HELP! I'm drowning (update) - A reunion story
By Daddy Neil
@neildc (17238)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
September 23, 2009 3:51am CST
About three months ago, i posted a discussion about this topic. This is all about my step-daughter's schooling. Because I am already in debt with a some people, I thought that I will just let her stop her studies.
Here are some responses that I've got from my friends.
[i]Let her look for a job at night so she can continue to go to school at day time.
Let my wife look also for a job or start a business to support the finances.
Apply for scholarship or school aid from politicians.
Apply for student loans.
Let her just stop.[/i]
Well, I appreciate everyone who responded to that discussion. And to update you all, here is the new story. A good news.
While we are searching for her father for many years, I am here to also look for some help to at least they can reunite. Or at least they can see each other again, after almost 15 years.
And so this Sunday, we received a call from the province. That her father is in town.
And they met on Monday. The very first time in almost 15 long years.
Well, I am so happy for my step-daughter. And I am also, happy for my whole family.
That's because, he promised to shoulder everything, until she graduate.
For me, at least, it lessens the burden.
So, do you have some story about REUNIONS?
How long did it take for them to get reunited?
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6 responses
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
I'm happy for your step-daughter. At least her father will do his obligation and I think she deserves it. It is sad when children are just forsaken by their parents isn't it
? I hate parents who do not care about their obligation and I would like to commend the father for being man enough to do his duty
! I am also happy for your friend because at least you've been alleviated of this burden. I hope everything about this setup turns smoothly through and through!
? I hate parents who do not care about their obligation and I would like to commend the father for being man enough to do his duty! I am also happy for your friend because at least you've been alleviated of this burden. I hope everything about this setup turns smoothly through and through!@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi salonga.
yes it's true, we can't help it but to hate them when they don't even bother to look for their loved ones when they separate ways. maybe they have other important things to attend to or there are more important things who needs their attention. what we can do is to look for remedies, to get over the problems.
at least for now, i can say that we can be less burdened with regards to her schooling. i have hope he will not again disappear suddenly or at least if he leaves, he will wait for his daughter to finish school.
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
23 Sep 09
Hi Neil, I'm very glad to hear he is willing to take his part in financing support for his daughter, if he indeed follows through on this promise. Beware they could be empty ones, as I know to my cost.
That aside though is anyone having to finance a 15 year olds schooling, are you having her privately educated or does education acutally cost there, or not meant for girls. You raise one of the suggestions you heard of student loans, who has to get student loans for a child of that age. What is the sitution regarding school funding there Neil. Sorry if you've already covered this one.
@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi thea.
with the daughter, she is now 17 years old and she was only 2 when her parents separated. so that's 15 years, almost, without them seeing each other. that's a long long time they never see again so they were so excited to meet again.
privately or personally, i shoulder everything with regards to school finances. i have in-laws, her aunties and uncles, sometimes give her pocket money, especially when i have nothing left to give her.
i know there are some agencies that can ask help for her school needs or some tha offers scholarships to students like her. but i wasn't sure of how to approach those people and my step-daughter is also a little shameful to do it for herself.
student loan and others i mentioned in my original post are just suggestions of those who responded to my previous post.
@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Sep 09
free education here are only for elemetary and high schools. but for colleges, we should pay everything. unless you are an scholar.
@embattledsparkle (1072)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I'm glad that she won't have to worry about school now but sad that her father took so long to see her. At least he is trying to make up for it and she can have her schooling and you and your wife won't have to worry as much.
@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 Sep 09
yes, that's true sparkle, at least he is trying to make-up for the years they were not together for that long time. and it's good that it at least lessen the burden of our living, at least for her schooling.
how about your reunion story, do you have one to share?
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 09
neildc I am so glad for you that her father is going to'
shoulder everyting until she graduates .that will help
you immensely. I dont have any stories about reunions as
so much of my immediate is deceased and I have a ton of younger'cousins living scattered all over the uS.They'
mostly do not even know me, @neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 Sep 09
hi patsie. thanks my friend. well, at least, he can make-up for the long lost year they were apart.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Sep 09
i have a doosey
i had to leave my second husband for terribley beating me way back in '78. i was so scared of him, i lost track of him. our daughter was 4yrs old. she just found the scoundrel 3yrs ago when she was 35yrs. so, i guess thats 30 some years before they reunited. of course he claims not to remember beating me
but oh well, its gone long time ago.
i had to leave my second husband for terribley beating me way back in '78. i was so scared of him, i lost track of him. our daughter was 4yrs old. she just found the scoundrel 3yrs ago when she was 35yrs. so, i guess thats 30 some years before they reunited. of course he claims not to remember beating me but oh well, its gone long time ago.@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Sep 09
when my wife and her ex met again after almost 15 years, he was trying to say that my wife was the one to blame for their separation. he also don't remember having another woman or women, which was the reason my wife left her.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
Congratulations and We are happy for your Step-Daughter, it's really nice of his dad to cover up for her schooling. am sure you're going to save a lot more now than ever. weel,, thank to him he was able shoulder part of that expense that should have been his real responsibility long ago@neildc (17238)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi buddy.
thanks but i don't think i should thank him for doing that, in the first place, it's his obligation. maybe it should be him thanking me for caring and taking over his responsiblities. i think my wife had told him that way when they met. because he was the one who made the reasons for their break-up. but i am fine now, and i think i just did my best to cater their needs, when no one, no father was there for them.
