eeny meenie miney mo

I'm sure we all do this. There are a lot of times in life you don't want to have to make a choice. I get very analytical when this happens to me, I'm a just the fact Madam type and try to keep emotion out of the mix.

I'm more the opposite. I tend to give up too easily most of the time, then later regret giving up. Today I'm seriously debating pulling my son out of football because I'm so frustrated with it! The coach told him he can't play in their scrimmage tomorrow because he "missed" 4 practices. Well he was actually present for 3 of those practices, he just couldn't participate because he had stitches in his finger. Now it wasn't my choice or his choice not to participate, it was the school. They couldn't allow him to play with stitches. So we got them removed so he could play, but because of those 3 days coach says he can't play in the scrimmage!! So now I'm just ticked! I mean, I'm returning bottles and cans for gas money so I can pick him up from school everyday cause he has to stay until 5pm, and I had to do that those 3 days he couldn't play. Why am I going through all this? You know!! Well, I'm not really pulling him out, it's just how I feel right now, I'm so aggravated! Thanks for letting me rant.

I try to get all problems behind me as quick as i can. I hate things haanging over me that need to be done. I hate to see people putting things off, drives me nuts.

It makes me think of all the times where I have not had the guts to say no to someone and then spent all my time avoiding them because I did not want to do what I said I would do! It is the passive aggressive way of dealing with things. In some cases I did not even have the choice to say no because some things just have to be done and all I did was procrastinate and avoid the inevitable. It is better to face things head on in the first place. It is knowing all too well what needs to be done and in some cases it is walking away and all the hard stuff that comes with it. Doing anything else is living in denial.

Yes, I often facing this kind of problem, not able to say "yes" or "no" at the very first time. For example, someone asking me to borrow him money, all I want to do ( if I don't have any or don't want to lend him ) is just telling him I can't. But I just say that I would inform him later bla bla...eventually still I have to tell him the decision, That isn't easy either. So now, I learn to tell the fact as soon as possible, not delaying things, because it would make he or she who get the negative answer feeling upset even angry. Once my friend angry with me when he got negative answer from me after a week, he told me if I refuse him sooner, he would ask another friend to help him. So, just beware of this delaying tactics, it would end up by upsetting our friends or relatives.