what should i do with my son who keeps having potty accidents?

United States
October 1, 2009 5:03pm CST
Every mother out there knows that the one of the worst challenges of being a parent is potty training, especially boys. well i being potty training my almost 3 year old boy, and it has taken about a year to finally say he is potty train, well, for the last month, he has gone to doing number 2 in his underwear, he does pee pee fine and he says he has to go, but when it comes to poo poo, he stains his underwear and is very frustrating is like i am doing laundry every day. he holds it too, for days, that we had to take him to the emergency room, the other day because he was really hurting on his stomach. well they fix him of course, they clean him, but now is like he holds it and them he keeps staining his underwear again, and is like he doesnt want to do it, so his lower colon is pushing it out, and it hurts him, and i get so frustated because i dont know if he is doing it on purpose or he actually does have a problem. should i take him to his peditrician, just continued giving him fiber foods, will it actually go away? If there are any mylotters parents who are familiar with this situation any advice please?
1 response
@irishidid (8716)
• United States
5 Oct 09
I went through the same thing with my second child. There were reasons for it. My daughter is autistic and has other disabilities. Children such as this do tend to be harder to train. I'm certainly not saying this pertains to your son, just that I know what you are going through. What I finally did, which may seem a bit drastic, was to go to the extreme. First I bought baby suppositories and her favorite forbidden fruit, which was gum. I let the suppositories do their job, set her on the potty chair and when she produced something, I praised her and she got a piece of gum. Every day at the same time we went through the routine. It took awhile and we did have setbacks, but eventually she got it. Be encouraging, patient and don't sweat the small stuff. Make him think pooping in the potty is the greatest thing he's ever done. Oh and go out and let him pick out the best super hero underwear ever and tell him he gets to wear them whenever he poops in the potty.
• United States
5 Oct 09
Thanx for responding, i am not really comfortable with suppositories, but i do make it a big deal when he actually poopoo's in the potty, and he loves stickers so that what his reward is, i guess i just have to be more patient. is just really hard.
@irishidid (8716)
• United States
5 Oct 09
You do what you're comfortable with. That's whats important. Believe me, the decision to use the suppositories did not come easily. My daughter was almost five years old when I did it and it was the last hope of getting her trained after trying everything else.