...and they say that the kids don't listen!
By Humbug25
@Humbug25 (12540)
September 28, 2009 7:38am CST
So today I sent my son in with a note asking his teacher to help him find his jumper at school, explaining that I was unable to come and speak to her myself due to my recent operation. Later today the phone rang but as I cannot speak right now I have to leave it to the answering service to pick the call up for me. I hasten to add that the message on my answer phone says that due to an operation I am unable to speak so please leave a message or call back after 4pm when my son will be home from school and able to take the call. So what does his teacher do? She leaves a message asking me to pop in for a chat after school or she will call back after 4pm to talk to me!! Arghhhh how many times do I have to tell her?
Do you find that sometimes people just don't listen?
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@malamar (779)
• Canada
2 Oct 09
Our primary and middle schools came up with a pretty good way to get past the lack of communications happening. Every child has an agenda (a really fancy notebook), and all communications between the parent and teacher get logged into this book.
You get amazing results when it is all written clearly for everyone to see. It cleared up a lot of problems for both sides. This is also a place for the teacher to tell you that child A has to return his library books, child B has homework in math, etc.
Listening is the cornerstone of good communication, unfortunately not everyone, including teachers, is well versed in the practice of active listening.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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3 Oct 09
Hi ya malamar
This is a great idea when working properly. The first message I sent his teacher was in what they call their reading record book which goes between child, parent and teacher but you still have to read it properly don't you and she didn't seem to do that either!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
humbug25 yesindeed sometimes people just dont listen and dont'
get it. After Ihad explained at great length that my bank had credited me with ten dollars when i had deposited a hundred dollar bill. After all my talking the lady on the other end,an official of bof A said,oh then you want to contest that the amount in your account is wrong? duh, say what? what on earth did she think I had been saying for half an hour? seems that I had to give her certain info , all my bank numbers then she would write them down, file them and in a month they would decide if I was right or not, bah of course I was right, a hundred dollar bill does not just suddenly change into a ten dollar bill.well eventually about six weeks later ninety dollars was credited to my account.gggrrrr why so long?
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@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
29 Sep 09
I could tell you stories about the teachers that my son has had over the years. Sometimes a degree in education leaves out the most needed assset - common sense.
I wouldn't ever go back to those days of parenthood and children in school, they were the most frustrating ones I experienced.
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@Sweetchariot (1718)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yup! You betch there is more to come!
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Let me give you just one example of one of our experiences in his 3rd grade class...he couldn't find his spelling book, and the teacher sent a note home to tell us that he had to look for it - went thru his desk...even called the bus company to see if he left it on the bus. We did everything we could to find it, including given my son the speach that he had to take care of his school things to be sure he didn't lose them.
Well, come to find out, when they have to write in the book for homework, the teacher always collected the books the next day, to mark them, and return it them following day. You guessed it! She never returned his, and I only came across it when I went back into his classroom to look thru his desk for the 2nd time. I went to the window sill, where the teacher had some of her books there, and lo and behold, there was his, under all hers!
Let's just say I wasn't a happy camper, and demanded an apology from her to my son, for accusing him of losing it. Needless to say, he never got it!
And this was only in 3rd grade...there were many more days like these as he got higher and higher in school! Good luck!
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Let me give you just one example of one of our experiences in his 3rd grade class...he couldn't find his spelling book, and the teacher sent a note home to tell us that he had to look for it - went thru his desk...even called the bus company to see if he left it on the bus. We did everything we could to find it, including given my son the speach that he had to take care of his school things to be sure he didn't lose them.
Well, come to find out, when they have to write in the book for homework, the teacher always collected the books the next day, to mark them, and return it them following day. You guessed it! She never returned his, and I only came across it when I went back into his classroom to look thru his desk for the 2nd time. I went to the window sill, where the teacher had some of her books there, and lo and behold, there was his, under all hers!
Let's just say I wasn't a happy camper, and demanded an apology from her to my son, for accusing him of losing it. Needless to say, he never got it!
And this was only in 3rd grade...there were many more days like these as he got higher and higher in school! Good luck!1 person likes this
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
28 Sep 09
LOL..That sounds about right. I have been in that situation as well. I was telling my sons girlfriend about something to do with his son. She automatic got defensive because she thought that the ex was trying to cause problems. I had to tell her twice what I was saying. All she heard was the ex wife's name and went into over drive.LOL It was funny too. SO the ansewer to you question...No people dont listen, they hear one word and goes with that...@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I have run into this more times than I care to. The courts system is the worse by far. By the way, How are you feeling today? I hope that you heal quickly and back up on your feet. Have a nice day. Keep smiling, it does the body good..
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
30 Sep 09
either they dont listen, or they just want and are trying to get their way with you?
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@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Believe me! I really feel for you! It just drives me crazy. It happens to me ALL the time. Open your ears up people and LISTEN!
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@UtopianIdealist (1604)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Sometimes, people can repeat something 100% correct, and it is more of a misunderstanding then just not listening. "Oh, you meant you REALLY can't talk..."
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@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
29 Sep 09
I have encounter this so many time that i think i got use to them so now when i talk to people and find that they are not listening i will purposely talk to them in a very slow maner where they can mentally understand what i am saying as i think they need to take a longer time to digest what i am talking about. Its hard but sometimes you have no choice but to deal with this type of people.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Hi. Yes sometimes, people do not want what they hear so they insist on what they want. Funny thing is that even the teacher does not want to listen at all. I know that sometimes, it could really get in your nerves. Just take it in stride and ignore.
@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Unfortunately I have found that most people don't really listen. One of the worst offenders of this in my life is my mother. She has a hearing loss anyway but she gets mad if you raise you voice and tells you that you don't have to yell but then when she doesn't hear what you said, she sort of makes up what she "thinks" you said and it is always nasty and negative and it is NOTHING like what you said at all!
I'm surprised that a teacher wouldn't listen though or read your note. That's not a good sign for her students!
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Thanks @miamilady (4910)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Yep...some teachers are worse than the kids! I hear teachers complaining about their students not following instructions. I happen to volunteer in a school and I've seen examples plenty of times of TEACHERS not following instructions.
They really need to practice what they preach!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Well duh, for the teacher. I think the biggest part of the time people do not listen. That really aggravates me when they don't.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
29 Sep 09
Yes I find that too, people just hear what they want sometimes but they don't really hear what your saying even when you've made it so clear. but in your case I think that people are so use to you being able to speak that they just expect it out of habit from you, maybe you should try sending a letter to the school explaining agin why you can't speak with them during certain hours.
But I do know how frustrating it can be when people just don't hear you, believe me.
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@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hi humbug, hahaha that was really funny. It's hilarious to see someone so often to give instructions but couldn't follow a simple one herself or himself..
Or maybe he/she's just teasing you haha, or probably had her own operation as well on her ear.lol There's a lot of possibility but in the end the fact remains that he's not listening to whatever you just said at all.lol
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