Do you easily give up in a relationship?
By ivygrey
@ivygrey (550)
Philippines
September 18, 2009 12:04pm CST
My cousin is one of the kindest and most beautiful cousin I have and she has been in to many relationships ever since high school, She is nice in my opinion but I noticed that her relationships doesn't last long. I mean just a month or two and then she will leave him. She always tells me that "he's just not the one" I mean how would you know if you will easily throw the poor guy away! DO you easily give up in a relationship? if you just don't feel to? Or not.
8 responses
@BStuff (495)
• United States
18 Sep 09
I am double sided here. I do fight for relationships, well I've fought for one relationship in my life but I fought for 8 years with it. Generally if I know it's not right after the first month or so I will let it go. You can only fight so hard. I have a problem with friendships though I fight too hard with them when a lot of the time I should just let them go because a good friend is a good friend all the time not just when they feel like being a good friend. Lately I've been giving up very easily. I feel if he thought he could love me he would work for it or try to make me love him back. If they arent fighting why should we right?
@Archie0 (5636)
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19 Sep 09
I gave my ex 3 chances to change before leaving. He couldn't stop talking to other girls in a way I found uncomfortable. So I had to leave. He promised to stop 3 times in a year and a half. Everyone thought I was too nice for staying as long as I did.
I don't suggest having him change into a different person, you have to love him for him.
Finances are important, but don't mold the type of person he is. He should learn how to change that, for you. And don't ask too much responsibility of him, maybe he's just got some more growing up to do. I don't care how old someone is, there's still growing to be had. Some people are really late bloomers (like REALLY late).
You've been with him 5 years already. Something has made you stick around. If it's the situation us girls always put ourselves in, where we find a man we like but sorta needs "saving" and we think we can change him - then it's time to leave. But if you really (really) believe that's not the case, then don't give it up yet. Just be a little harder on his lazy behind!
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
19 Sep 09
I find similar occurrences around any beautiful girl. Actually a beautiful girl always has a bunch of suitors thronging around her in the hope that some day she'll choose one of them as her partner. So she's never out of choices. The poor guys who simply can't think about anyone else but her are just like dresses in a shop to her. She tries out one for a few months, and then decides to throw him away to get herself a new boyfriend. Love is like a plaything to her. She toys with the guys' emotions and leaves them heartbroken without a qualm. I haven't been in a relationship more for this reason than anything else. I won't be able to bear it when I wake up someday to find that my girlfriend has just simply walked away from the relationship to find new excitement. I know people's opinions will differ with me but that's what I've seen of today's girls and I have seen quite a few of them doing this very thing to my friends who have been left heartbroken. Love is a thing of the past. This is just not love.
@pooh08 (671)
• Vietnam
19 Sep 09
I'll think before I have relation with any body. Because If I have relationship with some one and after I give up him, I will lose a good friend. Besides lover, we also have friendship. I don't want to lose any good friends. So I think before I have relationship with anybody.
@babyfiona08 (652)
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
I think it really depends upon the situation if that guy is really worth fighting for. Just like me, I had fought for a guy and we lasted three years but it ended then. So I guess, we should weigh over if that guy is really worth all the effort and of course if he is willing to give his all too in fighting for the relationship.
@Lucky09 (1763)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
has your cousin really loved those guys? or has she just been going out with them so she will not be typecast as single or no partner? There are people who are afraid to live alone so they always find a partner no matter what it takes.
If she has loved them and the love naturally goes away then it's ok to say "he is not the one"
I can not say love chooses "the one" but we choose "the one" for our love. So if we really love the person even if he/she is not the one then we must live by our love. Ofcourse, we must consider everything but i still believe love is unconditional and we try to fix whatever differences we have to our partner. I had 3 past relationships and all of them lasted years especially my first which lasted 5years.
