how do you practice patience with your kids?

Oh lord! I feel for you. there are really time that we can't help but lose our temper and do some things that I regret after. I come from the same back ground and it is a torture and a heartbreak. Here are my techniques: when I feel like yelling, I found it effective to use ways of interacting with my kid that allow me to release the intense energy in body at the same time as being fairly playful. I found that I need to verbalize and to do something active with my body to release the tension, so if I do it big and loud but silly and goofy it accomplishes the task. (its better to be known as a crazy fun mom than the notorious mom). I also am VERY VERY clear with myself that I don't want my kid to grow up in the fashion that I did. That helps me to stay on track even though it is REALLY trying at times. Also, I constantly check in with myself about how tired and hungery I am. If I can't handle him, or don't have any patience I take a few minutes or a short break to take care of me before I tackle the kid challange. The kids can play by themselves for a little while. lastly, I remind myself that most of my frustration comes from wanting to control him rather than guide him as my mom did. I have to remind myself that our Kids are here to explore and do things their way and it is our job to make sure they are safe in their actions. If I look into his eyes and feel how precious he is to me and remember why I welcomed him into this world in the first place, then i remember to lighten up and create a space for him to have a happy childhood.

Yes, my background contributed as well. I like your style. I think you will do just fine. Just remember to take one day at a time. I used to make sure I chose two times in the day to sit with each child. One was during the day sometime, maybe reading or playing or running outside with the dogs. Just me and that kid, with a hug somewhere in the middle. As teens they pooh-poohed it, but I noticed they still came for it. As adults they all call me often, at least once or twice a week, to fill me in on life and ask my opinions on things. It's pretty cool. The other time was at night. Before I wnet to bed I would visit each bedside while they were sleeping. I'd go over the days events and pray for that child and me. I concentrated on good stuff, rather than bad stuff, and looked for things that made me smile. I never knew any of them were aware of this practice, but on a recent visit in my oldest son's home, I noticed he does the same thing. That was pretty cool, too.

that's correct and it also applies to my kid. he won't listen if one is shouting. There’s nothing more frustrating than a kid who’s out to wind you up. Avoid mom meltdown with our stay-calm strategies. Most of us feel wound up by our children’s behavior at times – and occasionally we explode. Displace your anger with whatever works for you – vacuuming, singing along to a favourite song, doing exercise. Some parents find it useful to keep a journal to jot down how they feel after angry outbursts. This is a useful way to vent your emotion and also may be helpful in revealing any recurrent patterns in you and your child’s behaviors.

yes you need to be patient now with your kids. Being more patient generally requires learning some new skills. One of the tried and true methods is learning to count to ten, especially before responding to a child. In fact when we talk about children, we are usually using the word patience in the sense of not getting angry with kids when they challenge us, or when they delay accomplishing a task. With kids, counting to ten can save hot words from bubbling to the surface by refocusing energy briefly. Further, if one can’t control temper in that time, count to twenty, or thirty.

Being patient when trying to achieve your goals is a quality few people possess. It doesn`t matter if you are trying to gain muscle or lose fat, you must have the ability to be patient. In today`s world, everything is moving at such a fast pace and being patient is not something a person wants to do. yes i agree with you. patience should start with one's self.