ego clashes between mom ..
September 29, 2009 3:35am CST
mine is a love marriage,and my hubby has been a mamma's boy and it was dificult for me to be given a second preference but i finally digested the fact that i cannot take his mom's place but now after five years of my marriage am fine but the problems is ego ..ego between a mom and a son..their opinions don't match and his mom still wants to have control of the house my hubby wants the authority..and its all is a little too much for me to see a perfect mom and son have a cold war... don't know what to do..i tried a lot to solve their problem.. but they just don't want any third person to interfere..and they they emotionally hurting each other..what to do..???????
29 Sep 09
gemini obviously they would never like someone interfering in their matter , because maybe they still have a feeling deep inside them that u r a outsider so u dont need to interfere , but this has been a routine for them they would have had these fights in past too , i too have with my mom , but one them has to understand else this would make the relation bitter , u cannot handle this alone coz they would never listen to ur opinion , u need to have ur father in law to support u Try supporting them individually and try making them comfortable talking to u Listen to them try knowing their desires bout household and there point of view
29 Sep 09
Hi there Gemini! I'm sorry to hear that. But based on my experience, as much as you try to intervene and try to make everything work, it backfire most often than not. I think that you should just let time heal the wounds and just be there to listen when your husband needs to talk. I think that the best you can do is to subtly remind your husband about the good times that he and his mother had.