I am a major idiot

ya know I'm gonna tell you the same thing I tell my gfs when they end up getting divorced or breakin up with a bf....First off you are NOT an idiot...and secondly, I dont know how long you were with your ex for..I dont know how long ago you two split up BUT I do know that if it was a long relationship and the break up is fairly new then you need to NOT date anyone....Get back to yourself....take time for you...reconnect with parts of yourself that maybe had been put on the back burner during your relationship with your ex and so on....and heal from the break up..especially if it was a long term relationship....believe it or not, its a loss in your life and you need to grieve, say good bye to that time and heal before you can move forward in life which includes dating...you said My ex was like that, wanted to leave me all the time. It seriously just must be me. that tells me two things....#1 you havent fully gotten through the break-up the cuase of it, the issues that were had etc and #2 there was damage done..for you to have convinced yourself that because your ex always wanted to leave you it must be you thats the cause says there's damage done..you need to heal that...

that's a shame - sorry to hear it. won't be your fault and i'm sure there will be another man along at some point. hopefully a more sensible one. don't feel bad about yourself at all - it's this man's issues not yours i'd guess. . maybe spend a bit of time building up your confidence and making yourself feel better about yourself - then you won't feel so insecure next time a man comes along.

hi spicysweetie dont let one guy get you down,maybe' in the long run you are better off without him. He might have been one of those guys who are so afraid of any commitment that at any interest at all from' a girl they will run fast as they can. you will meet someone one of these days soon who will not be like'that and you will be glad the other guy just dropped you 'like that. its not anything you have done so cheer up, you will meet Mr. right one of these days soon.

You're not an idiot... how long since your breakup? Did the two of you ever TALK directly about a relationship, not just some dates? Also, what was his situation, was he newly single, longtime single, what? How long were the two of you dating when this happened? It's not really fair to believe it's you if you haven't looked into the type of men you end up choosing or are attracted to. Did you leave your ex because you got tired of his attitude? Maybe it's not time yet... but at least start perking yourself up some, there are a lot of good people still left out there. Usually they find YOU when you aren't even looking. I know you're sad right now but try to look at your future. What sort of person do you want to be? What sort of person do you want to meet?

well its okay to feel bad but he is not into you so why waste time thinking about him. better move on and later you will find the right guy for you just don't rush.

Dear spicy, I can deeply touch your feeling, when a gilr like the boy, their feeling is coming from the heart, I can understand, especially you got a good relationship with him, and I knew it's difficult to forgot a person under this condition, however I think it exsits some reason that he break up with you. However cheer up, I think the predestined relationship is very important,don't be so expressed, I think you can find the good boy who forever belongs to you.

Are you putting off a 'needy' vibe? My husband said that is the single biggest thing that turns men off. Could that be it?

I don't think it's that you do it to men, I just think that you jump too fast. If I jumped on every guy who complimented me about my looks and my personality, I'd have a male harem trailing behind me. Get to know these guys, and become friends firat. That way if something happens, it happens mutually, not just because he complimented you.

I'm sorry you're feeling so low, spicy, but don't blame yourself and stop beating yourself up! You don't know what kind of emotional baggage this guy is carrying around. I know this is hard...it's unexpected and a blow to anyone's ego...but you can't let it drag you down. You can't possibly be THAT bad! You're obviously pretty and nice (he said so) and you've always seemed like an intelligent, caring person here, so...read my lips...it's...not...you. AND it's his loss! Keep your chin up and do some positive self talk. Also do something that you enjoy as soon as you possibly can. Personally, shopping and a chocolate binge works for me.

Please don't do this yourself he is an idiot.He does not leave you alone ,he sounds like he has something against woman ,or he is married,have you thought of that,could not cheat on his wife.It is not you ,it has happened to me as well.It is the way some men are,but not all are like that keep your eye out someone else will come along and this time have fun,you don't have to fall in love ,just get out there when you are ready and have some fun don't take anything seriously till you have been with someone for at least six months.You will be fine don't beat yourself up.

Don't waste your tears on someone who doesn't deserve it. Consider this an opportunity to find that perfect person who will truly love you. He left you which means he doesn't deserve you. You deserve a lot better than him. Get your self together and find someone who really loves you.