Hey Guys, I Realy Need Some Help!

United States
September 24, 2009 8:54pm CST
okay, hey guys. I have recently been in a relationship with this girl for about a year, and we recently broke up. However, I really can't get her out of my mind. I want to talk to her every day. But every time we do we just end up fighting. So I've decided to chill for about two weeks and see what happens. I truly miss her every day. I can't get her out of my head. Can any one let me know the best way to win back her heart. Thanks Guys.
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21 responses
• China
25 Sep 09
hi bbpstudios,since you want to talk to her every day but you are not stay with her now,try to write down the words what you want to talk to her,after two weeks,send the love letter to her,when she get it,she will be moved easily and you both can start a new relationship again.
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• United States
25 Sep 09
Interesting, I like that. I think I will try it.
• China
27 Sep 09
waiting for your good news.
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
Sometimes, women break up with their man to see if they will stand strong and show that he is willing to win her back. Silly as it may seem, this is true. For you to find out if this is how she is acting, remember the things you used to do to make her happy. If you used to surprise her with flowers, do it again. If you used to write her notes, write her new notes telling her being without her made you realize how much she matters to you. Try to recall the sweet moments you had together. Take photos of the places where you two were at your happiest and post them on her doorstep, locker, or anywhere she can have access to. Doing these things take a lot of courage. It is risky as well. If you find your woman rushing back to you after doing all the things that will remind her how you used to be good for each other, take some time to sit down. And talk calmly about how things went wrong. Accept your mistakes and open up about how you feel you lacked and hope that she will do the same with your honestly. It always takes two to pinpoint the weak areas of the relationship and also two to make a compromise to make it work out. If on the other hand, the girl rejects all the things you have done for her. Move on with your life. Start writing your feelings on paper. Start thinking about the things you used to love when she wasn't part of your life yet. Start considering planning without including her into your plans. Destiny is the path that we make, if she finds her way back to you in the future, she made a choice to come back and you are truly destined to be together. If this does not happen, hope for better things to come.
• United States
25 Sep 09
I like your advise friend. It hurts a little but I do like it. Thank you.
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 09
hai bbpstudios, why not spend some time with your friends, being lonely is not advisable, especially after broke up with your ex. learn to share your story and trust me it will lift the burden off your chest..it's not necessarily for you to throw away all those things related to her, maybe you should put it else way, sufficiently in a place where you cannot see them..it's a hard time indeed, but you will get over it.. :)
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• United States
25 Sep 09
Thanks friend but this doesn't really help. I want the best ways to win her back, not the best ways to forget her. There won't be another girl like her in my life, and I messed up. She's like the bed I sleep in, or the roses that I plant in my garden. I love her.
@panget20 (76)
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
Hello! Well with regards to your questions, first you must learn the virtue of patience and perseverance. It's not enough that you want her back, maybe you should ask if she wants to get back to you too, it's a two way thing, you can't just pursue things because you desperately want it, always remember that it takes two to tango. If you really love her, ask her what are the things that cam make her happy. And if you are one of those things then good for you but if not then you should learn to accept it, truth sometimes hurts a lot but always remember that if you love a person, it should be unconditional. All the best and goodluck!
• United States
25 Sep 09
wow, yes, I see what you mean.
@Shooyao (156)
• China
25 Sep 09
I can understand your situation so deeply my friend. From some points of my view ,you'd better change yourself and calm down to see this thing.I think if something happened like this you and she all have mistake. If there have another guy to break your love .You should depend on her decision to make your decision whether you continue your love or not. No matter what have happened ,love is something about two people ,All of you have responsibility to protect it .If one of you feel he or she not worth to protect this love,in my opinion ,the other one shout out this game. Never make your love without dignity . Good luck to you my friend ,hope you have a good future! MSN: shooyao@Hotmail.com
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• United States
25 Sep 09
I never thought of it that way before, thank you friend.
@BStuff (497)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Heres the thing. I feel so bad for you (not in a pity way but a I've been there heartbroken way) Some girls want a guy who will fight for them. Who will run in when they think its over and say I love you and miss you every day I can't live without you. That is what most girls want but not all girls. If she's the other type of girl their is not much you could do here except tell her how you feel and that you want to be with her. What are you fighting over? You need to ask yourself are we fighting because our relationship is unfufilled or are we fighting over stupid little unimportant stuff like pride, or selfishness. If its the ladder you need to talk to her about how little things arent worth fighting over in the end. If its the first thing your probably best off letting it go. If it is over. It's going to hurt for awhile but every day it will get easier and you will get better. Everything happens for a reason right?
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• United States
25 Sep 09
I really miss her. And now, it's like she doesn't even want me around. She's always mad at me. You Know?
• United States
25 Sep 09
Sorry, I am not a guy but I felt compelled to respond to this. I think it is best to take a cool down period and write down all the reasons you are in love with this girl. Once you have those reasons on paper it might be easier to see why you are fighting. Are you trying to change her or vice versa? I have seen a lot when a man tries to change the very things he is in love with. Good luck with your lady friend.
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• United States
25 Sep 09
kk thank you friend.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
25 Sep 09
You have gotten some excellent replies to this question, and a lot of food for thought. I would only add one more. The cool-down period is an absolute must.You absolutely MUST stay away from her for awhile. Then, try to analyze what you want from this relationship. why do you want her so bad? "I can't live without her" can stem from either love or lust. Love is worth fighting for. Lust isn't. If it's really love, then analyze how you show love. Love is giving, forgiving, and patient. It is not self-centered or demanding. What's best for her? What are her needs and wants? If you love her, this is what comes first. If she feels the same, the two of you will work it out. If not, you will not accomplish anything by winning her back except more misery.
