why men get change there ways when they are married?

@Craicha (801)
September 29, 2009 9:16pm CST
what i mean is that before marriage that is of course in the stage of Bf and GF or lovers....guys so sweet to the girls like his the knight of shining armor aftraid that even a fly will touch the girl....lol...but when your into the stage of husband and wife now guys change a lots as in opposite before... what do you think this is happening?
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8 responses
• Canada
30 Sep 09
Why is it that the guy has to change. Women also change. They let themselves go,they don't dress nice, they only care about their appearance when they go out and the bedroom fun completely changes from when you were just boyfriend and girlfriend.So maybe someone can tell me why this happens. Probally for the same reasons.
• Canada
30 Sep 09
This comment is not about anyone person. It is just a generallity if thats a word in response to the discussion. I was just taking a mans point of view.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
Many people would say that guy really changes as they are into marriage already. Very sweet as being bf or lover, and when they into marriage we can see the real man. As being a bf/lover, they will catch you when you fall. As being their husband, they are telling you how clumsy you are. This are some stories of my friend that they have experienced.
• United States
30 Sep 09
My husband gets more attentive each year. We have been together for 10 years and married for 5 years. I don't think he takes me for granted at all. Actually the opposite is true. He takes great care of me and my needs and is also a wonderful father.
@Craicha (801)
30 Sep 09
thats good to hear from you..ur lucky you married a good guy..:)
@2babita (1074)
• India
30 Sep 09
I think they change bucz of the pressure of maintaning the family.Before they don't have to think about anything but the moment they get married the burden come to them.They have to fulfill the needs of his family and maintain his status,i think that's why they change.
@anurag3786 (6273)
• India
30 Sep 09
i think men don't get change there way after marrige.. but some situation's are arounding him.. and he feel helpless.. so a men change the way after marrige.. but every men don't do it.. some person.. ho faces problem in life..they can change their way..
@irefed (200)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
There are some who change after marriage. I'm a girl and if I get married I should have develop the affection and passion of our relationship.
@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
As the saying goes "it takes two to tango".
@kykidd (6818)
• United States
30 Sep 09
I think that people just get used to one another. I'm not saying that this is necessarily a bad thing, you do have to move on in life stages. However, if you think about it, they will still protect you from others, just maybe not so much from themselves. LOL Sometimes I see a couple fighting, and I think to myself they need to realize how they would feel if someone else talked to him/her, or treated him/her the way they are treating them. Also, if you notice, people who live together before they get married struggle as well. That is another thing about life stages. Here's my analysis. If you are dating someone, you try to put your best show on, dress up for dinner, open the door, comb your hair, etc. Then you live together, after a while you get used to each other. You walk around in your jogging pants, your hair not always combed. You start to take on chores together, etc. So what's left for people to do when they get married. They are looking for another stage, but they've already entered it while living together. Hence, the next stage seems to be arguing, etc. Hope that my analysis is somewhat helpful to you! Have a great day!