It took awhile, but I finally reached the end of my rope.

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Many of you have followed my discussions and, yes, even rants about a friend of mine and her borrowing. Tonight she called, crying her eyes out; her husband had worked for a lady they know, and instead of getting money for food he had the woman fill his gas tank. They have little or no food, have a stray dog that they took in (I am taking care of their original dog which is a Pit/lab mix) and the list goes on. She is blaming the woman entirely for their not getting money for food. I can't get it through to her that the woman has expenses and the other thing that enters my mind (I haven't voiced it yet) is since the woman isn't a relative where does my friend get off complaining about how much money she gives my friends husband? I mean is this woman supposed to give the husband several hundred dollars an hour???? I heard all about the woman getting an expensive television set and new stand for it to sit on. Then about the Lexus SUV the woman bought, the house the woman lives in, the trips the woman takes etc. What makes my friend think that this woman owes them major money for the yard work??? I told my friend earlier this month that I was really really short on money because of HAVING to pay bills that I didn't pay since I was loaning them money to survive. I did break down and buy her some feminine hygiene products but the friend informed me that she needed MORE!!! Then there is dog food for the dog that the husband found. They aren't bothering to advertise about the dog...because she decided that they can't afford it. Then she stated that they plan to take the dog to the vet and get it rabies shots etc before they find it a home...which they won't bother to recover the cost for the visit or the shots...oh and she also plans to license it too. I told her that she could advertise the dog for free, but she doesn't believe me and it amounts to I am fairly sure that they are planning to keep the dog. They can't afford to feed themselves so they are keeping a dog. Humm, am I the only one who sees that there is something wrong with this picture? She got the phone bill and called me immediately that the bill was $400! Her husband called Mexico last month and got his father's cell phone which cost a ton more than if it were a land line. They have to pay the full bill next month, and guess where she would come crying to if they don't have food in the house....Yep, stupid me!! Tomorrow night they are getting the very last loan from me. I found more of my stuff that she can pawn to get money for food. I also raided my change jar and came up with about $5 in change. I [/b] [/u]FINALLY got fed up with the situation and am going to tell her like it is[b][u]. She is on the fence about parting company with her husband, and one day she is going to divorce him and the next day she isn't. I have told her that SHE has to make that decision and stick by the decision. I can't make it for her. If she stays with him she is looking at years of emotional abuse, financial problems and getting nowhere with her life. If she parts company with him the abuse will quit, the finances will be tight but she won't be wondering where her next meal is coming from, and she will be able to study and achieve her goal of a high school diploma, a college education and a job in early childhood education. (Mind you she is nearly 50...) All I know right now is that I have reached the end of my rope with the constant loans, the drama of her life with her husband, her having a stalker, and taking care of her dog when the idiot she's married to goes out and finds another one. My rope has been sliding through my hands at an appalling rate and I reached that frayed end!!! NO MORE, I CAN'T TAKE IT!!! For those of you who are curious, the friend owes me $2000 (yes, two thousand dollars) now between her buying stuff on Ebay, present loans, previous loans and the jewelry and stuff I have lent her to pawn so they can make it through the month. I suggested that he go out the road I drive to town that there is at least $200 in aluminum cans---I was informed that collecting aluminum cans is beneath him! Better to go hungry than to do what is necessary to survive. If you read through all of this crap, congratulations! I would love to give each and every one of you a BR for patience and tenacity. For me it helped a LOT getting all of this off my chest. I may even be able to sleep tonight. If I had it bottled up in me I would be up and scrubbing walls all night! I am frustrated, angry, annoyed and I feel played! But at least I am finished loaning money and giving her food and dog food (BTY, having her pit/lab mix is costing me about an extra $30 a month for food--my little guys eat 1/3 per day of what the Pit/lab eats.) Thank you for reading all of this, and if you chose to respond, thank you. And thank all of you who have been there for my previous posts about this friend.