• United States
25 Sep 09
Hmmm... hurtful, but I understand just what you mean friend. Thank you friend.
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
25 Sep 09
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be hurtful, just blunt. Too often we allow ourselves to be ruled by emotion, and love is about the strongest one there is. We were given brains so we could use them, not park them till we have more time. Too many couples get together on emotion only, and never think through what they are doing or feeling. If it is real love, then you can wait for her. Let her know that, let her know you have her best interests in mind, and then give her space to come to you. If she feels real love as well, then you two will be unstoppable. If either of you do not feel that way, the relationship is doomed no matter what you do. Good luck, and God bless.
@lengzki (125)
• United States
25 Sep 09
Check her weakness and try a new strategy so you could win her heart again. Talk to her and ask what she wants from your relationship. Now, if she wants space and really want to move on then I guess it's best to just let her go.
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hm, I understand friend.
• Pakistan
25 Sep 09
very interesting it seems that you people are in true love fighting on little things is a part of life of every successful couple and its gives one tolerance to bear each others annoying habits while living together You say that you want to talk to her everyday while knowing that it all ends up fighting and you do it again n again that's really good In this way you people will be able know about each other more
• United States
25 Sep 09
Wow, I never thought about it that way friend. I really like your response that you. This has really upped my spirit. Thank you.
@kutedarsu (254)
• India
25 Sep 09
Be as honest as possible, tell her you miss her badly. not confessing that will add to your woes. so the key is to sound mature and romantic at the same time. as if you have understood the depth of the relationship after the days of seperation, and how badly you need her. im sure it will make a woman think.
• United States
25 Sep 09
Hmm... A perfect method of seeming strong and confident as a man, and at the same time making her feel warm, and taken care of. Good deal friend. Thank you.
• India
25 Sep 09
I know one thing that is time heals. Just wait for some time until she has got you out of her mind. Then you could stop telephone conversations for some time and surprise her with a little gift like a huge bunch of roses or a soft toy and decide to meet personally for some time. Just wait until she feels like calling you and talking to you . I know this might be difficult for you. You will just have to concentrate on your job or studies, whatever it is that you are doing until she comes back into your life. "No gain without Pain" buddy!!
• United States
25 Sep 09
Thanks lots friend. This helps. A large amount of people have given me this similar advice.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
25 Sep 09
The problem seems to be that you both are at loggerheads. One of you will have to give way and let the other take centerstage. This again may not be feasible as there is sure to be some difference of opinion again. The best thing is to let it drift for a while, so that both of you can reassess each other and try to make the relationship work. If you think of going back and trying to win her again at short notice, it may backfire. So give some time for things to cool down. Best of luck!
• United States
25 Sep 09
This is the advice that a lot of people are telling me. I think it may just work. I just wish she wasn't so stubborn, you know. God, I love her though.
@debbie_19 (228)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
25 Sep 09
Just be sincere and you may try to court her again just like the first time you did. Before you approach her you must know for yourself why things have ended. Acceptance and understanding is the key for you to get her back. Prove to her that your really worth loving again
• United States
25 Sep 09
Not quite what I'm looking for, but I'll take this to heart. The principal is the same. Thanks friend. You've just lifted my spirits a bit.
@pillusch (1148)
• Mexico
25 Sep 09
You haven't really broken up with the girl. The thing is, couples break up, they say 'That's it', and then go on hating each other (I am not referring to your situation exclusively here). As long as there is ANY nemotion left, be it positive or negative, people continue to be in a relationship. Hate, for example, is just the other side of the coin of love. To get her out of your system, you would either have to fall in love with another girl, or just stick it out, until she actually leaves your head. It's probably gonna take time. I'm still in relationships, in that sense, with women I haven't seen for over ten years. On the other hand, I have very fond memories of my first marriage, and THAT relationship I consider finished. I'd actually would like to see her again, go over old memories together. Good luck to you.
• United States
25 Sep 09
Thanks friend, but that doesn't help me. I need advice from experienced people about how to win back her heart. But I appreciate this, and if it doesn't work out between us, then I will take your advice.
@hug14me (123)
25 Sep 09
Hello Friend, It's very painful when you feel more for someone then they do you. What do you fight about? Who starts it. Why do you feel time will help? You must deal with the issues that cause you to fight. They may be little things but you gotta get them cleared up before you can handle the tougher stuff. There are people who love each other but they just cant live together. You have to live for yourself. Sorry, but my advice would be to work on the little things and then it makes room for the bigger issues. Its like moving the junk out of the way so you can move the furnature in.
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
why do you always end up fighting? think anout it and sort it out - properly.
• Philippines
25 Sep 09
If you want to win her back give her the space...that way she can think things through and youncan think things through as well, because if you keep on talking to her now and you end up fighting it will just make the situation worst, which may result to the end of the relationship for good, also think about the reson of your fights and contemplate, if you can make way for the things that make her angry then don't do it. If you really love the girl, you have to be patient and wait for her to be ready. One important key to a long and happy relationship is communication and trust.
• China
25 Sep 09
Disappointment in love is a painful thing, but i belive that you can forget something along the time. She don't love you again , you should face up to reality.Now you do anything that have no meaning,and i belive another gilr is wating for you . Come on!
• Indonesia
25 Sep 09
That is love. Do not blind with love. You must try find what matter make you and your girls fighting? If you know that, try to find win - win solution. If that can not get solution, I hope you find other girls my friend. You remember with these song "NO WOMEN NO CRY... OOOO... NO... WOMEN NO CRY" It's oke, you must get the root of your fighting first, than you can solve that problem