ME....Myself thoughts at Sixty years

Thiruvananthapuram, India
September 23, 2009 5:13am CST
Just at the doorstep of passing on to the 60th year of existence/an assessment of ME,my,mine,myself would only picture out a sorry state of existence all these years.Miseries,misgivings,bad luck,misfortunes,failures,shortcomings,infirmities,weaknesses,disappointments,frustration
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
23 Sep 09
We all go through that. I've got two years on you and had all those thoughts. But I can't let that all get to me or I would be a very depressed person. I just wake up every morning and realize I'm still alive so there must be something I can do to smile or make someone else smile.
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@savak03 (6692)
• United States
23 Sep 09
Surely there were some good things, too, in all those 60 years. You might feel better if you counted your blessings instead of what you see as your failings.
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• United States
23 Sep 09
You've got the downside covered, dear suk. Next time you make an assessment, think of successes, skills, qualities, strengths, victories, joys and abundance. In life, we have a multitude of experiences -- both positive and negative. I think you'll feel better if you focus on the things that have turned out well.
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@dragon54u (31627)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I think you're being too hard on yourself. Have you had any friends in your life that have enjoyed your company, been married, sired children, brought a smile to someone's face or made your parents proud at some point? Life is made up of little victories, big disasters, moments of joy interspersed with months of misery. We are taught to expect too much and yet if we don't expect enough, we will get very little. If you've influenced anyone to smile, or given to someone freely and with a glad heart you're life is successful. If you're loved by someone, you've done something. And if you've done none of these, you have another 20-30 years in which to strive for them. Make a difference in another life and yours will have been successful.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 09
I hope I won't have to face the dilemma of misfortunes when I reach my 60 years of life. It is sad that you have to feel miserable at this time but never give up. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless you decide not to rise again. You still have many more fruitful years to make up for your losses. Defeat never comes to people until they admit it. Keep on trying and surely the above will take pity on you and pave the way for you to taste the sweet success of your labor. Your success will be measured by your willingness to keep on trying. Anyone can quit. Have the courage to live.
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
23 Sep 09
I am this way every time the number 0 falls behind my birthday also. Please just look at the future as a time to excel in all that you wanted to do.You are at your peak in life and can do whatever it is that you choose.Enjoy this time do not morn the past as ,I have found nothing brings it back,just bad memories.You could try to think of the positives of your age and start enjoying life for you and yourself. Your happiness depends on what you make of it. I realize things are much easier said then done but they do work.Do something you have never done,switch your social scene anything to enjoy the best parts of your life.Best of luck have a happy future it will be whatever you choose to make it.
@Sreekala (33033)
• India
23 Sep 09
Hi It is really sorry to learn that bad story of yours. Why you are disappointing so much. I agree you are saying from your experience. I think at the age of sixty we became a kid again. There is a saying in our place ‘six and sixty is equal’. You need lot of love and care at this age from children and grandchildren. I don’t know anything about your family but now the trend is, at the old people are left unattended or nobody there to care. I hope there is nothing serious problem at your end and you can look forward on the positive side.
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
23 Sep 09
That is so sad....There must have been good times, positive things in your life...I believe in positive thinking...and having happy thoughts... we all have bed things happening in our lives at times but we must think above them, we should realize nonw of us are here for ever and we must make the most of every second..sometimes helping other people can make us feel better...I learnt a lot by volunteering in a Nursing Home for 6 years...gee I hope you can start feeling better about your life...remember it is a gift that was given to you and when you start thinking negatively try stopping yourself and put out into the universe that you want to be happy and you are going to be happy... Good luck my friend...
@Canellita (12051)
• United States
23 Sep 09
How unfortunate. Perhaps you should ask your friends and family members to write what they like or love most about you or what their favorite memory is. Maybe then you can find something positive to reflect on from your sixty years.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
23 Sep 09
With 6 decades of life, I am sure there are more than just what you listed. Take out the negatives and I am sure you see more than listed.... Your free and easy childhood, your first time, your puppy love, your lovely family, etc. etc. etc. These are perhaps forgotten because of the focus on the negatives. Often forgotten are the little thingies which can bring forth great fond memories. Look into the mirror, smile at yourself. Life is still wonderful despite the waterfalls.
