Yesterday Sunday Sept 20, 2009 Marked 14 years now since My brother died!!

My Brother Alan , he was such a proud happy Father - This is my brother Alan, He passed away Sept 20, 1995

He is holding his first born daughter here, he was so happy to be a Dad!!
United States
September 21, 2009 4:17pm CST
Yesterday, Was a day of Reflection for me 14 years ago on this day was a horrible horrible day for me and my family; It was the day we lost My dear brother, A Son, for my Mom & Dad, and A Father and Husband; I dearly dearly still miss him so much you just cannot imagine; We were so close, but yet Oh Man did we ever have some doozie fights there; LOL! He usually won of course as he was five years older than me and way stronger; I have uploaded one of my old favorite photo's of him holding his first born child, and if you look at the photo I am using as my "avatar" for this subject ( my brother) that too is an old family photo of us together check it out if you like and if mylot "BURPS" ON ME and the pics don't load I'm also going to put them in my photo section in my profile ok? I really really hope my dear friends take a minute and look at these old pictures of my brother, and me ... My brother suffered for 2 1/2 years with Cancer , he had Bone Cancer that last horrible year it was bad...bad bad bad.. When I went and visited his grave yesterday the concrete around his grave marker has broken, I was NOT a happy camper to see that...GROWL!!!! as MUCH as that stuff costs ( funeral expenses) you'd think it would last longer than 14 years...I was more upset over it than My Father was??? I guess the ground has shifted or something I don't know but I still don't think it should have BROKEN like that it was not a tiny crack now but a big break in the back of it where the vase sits...(sigh)! He was going to try and fix it today and or talk to the funeral home place; I miss you Al...
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
23 Sep 09
I am sorry Sweetie, you will always miss him there is no doubt about that and I hope that you will get the Concrete repaired as that is awful that it is broken I wish People would respect the Graves as that is where the loved ones live on with us I will have a look at the Photos Big Warm Hugs
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• United States
30 Sep 09
HI Gabs: so far we've not gotten the grave stone fixed yet so much has been going on out at the farm my Father is in a mad dash to get so many things done before the bad weather comes...( crazy man) LOL! Yeah I wish people would respect the cemeteries too but they don't; Thanks for the sweet comments too on the photo did you see the one of my Brother and I together and his daughter or not? I can't remember DUH!! AND I just was there reading the comments too, talk about brain damaged huh? LOL!!! mercy me! thanks for stopping by dear friend and for your sweet comments on my pics (G)!! love & hugs to you and give dear Gisi some love and hugs from me will you??
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I am so thankful that I still have my one and only sibling, my brother. He is also 5 years older than I am like you and your brother were. When he and I would young he used to pick on me just so I would cry and run to momma tattling on him but let him get in trouble for doing something wrong I would be right there trying to keep my parents from spanking him. hahaha After our parents divorced he and I got closer. I am so sorry that your brother had to suffer like that. I will go and look at your special photos now. My thoughts are with you.
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@cyrus123 (6364)
• United States
22 Sep 09
I was an aunt by the time I was 4. You see, my brother, who is 18 years older than I am, married the first time the year I was born. I am four years older than his oldest son. This son is the one who gave me the horse, btw. Mother had me when she was 41. Kathy.
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• United States
30 Sep 09
Wow! {{Tyc}} I had no idea that you had been through Cancer and so many in your family too; May I ask when you had yours?? Cancer is such a nasty thing I pray you never have to go through it again; so far ( fingers crossed) I myself have not had any but I sure have my fair share of other miserable health problems...(sigh)! Sitting here reading everyone's responses to this discussion has me all teary-eyed again and seeing my brother's photo's again did I tell you he was only 38 years old when he passed away? Thanks again dear friend for all your sweet comments {{love ya}}
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• United States
30 Sep 09
HI Kathy: OH Wow! so you were an aunt at the age of 4 huh? GEEZZ! Well at least he gave you the horse right? That's more than my other brother ever did for me... Love & hugs dear friend
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
23 Sep 09
He's in your heart Jan. He'll always be with you in spirit. That's what matters right now and the fact that he's in no more pain. He's up in Heaven looking down on you and everyone in your family and I'm sure he's wanting to kick your father in the rear end for how he treats you!! I'm sure too that he loves you and everyone else but wish they'd all behave.
