funny but she stood by it well cant do anything about her now i just let her be with her own thinking and try to love me back ....