Club Stripers Are The Cause Of Infidelity

United States
September 21, 2009 2:55pm CST
Ladies would you allow your men to go to strip joints, and fellas is it ok in your eyes to go to a strip joint while in a committed relationship with your spouses. I for one believe its not right and causes infielity within relationships. Why do you need to go to a strip joint if you have a wife or a girlfriend. In that case you should not be in a committed relationship. What do you think Strip clubs ok or not for men in relationships or married
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
21 Sep 09
i don't think a man going to see stripers is going to make them cheat. if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat if he is at a strip club or a got damn mcdonalds!!! it's not where he is, it's who he is that makes him cheat!!
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
22 Sep 09
it's not where he is, it's who he is that makes him cheat!! nicely put and so very very true!! i knew PLENTY of married men who would come into the clubs back when I was dancing and they had NO DESIRE to cheat..they just liked to come in with their friends or clients etc, have some drinks and enjoy their time watching us on stage, getting dances should they be so inclined and hangin out....
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• United States
22 Sep 09
I agree with you a man or a women doesn't need a real reason to cheat I just think strip joints adds to the flame.
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@34momma (13891)
• United States
23 Sep 09
i think strip joints give them a reason to cheat. people do what the want to do no matter what
@forptc (290)
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Finally, the first I've met who values fidelity so much. I've been going to strip joints when I was still single but since I got into a relationship, it became the least of my interests and I never went there since then. I never go to those places anyway unless some friend asks me for company and pays for the bills, I don't and won't shell out money for those things, just not worth it. But I don't think it really causes infidelity. It's the person himself/herself who causes infidelity because there is no need to veer your attention to someone else if you've gotten yourself into a relationship or a commitment. Why be committed when you cannot even keep it? Might as well stayed single and lived a hedonistic lifestyle, never committing at all right? Besides, if the guy or girl is in it for the drinks alone, there are a lot of bars out there that offer great tasting drinks without the gyrating performers. Or better, there's a wide array of choices in the supermart or convenience stores. A lot more thrifty even, to buy and drink at home.
• United States
22 Sep 09
I agree strip joints don't cause infidelity by itself it takes the man to pursue the lady, but I think its a big help. the temptation and lust, and we all know what most men think with... I just think the strip clubs are a vital part as to why some men cheat on their spouses... its all in their faces Men should be stronger than that. and the girls should be ashamed of themselfs for allowing it
@forptc (290)
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Yes, it could be a factor in a man being disloyal to his partner but I don't think it's really to be blamed for a man's actions. It goes to show that with whatever temptation or situation faced before a man, he is far weaker than women and than he could ever handle. Our choices can be influenced by external factors and events but these influences are not to be blamed for whatever decision we make because we are in our right minds to decide what we want and therefore we, as individuals, are the only ones to be blamed for whatever happens in the end. These women in the joints are simply doing it for a living. It's the customers that flock to them that wanted to be there. We have to blame it on the carnal urge of people, man and woman alike, and the lack of self control.
@IMEzekieL (500)
22 Sep 09
I don't think club strippers are the cause of infidelity. Instead, the husband is the one that should be blamed for this. Club strippers are club strippers, that's their job. It's still in the husband's conscience that can make a huge impact.
• United States
23 Sep 09
What about the strippers who offer private rooms to do private things for money, Im sure you herd of that... the ilegal stuff.
• South Korea
22 Sep 09
I think its definetly not right to go to a strip club if your in a relationship. But i believe its wrong for you to even go to a strip club. I think that if your going to be sexually aroused, you should be aroused by someone you actually think about dating or marrying.
• United States
23 Sep 09
Yes I agree stripping is very distasteful and degrading for women and men. your body is a temple and should be cherished.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
22 Sep 09
[i]I for one believe its not right and causes infielity within relationships. [/i] just how exactly does it cause infidelity?? .. why do men go to strip clubs? the same reason women do...its a fun night out...Just like goin to a nightclub/dance club is... What do I think of strip clubs? LOL being a former stripper myself I have no issues with them at all...and for the record...it was actually quite common for COUPLES to come into the clubs and enjoy the night together..In fact I worked at a club yrs ago and once a week EVERY WEEK an elderly couple would come in together dressed in their best, they'd sit in the front row and enjoy the shows together..
