Have you ever cheated on your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Philippines
September 21, 2009 11:02am CST
I admit I once cheated on my boyfriend. I fell inlove with another guy, who is my co-worker. It was because he doesn't have enough time for me and for our relationship. But doesn't mean that I don't love him anymore, in fact I do love him so much. God knows what I realy feel for him. It just realy happened, it was not my intention to hurt him. It's just that I want him to realize if he realy loves me and how important I am to him. And also to make realize how much I love and miss his campany. Until know I still feel very guilty for what I did to him, because i know he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. He is a great person and he deserve to be loved will all heart. He doesn't have time for me , but I know deep in my heart how much he loves me. I am hurt whenever I look at him in the eyes, because I know that what I did was realy painful. It realy hurts when you see your love one crying and hurting because of you. Now I'm realy trying my very best to win his heart back. And I hope it will work.
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26 responses
@hexeduser22 (6692)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Nope, I haven't cheated on my girlfriend and my girlfriends before her. Even though I was usually the one to propose the break up but it's not because I fell in love with somebody else. I'm afraid of karma that's why I try as much as I can not to cheat.:)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
hi, it's really nice to hear that from a guy like you, coz we must admit not all guys are still like you who are stick to one. keep up the good work. goodluck to your relationships. always take care of the one you love..
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Hi desolator..you know what, I really think most girls would be dying to be with you, with that kind of character. But just a reminder, do not always keep what you really feel. You should always make sure that your girl is always feeling that she is very important to you and you don't want to loose her. so that she will not have any reason to cheat on you..we girls really love it when we feel that we are very special to someone..
@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
hi marie, i agree, communication is one of the important thing in a relationship, without it of course everything is useless.. i can't also blame you for falling to another man because as what you have said, your boy has no enough time for you and in your relationship.. in my case, i never cheated him.. i am a one man woman, so at the first place if ever i will surely cut off first our relationship before entering in another relationship, to avoid circumstances and conflicts.. janebeth.
@janebeth (2033)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi there my friend, i am happy i saw you again here, hehe.. and yes GOD has it's purpose on everything, and HE has a right girl for you.. well on your question, of course i will ask him first what keeps him very busy, that he has no more time for me and in our relationship.. and if he says that he is busy on his work, well i will let him choose between the two, me or his work.. for sure he will say that i am the most important than his work, then and there i will give him my conditions and to just spend a little time on me, 3 to 4 times in a week is a little bit ok for me.. maybe that is the greatest thing he can give me, girls need time and love..
@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
21 Sep 09
I have never cheated and never would. I dont see the need. Sometimes it is a case of the grass is greener but never worth it. Although maybe it was a good lesson to learn
@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
5 Oct 09
I am a guy at least I think I am But I have never cheated in any relationship. I have never broken anyone's heart that I know of I just think that a relationship where someone cheats, there is something missing from it.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I cheated on my highschool boyfriend. He cheated on me first though. We tried to get through it, but as things went on I found out more and more details and ended up cheating on him. The last person I cheated on him with I fell in love with. I broke up with my boyfriend and got with the other guy and we've been together ever since. We have been married for 8 years! I have never cheated on my husband and never will. I know how much being cheated on hurts someone and I couldn't do that to him.
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
wow..congratulations for a right decision. I hope i can also make a right decision for myself.
@agirnow (158)
• France
21 Sep 09
If your boyfriend is really the love of your life and you are very attached to him, you need to tell him straight up that you feel ignored or like a low priority. You need a person who can spend enough time with you to make you feel loved and appreciated. This is where your whole problem stems from. Cheating is never the answer, communication is. Next time you feel like a relationship is not going where you want it to, break up with him... one of two things will happen: either he will realize that he needs to give you more attention and you will work it all out or you will realize that it wasn't meant to be and you can fall in love with co-workers. If you have gotten to a point where you really are tempted to cheat, break it off with the other guy and then have fun with the new one... that is hard to do, but in the end is more honest and a nicer thing to do than cheat. Good luck on this road of life, hope you find the right person for you!
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
hi agirnow..thank you so much for you advice. But you know what I already told my partner a hundred times what is locking in our relationship. It is communication. But we always end up fighting everytime I start to talk about our problems. He always think that I'm always starting a fight. And I already told him also that I feel ignored and not special to him. he always reasoning that he is busy working..or doing other things. but he don't always have time for me. but at the end of the day, before I go to sleep I always end up realizing how much I love him..
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
No I haven't cheated on my boyfriend and I wouldn't do that. I love my boyfriend so much and he does love me a lot too. He's always there for me no matter what happens. I'm so lucky to have him and I will never let go of him. I'll do everything to make him love me more each day.
