how much can your body withstand?
@irisspeedy3xc (64)
United States
September 23, 2009 6:12pm CST
I being marry for four years now, and things are so stressfull that i sometimes wonder why i havent exploded yet. i have two very young boys one is three and the other one, they are very hyper. i also control the budget, and make sure the bills are pay in time. my husband is so stress from working 12 to 15 hour day that he bring work home. dont get nay help, i have to cook, get everything clean, take care of the kids, and at the same time worry about how much money there will be left for groceries after all the bills are paid. I also have to work on my relationship, to the point that having alot of arguments and is always about how there is never enough money. how he doesnt show any interest towards us because he comes from work, does work at home and goes to bed and the next day is the same thing over again. i am a flexible person, but there is so much i can handle, and he works so hard and long hours and doesnt get paid that much and no wonder we are having financial problems that is causing our relationship to go down the gutter. stress and worries makes you look older then you actually are, which is very sad. And because of all the money problems, there isnt any to further education, or have some fun once in a while.
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@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
25 Sep 09
irisspeedy, I know how you feel, I went through the same, also, my wife and I!
It's not easy, and as vain as we tried, we didn't make it!
And I don't know if anything I say can even help you at all, but it is easy to look back and see where we went wrong, and look at things that I would have done different!
The important thing at this point is to reinforce your relationship with your husband, because in reality he is the one that is going through this with you, and he also needs you to get through this! You have got to make this a top priority, because your future depends on it! Do anything you have to, to bring you two together and work together to overcome these stressful and overwhelming bad economical times!
Your two children also depend on you,also, to bond and work together! Part of the reason they are so hyper, is because they can sense, the trouble, the stress, and the distance between you and your husband!
That;moment in time when you fell in love with your husband, bring it back, it is very important, or you are not going to make it!
Try to get over the stress if you can, because stress is merely the worrying you are doing over the way things are going! Stop worrying and take everything in stride, and work and fight back, instead! This will keep you from worrying!
Remember, try to close that gap that is between you and your loved one, even though you do all the work at home, and he works all those hours, it's up to you, and it's up to him, to help you in this!
@irisspeedy3xc (64)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Yeah I know, but alot harder than you think, i know i have to keep trying and learn how to deal with it. thanx for the advice.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
23 Apr 12
I can totally relate to you. I am mostly a SAHM but I do work outside the home for a few hours a week. But yes even being home is stressful with all that one has to worry about with running a home, budget and raising kids. Men don't realize that it can be stressful at home. Many think we sit here eating chocolate and ice cream in front of the tv all day.
