Hobbies and marriage

Your pastimes might be solo but you both indulge in right brain activity which makes you kindred spirits and so you have a natural understanding of each other. For myself, I'm happy with my own company but I have a friend who helps me if I need it if he is interested in what I'm doing.

I cannot generalise Nanna. I only know our marriage. I do my thing and you, I mean the Boss, does hers. Works for me! LOL.

I have been very happily married to my husband for almost 50 years. I have always been active in voluntary work in children's ministry, working many hours a day. We were sugar cane farmers and he worked long hours on the farm, so he never had time for hobbies. When we sold the farm and retired to town, he had problems, but he soon settled and now he is happy just to sit and read or fall asleep in front of the TV - and I work long hours in my office. We don't share hobbies, but he is always interested in what I am doing, and we do spend quality time together.

I think that is part of why your marriage has lasted so long. I think that a couple should have interests that are different than their spouses as well as having some that are the same. I mean you were an individual before you married him and so was he. I don't know if I wanted to spend all of my time with my spouse. When I was younger, I thought yeah, we must do everything together. My marriage didn't last. I think if I had given him his space for his hobbies and had space for mine and then we could do things that we both enjoyed together that would have made things easier. I don't see anything wrong with it. It seems to be working for you.

Hi! I like doing things on my own, and with others. There are times when i just want to have some time to do the things that i like to do by myself, and there are other times when i love being around friends and family and doing things we all like together. Everyone needs time to do things that they enjoy by themselves, and then they also need time to do things with the people they love that everyone enjoys.

I think it is imperative that couples have their own hobbies and their own things that they do separately. If you share EVERYTHING and spend all of your time together the marriage is likely to sour. There is such a thing as spending too much time with your significant other!

I think it’s very difficult to find a partner having similar hobbies like you do. My husband has not a lot common interests with me. He could not understand what I do on line, especially the online making money websites. To him it is a different world. I tried to refer him to mylot and work for me, but he refused. What a big waste. He also spends a lot of time on line, but just on sports, especially football and cricket. Anyway we do have some hobbies in common.

Interesting question-My husband liked to play guitar and taught me to play bass. We did have a family band for a few years with our two youngest kids.However, that got to be a job until we quit the band.I've not played the bass since then,but he did play the guitar until he passed away. He liked to fly remote control planes,watch tv and do woodwork.I,on the other hand read(a lot)play on the computer(which he didn't like to do)and crochet-among other things.We were happy and married 40 years-so maybe that is why the marriage lasts. Opposites attract,maybe?A lot of hobbies only take one person.