How can you forgive someone who was meant to be your source of strength?

Philippines
September 17, 2009 10:59pm CST
You can forgive but you can’t forget. So is it really forgiving when you can’t forget? I know that there is a point in our lives that everyone becomes either the sinner or the one the sinner committed the sin to. Now, let us take the stand of the one who needs to decide whether he or she needs to forgive the sinner. It's difficult right? They said time heals all wounds. Others say that time doesn't heal the wounds. No matter how long the rain wash away the dirt of the world, it still can't erase the memories. Things like this are really hard to express in the real world. What do you think about this mylot peeps?
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• United States
21 Sep 09
it really depends on what they did to offend me. somethings i can forgive after awhile,others i can't,and then also sometimes it just becomes a non-event.i may not hate them anymore,but i don't talk to them either,know what i mean?
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• Australia
18 Sep 09
If you genuinely forgive someone, the offence might still be remembered, but it is not remembered with any bitterness, malice or hard feelings of any sort. Some things are impossible to forget, but we have a choice about the way in which we remember them. In time, we might even come to be thankful for the offence, because through it we were able to learn a lesson and to grow and develop into a more mature and understanding person.
@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
it's true forgiving is also forgetting so if you don't forget then basically you don't forgive the other way around though can happen you can forget somehow, not intentionally but you might doesn't mean you forgive, you just happen to have too many things going in life for certain period of time you somehow forget some events prior to that it's not easy to do both, so don't force it when the time comes it will happen what happened to you, happened to teach you a lesson that your source of strength lies within yourself, not others you can carry on and you will
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• Philippines
18 Sep 09
it is hard to forget the misdeed especially if the one hurting u is someone closer to u or someone u love or the source of ur strength. maybe i cannot immediately forgive him with still the hurt i am feeling. i am sure it will be a long time before i do that. we need to heal the "fresh" wounds first, learn to take it and forget it happened in the first place. i know this is easier said than done but with the other party being remorseful and asking sorry and a promise not to do it again would surely help the situation. yes, time heals all wounds. forgiveness will come in its own pace.
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