What Do You Do When....
@zoey7879 (3092)
Quincy, Illinois
September 15, 2009 2:55pm CST
Your ex has brought around a partner into their life that you don't like.. Not because its "the ex factor" but because this person has been with 3 partners in just as many weeks and is around your child? :/
A few weeks ago my ex, whom I unfortunately share an apt with, met this woman. She's 20. At the time I met her, she lived a guy named Denny and was cheating on him with a guy named Roger. She dumped Roger. A couple of weeks later, she dumped Denny and got with my ex on the same night. I forgot to mention that they were all friends, and well.. yeah she's been passed between them. They hid the fact from me, and one of the first things that she did when visiting him here was show off her hickeys, texts her ex bf while at my house and got drama started because her ex started sending messages to our house phone...Now, he's asleep with this woman.. IN MY BED!!! GRRRRR
This is NOT the kind of garbage I want going on around my kid... at all. But when you've got nowhere else to go and no income, just what the hell do you do? :( I didn't want my roommate on my lease as the "Leasee" but the landlord made me. I just want him and his trash out. *sigh* I don't even feel like I should be in my own home...
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@dragonangel (551)
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20 Feb 10
Well, she could be a bit dangerous to be around with anyone. And If I am still having feelings with my ex and there she is with him in the same house i think I'll be sooo unconfortable that I could drop something out inorder to make a commotion so they would jump off their feet and go check the commotion out.Then after that, I make sure to talk to my ex about my feelings so he could at least understand and be considerate with me and do something about it.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
20 Feb 10
This was ages ago.
And it turned out she was dangerous... The woman was a genuine sociopath, who repeated this scenario on at least 5 other unwitting men since this occurred in October. It's sick. In this small town where everyone knows everyone, I don't know how anyone could still want to be with her after having seen these behaviors for themselves.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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15 Sep 09
Is your child your ex's too? In that case I think that you can explain the folly of a new partner each week. If not then that's so much harder. But whatever, can you not move them from your bed. If not, is their family or friends that you can move in with temporarily whilst you sort yourself out? I can see the dilemma though - you can't move out without an income and you can't have him move out because you'd not be able to pay the rent there. I'm sending my sympathies. Wish that it could be more.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
15 Sep 09
Yes... the child is my ex's.
4:45 I finally knocked on the door, told them prom was over, and pulled him aside. I said that he told me she was coming to use the computer to fill out job applications.. not sleep in MY bed in MY bedroom for 9 hours, so he started to throw a tantrum. When I asked him if he wanted to be treated the way that he's treated me, he threatened to move out. I told him to go right ahead and take his wh**e trash with him, because I don't think a judge would think right kindly of him leaving her behind because I asked him to not bring her into my bed. I have some wicked health concerns that are affected by stress - and I don't need him making them worse. I've only had one guest that isn't family since the year 2004.. if that gives you some idea of how tumultuous this is... And my friend left because he feared for his safety.
I don't have family to move in with - my "family" don't even act like family. I shouldn't have to leave the apt behind as I was the one who procured it. I TRULY didnt want him on my lease but.. *sigh* ... The government thinks that they know whats best for everyone.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
you must talk to your ex, he must give you respect because you share with the same apartment. the only solution to this, is talk to him and tell him your inside.you can't solve this if you won't talk with him.
@anc457 (186)
• Thailand
24 Feb 10
that's really horrible. can feel the irritation and anger! thesame feeling am having when my partner said we'll be going on a trip for my birthday, but turned out to be a meeting date of my partner and a chatmate. dam*n wanted to back out, good thing a friend suggested me to hang out with her on those days. maybe a good time to look for another. but thta really hurts
