Do you under or over estimate things you dont understand?
By Sourceseeker
@Sourceseeker (1197)
United States
September 23, 2009 5:15pm CST
I heard a friend recently say never underestimate things you dont understand. Thats te story of my life. Im 5'6 and non-white. Others stereotype of me has both help and in many cases hurt me.
With women of course it hurt most women want a man tall than them and crazy me I like a woman as tall or taller.
But also I always knew there were other features I could use in life naming my brain and my passion. My passion will allow to continue to fight and continue to try and not settle.
Many people have tried to iintimidate me because of my size or sometimes they could ctch me in a depression and get the better of me.
But I have continued to fight through all of it.
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@loganirado (249)
• Brazil
23 Sep 09
I often overestimate things I don't understand, since I always try to find out more about it before giving my conclusion. Prejudice is so not cool.
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@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
24 Sep 09
wrote new discussion about stereotyping and prejudice. Grammar was bad on this one sorry. Its human nature to be bias. we have to be very conscious and aware to not be stereotypical its quicker and easier.
@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
Hi sourceseeker, well I guess underestimating as well as overestimating things are a common mistake by a lot of people. Mostly because they either haven't tried it or have no knowledge of it. In your case, haven't known you yet as a person. But outer appearance only matter at first, in my opinion. Since there is nothing else to base any judgments to. But once you start getting along and finding out a lot of common things and interest you both like, that's where everything change. People you judge you just because you're shorter are people you shouldn't be wasting your time with.
By the way, its funny that you have a thing for taller women.lol I guess you're always up to the challenge huh.. hehe
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
24 Sep 09
Your right about getting to know someone then make a judgement but we choose who we will get to know. We choose who we will choose who we will let close enough to learn from. For instance this discussion was interesting enough for you to have responded to but would you have responded if I was on My space or Black planet or Planet out. Would you have resonded if I said the same words in person in exactly the same tone and you saw who I was.
Some will say because I said mySpace Im probably a teen, or because I used Black planet I must be black or because I mentioned Planetout I must be Gay.
Others people opinion has alot to do with limiting oportunities but there are also opportunities using stereotyes to your advantage.
@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
24 Sep 09
Hi sourceseeker, well like I said people who makes their judgment base only from your appearance or the people who wouldn't try to get to know you just because of how you look are people you shouldn't be wasting your time with. These are narrow minded people. We may not be that close yet and I may not know you that well yet but I'm pretty sure you deserve someone way much better than that. But finding the right one or even just someone you could connect is really hard sometimes. But if you give up then it's gonna be more impossible for you to find that one, right?
And by the way, I would have responded to your discussion whether I saw this from a different site, if it caught my eye. That's just how I am. I don't want to judge people simply because I don't want them judging me. =)
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 09
hisourceseeker I try not to overestimate anyone or underestimate'anyone. I know by now that appearance is just appearance and doesnt tell us anything about the person in side. to me if I saw you and talked to you i would probably think for a person of your'build you are strong and healthy and able to take care of yourself
'in a jam.Using your brain is most commendable and preferable to your brawn anyway. good luck God bless.
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
24 Sep 09
wrote new discussion about stereotyping and prejudice. Too many mistakes inthis one. Everyone is prejudice to a ertain extent just by the culture we are raised in. We like to city better than the farm. We like SUV's and cant stand small foreign cars.
We like girls with pretty feet but cant stand big noses. We are all prejudiced about something. The question is do we grow out of it when we get further information or do we try to make the stereotype true?
@malamar (779)
• Canada
24 Sep 09
I never under estimate anything I don't know or understand, and that is especially true of people. I have never looked at the outside package to determine the worth of the gift inside. To do so, would only make me look foolish.
Passion and heart will win out everytime over exterior looks. It just seems like sometimes it takes longer and it aslo seems like sometimes you have to try harder. But in the end, the inner you will triumph.
@Sourceseeker (1197)
• United States
24 Sep 09
I lieve the inner will will out. Just got to keep fighting.