• United States
23 Sep 09
I don't believe stripping is right, morally and ethically . I don't feel a women should have to subject her body in order to make a living. and women should be more appriciated I also don't feel a married man or women has a place in the strip clubs. what is the need for it. when you have a wife or husband at home who can do all those things and more. there are alot of stories that revolve around a man cheating on his wife with some stripper he met at a club, and I am not saying all women strippers do those type of things... some may keep it professional. but a married man or women has no place in a strip club.
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
22 Sep 09
People of bad character go to such places. Its not a gentleman's behavior. Men or women who are raised in decent family do not visit such places. A girl and her family would not agree to a marriage with such a man. This is the way things are in my country and most Asian countries.
• United States
22 Sep 09
Well I have to agree and disagree. Not all people who go to these places have bad charater. I myself at the age of 21 was talked into going to a strip club for the first time by my bestfriend My friend and I were both raied in good homes with morals and values. and I found it to be a place I didn't want to go to anymore. Alot of people go there for entertainment. But a married man has his entertainment at home.
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
22 Sep 09
If a man goes to a strip club to watch strippers on stage, it means that he is not contented on his wife if he is married or girlfriend. Many says that it is only for fun and Im not agree with it.
• United States
22 Sep 09
Yes that is the truth, his wife should be the only women he wants to look at and admire
@happy6162 (3009)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I do not think it is okay to go to a stripers club if you are in a relationship. You should be commited to that person and there should not be any reason you should want to go. We all know that a relationship should be base on trust of one another but just because you trust each other still does not make it right to go out to see other ladies or men in a stripers club. Be happy with the person you are commited too and respect how they would real feel knowing you are at the stripers club.
• United States
22 Sep 09
Yes I totally agree stip clubs are no place for a married man or women, or those in a committed relationship. I know most women don't like when their men watches other women on the street walk by so why would it be ok to go see them with almost no clothes on. its a respect factor
@laglen (19779)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I do not think they are the cause of infidelity. I believe the person messing around is. I do not "allow" my man to do anything, it is not my place as it is not his place to "allow" me. I would hope that the man I am with would not choose to go. I also think it is my responsibility to meet his needs at home so he has no desire to go. If he did go, say for instance, with guys from work, I would not worry, he comes home to me. If he didnt come home to me, he would soon become homeless! :)
• United States
22 Sep 09
LoL I like the homeless part. I agree with you that person has alot to do with it, yet I think the strip club adds on to it
• United States
22 Sep 09
yes it ok for a man to go to a strip club if you have trust in your man or woman then you should have nothing to worry about and besides it just makes them what to come home to the one they know will always be there by there side so relax get some trust going and then you will fined out what love really is because if you don't have trust you have nothing.
• United States
22 Sep 09
Its ok for a single man to go to a strip club, But not my husband there is nothing there for him especially when he has it all at home. I think its the most disrespectful thing for another women to dance all over another womens husband or boyfriend in an explicit nature. I trust my husband but I also know he is a man, and a human and mistakes may occur but he shouldn't put himself in the perdicument for them to occur
@rainmark (4302)
22 Sep 09
For me, I don't stop my hubby to go to stripping club if he wanted to. It's his money to spend not mine and besides if he going to cheat on me,that's up to him. It test his faithfulness to me. Once before i have an experienced going to similar places, as a part of our study and research at school. We went there as a group with our professor, and i find it funny lolz.
@sender621 (14934)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Why do we need these kind of clubs anyway? We are just looking for relationship trouble when we frequent these establishments. Both men and women seem to find their own fascinations with these clubs. You can be sure they don't take their significant others along. Maybe if they did, they'd go there less.
@snowy22315 (79711)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I wouldn't appreciate that at all. I would hope that my boyfriend does not want to do that. So far he hasn't had any inclination to do anything like that. I would not really be happy with it at all, but all I think you can really do is say how it makes you feel, I don't think you can really do anything else. They will pretty much do what they want to do anyway.