Favoritism, are you observe such thing in the family?

Philippines
September 27, 2009 9:33am CST
I am actually avoid that, I want to make it fair for my kids even one of them plays and shows more talents and closeness to us, favoritism promotes negative effects to make our child active, what should you do about it?
4 responses
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Favoritism gives negative effect to children. There are times that they become boastful because they believe that they have someone to fight and lean on at all time. Furthermore, jealousy between siblings will surely occur and this might lead to worsen the situation as time goes by.
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Thats true, it creates jelousy on the part of the child, so we dont have to practice favoratism is even though one of your kids gain more attention on your part, such thing can create faction among your siblings and the worst thing is they carry that word when they grow up or mabe can pass it thru thier own family and so on.. thanks friend for your comments...
29 Sep 09
I have seen this, when i was growing up, and it does have a negative effect. I just make all my kids equal, no matter what.
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
true,we have to be equal in perception regarding treatment in our kids, giving same sympathy promotes better build up on nurturing kids, also love tightens it. thanks, have a nice day..
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Guilty as charged. Hard as it may to show to your kids that you're fair, you really can't avoid to show favoritism. Besides kids also need to feel that their special. Best thing to do is make up for it some other time.
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
Hello! In my experienced as parent, I can't call it favoritism. It is just more convenient for parents to call one of her their kids who can easily understands and accommodating, unlike those kids who are uncooperative and inconsiderate. Children who do their part in the house and not silly tend to be more closer to the parents because of such traits that they possessed. Favoritism in the raring of children should be avoided as not to create faction among the siblings. But, I don't think there are parents who wants to practice this. To the children, please don't misinterpret your parents. Do your part as you are told by your parents or even without your parents telling what to do, just cooperate with them and in every undertaking that your family is doing. That is for the good of the whole family. Always participate whatever plans that your parents wanted to do for them to also feel special and important to you. And same with the parents, always involve your children in every endeavor that you want to undertake for them also to feel the same way you want them to be. It is important for each member of the family to have the feeling of belongingness, wanted, secured, recognized and appreciated. Both parents and children should always discussed things together for them to understand each other. Explain why these things happened and how it should be taken, and done for the good of everybody.