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@Buchi_bulla (8304)
• India
22 Sep 09
Your brother looks to be a strong person. How horrible this cancer is. Mercilessly it scratches away our near and dear one. Try to gather strength and be of support to his children. What else can we do friend? May be your brother wants to come out of the grave and to be with you all, that is why the grave wall is broken. Pray for his soul to be peaceful and I will also pray for him.
• United States
30 Sep 09
Hi Buchi_bulla: Thank you for saying that about my Brother he was a strong person, very strong until the end there; Yeah I've always been there for his kids and boy have they been through some rough times over the years they both are in their mid-to late 20's now; My brother's spirit and my Mom's spirit they both visit me quite often which always makes me happy; I know he had a lot of things unfinished but I guess most people do; thank you for all of your kindness it is very much appreciated; {{huge hugs to you }} take care dear lady; and thank you for your prayer's....
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@cyrus123 (6364)
• United States
22 Sep 09
Hi Jan! I'm so sorry to hear about you losing your brother 14 years ago! This is so sad! I'm sure he suffered a lot! I don't blame you for being upset about the marker being broken. I hope your daddy was able to fix it. If he can, it will save youall a lot of money. How are you doing healthwise these days? Kathy.
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• United States
30 Sep 09
Hi Kathy: Thank you!! My brother did suffer a lot with his Cancer ordeal the chemo really made him so sick and he hated losing his hair most of all; he had a wig styled just like his old hair but in the end he didn't much care he either went around bald headed or wore a baseball cap which was so unusual for him, he was not into sports of any kind and never ever wore a hat of any sort until his cancer came along; No, the grave hasn't been fixed yet My Dad hasn't felt the greatest and he has had so many projects going on out at the farm its a mad dash to get it all done before the bad weather comes...(sigh)!! right now I could fall into bed myself I'm so beat been fighting with stinky diarrhea today and yesterday, gosh maybe I'll lose a pound or two (G)!! That's a hard way to lose weight...LOL! I'm so close to payout but I don't think I'm gonna make it again this month I would have to earn .98 cents today which is possible to do I've made over a $1.00 before in a days time but that was with DSL too..not dial up! and all I really really want to do is go lay down for awhile I'm so pathetic; hope your day is going well its a nice day here just took my dog for a short walk around the yard to do his "business" in case I do fall into bed for a spell. {{love & hugs to you}}
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@cyrus123 (6364)
• United States
1 Oct 09
You really have had a rough time here lately with being sick so much, haven't you? Bless your heart! I hope it won't be much longer before you will be feeling better. Yes, cancer is very scary, that's for sure. I just hope I never get it but then, you never know. Ever since daddy had prostate cancer in 1978, I have been going for my yearly every year. I had to have my refrigerator worked on today. Other than that, I've had a pretty good day. It just got to where it wasn't cooling like it should have been and I was concerned that I was going to have to get a new one. I didn't know how I was going to be able to afford one. However, it just turned out that the defrost timer wasn't working properly and he's going to have to order a part for the refrigerator. He fixed the timer, though. I thought what he did today was going to cost me an arm and a leg but it didn't and for that I'm thankful. On top of that, I had water problems about two weeks ago and I was without water for a day or two. What happened was, lightning struck a valve on the timer on my water heater. I started some discussions about this and I will send you the links to them when I get a chance. This happened on Monday and the plumber came around 4:30 or 5:00 on Tuesday. He had to bypass the timer in order for me to have water. However, I had to get another plumber out here on Friday of that week to replace the solenoid valve and work on the transformer on the water heater. The first plumber who came out said he didn't work on timers. It's all so confusing to me. These workmen, especially plumbers, tell me so much until it's hard for me to remember it all and they talk so above my head, if you know what I mean. It's just been a big mess. Talk about being charged an arm and a leg, this cost me a pretty penny! I'm just gald it's all fixed and I hope I don't have any more problems like this for a while. Kathy.