@nuttie (2)
• Zimbabwe
17 Oct 09
I admit it too....My boyfriend was taking a lot of his time with his friend and the gym.He could call and say he is coming but did not and cud sae an excuse that his muscles where painful and couldn't walk or drive to ma place or ma work place.At the same time my best friend was having a break up moment with his girl friend ...I can't sae how it happened coz I don't I don't we jus fell inlove with each other... We still can't go on because of my boyfriend and the fact that his girlfriend knew me as his best friend and same to my boyfriend he is my best friend
@nuttie (2)
• Zimbabwe
17 Oct 09
I admit it too....My boyfriend was taking a lot of his time with his friend and the gym.He could call and say he is coming but did not and cud sae an excuse that his muscles where painful and couldn't walk or drive to ma place or ma work place.At the same time my best friend was having a break up moment with his girl friend ...I can't sae how it happened coz I don't I don't we jus fell inlove with each other... We still can't go on because of my boyfriend and the fact that his girlfriend knew me as his best friend and same to my boyfriend he is my best friend
@Gemstar6 (71)
• New Zealand
28 Sep 09
I caught my ex in bed with a girl once. I knew he had her with him but tried to talk myself outta it, thinking yeah I'm just paranoid. Thinking got the better of me and I went to his house and waited on the verandah telling myself I was insane and crazy. Then they woke up! And started giggling! OMG. So I opened the door, said "Good Morning, would you like a cup of tea?????" and went and put the jug on. They got out of bed pretty quickly. Needless to say, that finished. Scumbag.
@david2005 (800)
• Canada
22 Sep 09
I have cheated on my girlfriend once when we first met and she forgave me for it though but she has cheated on me too.
@taztheone (1725)
• India
22 Sep 09
I have cheated my girlfriends because I was never serious with any of them. Now I got a girlfriend with whom I'm so serious & now I hope that she won't cheat me. Happy Lotting
@jterrock (277)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I have never cheated on anyone. Cheating is wrong in my opinion. If you are not happy with the person you are with, then you should break it off with that person before dating anyone else. It is too painful to be cheated on. I have been cheated on, so I know how that feels. I guess I just don't get the point of cheating. Why do it? You are hurting the person that you say that you love. Why would you want to put them through that? My views on cheating are strong, but I would never looking differently on someone who cheats. I hope it works out for you!
• Indonesia
22 Sep 09
I never cheat once I put myself into a commitment, but I have an experience that I date two persons in the same time ( not yet commit anything ) In my opinion, every one has a fantasy or passion to do that, especially when you see a wonderful person or he/she is really your type...but some make it real action and some bury it deep inside their heart ( highly recommended ) But if unfortunately you did it, you can't " undo " it like it never been happened. Although love could regain anything back... so, just think twice before doing that.
@drakkar (50)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Yes, once in my life I've cheated to my wife. I don'y why it happen, it just happen. But that thing teaches me a lot. I never say that I don't have any regrets on it, I do, but that regrets won't cover the lessons I've learned from it, a lesson which we could not learn in any universities. With that thing I was able to know who were my friends are. Yes, I know a lot of people who happen to be my friends but after that thing happen there gone, then I realized I have no friends. What I have is my family alone. I even helped a lot of people but they seem to forget it as well because of what I did. Now, I'm very much happy with my kids and wife. Thanks for all the lessons.
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
well, I hope you will eventually win him back, cause you obviously love him.. I don't remember ever cheating on my boyfriend, but I have experienced being the other woman, thrice. it was not a fun experience, and even if you really love the guy, you really can't do anything because he already is with another girl. I hate the feeling of being hopeless, and just holding on to the slim hope that he will choose you over his girl. Anyway, I'm really happy now with my life, and in the end, I was chosen over the girl. lol.
@piya84 (2589)
• India
22 Sep 09
No i havent cheated.I wont cheat on him.I will prefer to break up before doing something like that.Have you told him about it?If you love him enough then let him know about it.If if come to know these things from some one else then it wont good thing.Probably he will lost faith on you.
@tvb2009 (237)
• Singapore
22 Sep 09
Although it sounds wrong to cheat on someone. But i do believe that everyone deserves a chance to change. If you boyfriend is willing to accept you, you have got to cherish. Love him with all you have. Go for it!
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
Hi Marie! I understand your feelings, like you I cheated my boyfriend too and yes I really felt guilty when i look at him in the eyes. I hope you could win him back, if that happens I know you wil learn your lesson and love him honestly.
• India
22 Sep 09
It's all part of life. Some times it happens. Hope you win his heart back.
@riyasbass (121)
• India
22 Sep 09
I appreciate you to have this question in mylot .I JUST WANT YOU TO TELL THAT IF YOU BREAK THE RELATION DUE TO ANY REASON AND FEELS THE GUILT AND PAIN IN HEART sure you liked your company more than he liked you ,your guilt feeling might always pull you back form your co worker but you should know that its your plus point which pulls you But due to a cause which you are not responsible for so don't get sad by the feeling just OVERCOME it Also if you like to have a friendship with your lost boyfriend , you should remember that he have less time to counter with you ,,so don't get downhearted if he visit you less ENJOY THE LIFE