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@derek_a (10894)
23 Sep 09
I hit 60 two years ago this October and whilst I have had some real trials and tribulations, I am fortunate in being able to view my life positively as a learning experience. I have had a share of failures and successes and at 58, was shocked to discover that I was having a heart attack late one night, when I was convinced that what I was experiencing was a stomach bug. After this I was put on statins, only to find that I was experience muscle pain that now seems to be a permanent experience when I awaken each morning. Through my daily zazen (Zen meditation), I have managed to transcend each trial and as strange as it may seem, I would say that if I had my time all over again, I wouldn't have it any different. I am sorry to hear of what you have experienced, and I hope that you can begin to feel different soon. As I therapist myself, I know we can't just turn our feelings and opinions on and off, but I have found, that when I allow myself to accept and observe my problems without trying to "pull myself together", I have always managed to transcend the negativity. - Derek
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• India
19 Oct 09
Hello my friend sukumar794 Ji, Well, I am sorry to dis-appoint you but I do not think ven at this age of 65 (self) and 72 (hubby). I always think of those wonderful moments, when my hubby used to take me on cycle in front as he did not have carrier in his bke. Why to thinkn all those things. They are now history. let's remember good days. I never think in negative sense. Let's always thinka bout those happy moments in our life. May God bless You both and have great time.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
20 Oct 09
Really thankful for your nicest of all responses.Persistent problems....health wise,money wise,fortune wise all drag me into thinking in such a vein.sorry.
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• India
20 Oct 09
Hello my friend sukumar794 Ji, It is just great that I am lucky to have been acknowledged and appriciated in form of BR. It will add another feather, if you change your thinking, your total attiyude in life will change and you will find everything around you as plaesing to you. May god bless You and have a great time.
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
You shouldn't be so hard on ourself. I am 52 years old and starting all over again since I left my husband last year. I started again with nothing. I moved to another city with one suitcase and a borrowed airplane ticket. But I am working really hard to get ahead and it is a slow progress but it will come. It has come a long way but not far enough yet. I have made a lot of bad choices in my life also but we hopefully learn from those mistakes and they make us a better person.
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• Thiruvananthapuram, India
26 Sep 09
That was quite a lot of tribulation you have encountered. I feel as if I have to cultivate a thinking whereby I should be hoping for good things to dawn.Thanks.
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
26 Sep 09
My glass in half full, not half empty.
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@carpenter5 (6785)
• United States
12 Oct 09
awww...friend I am so sorry that you feel like that about yourself. Can you not think of anything positive that you've done in 60 years you've been on this earth? Did you get married and stay married? Do you have children, or grandchildren? Adopted a dog or a cat from the animal shelter? Given money to the Salvation Army at Christmas time to help children have a nice holiday?
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@jdyrj777 (6538)
• United States
25 Sep 09
That sounds like some pretty negitive thinking. Im sure there were some possitives along the way. Focus on the possitive and not on the negitive.
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@jashoaf (298)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Sukumar, you make me sad! Are you having a bad day, or do you really see your life this way? I am so sorry you feel so down. I am 52, so just behind you a little. I have had a lot of stuff as well; our neighbors call us the "Crisis Couple" because something always seems to be going wrong or on the verge of catastrophe. I have found it helps to spend a little time each day picking out only the good things that happened this day. There is always something - I remember days where the best thing I could think of was "at least I didn't burn dinner!" It's still something. Gradually, as I thanked God for whatever blessings I could find, I began seeing more and more. It helps a lot to be able to focus on the good stuff. I hope you can find something good, just for today, that will start a new day for you tomorrow. God bless -
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@tcup345 (360)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Yeah, I understand the shock of a new decade of age. Thirty didn't hurt, forty was a little painful, fifty was total shock, it was the realization that the majority of my life is over, I'm looking at the other end of life--the end of my life. Gloomy stuff. I imagine that hitting sixty will be even more painful, my mother and grandmother didn't live to see seventy. Rather than focus on the failings of your life, reflect on the joys and successes. Think about the silly things you did that had you laughing so hard you peed your pants. Sure you aren't a millionaire, but do you remember the very first car you bought? Remember how proud you were and how you kept it clean? You have a lot of good, fun, joyful memories and I'll bet you've had a far better life than you are looking at during your number sixty shock. Listen to some of your favorite songs, past and present and get lost in the music, it's a great way to meditate and put things into perspective. Joy and blessings to you.
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• Indonesia
24 Sep 09
I am sorry about your life story.Try possitive thinking in your life. Do the best yours. I hope you can solve your problem
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Most people don't manage to make it through life, sukumar, without their fair share of misfortune. What is most notable when you have not had an easy life is the fact that we persevere in spite of all the bad times. If you show me 10 people who have lived to reach their sixtieth year, I'm willing to bet that 9 of them have some regrets. Life isn't only about the good things. We don't give ourselves nearly enough credit, but our worth is evident in those whose lives we have touched.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
24 Sep 09
My, you are a sad soul aren’t you? I’m sorry that at this point in your life you have to feel so miserable. I have often felt like you do but, I know this sounds cliché, there has to be some good things in your life, there surely must be at least one positive thing that you can be grateful for. When we get depressed it is so easy just to look at what is missing from our lives and the trick is to turn it around and see what we do have to be thankful for; not an easy thing to do but worth a try because over time your mind will change and you may just feel more positive. What you must do is put the past behind you, look for the good in your life; it is there if you look hard enough and vow not to ever give up and start by making today the first day of the rest of your life.
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