love some one older than you

@JohnJeff (722)
Malaysia
October 2, 2009 8:52am CST
Can you falling in love with someone 20 years older than you.Can you accepted the big difference.
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10 responses
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I prefer a guy older than me, but not 20 years older than me. At the age, they are much mature in many things. They could handle relationship so well.
• United States
2 Oct 09
Yes, I don't think the age really make difference to me, I have heard and saw some of couples were having big difference of age and culture, big difference of personality, it is up to the people who are in love, maybe it will have some problems in the future, but who doesn't. I am dating my boyfriend who is 21 years older than me, we are from totally different country and totally different background, but we have very good relationship, even though we had some arguments and disagreement, just like any other dating couple, it happens to most of people. I don't really think about too much of future, the future is a mistry, the past is history, only today you can enjoy right now, if you fall in love with somebody, just go for it, it you are not, you will come up with all the excuses to stop yourself to have fun and enjoyment. Of course, this is just my personal opinion, not suit to everybody's situation, you do what you feel the best. you are adult and you have your own decision to make. Have fun and enjoy life.
• United States
2 Oct 09
This happened to me. I was 22, he was 44. We married and had children, but in the long run, it did not work out. The age difference really was an issue -- he had a couple of decades of adult experiences, and I was just starting out. My view of the world was immature, I was not unselfish enough yet because I was so young so I didn't make a perfect wife, and I was still dreaming of the future and big things, but he was more in a mode of settling in, taking it easy. I was very fit and loved doing risky adventure activities, but he was worried about his health and ability in the backcountry places I loved. Yes, we loved each other, and it was a great experience to be together. I am thankful that I got to be with him. I believe he loves me still, and I love him. But day to day, we could not get along and we had very different goals. Just my story -- I hope this helps.
• United States
2 Oct 09
I think that is you really love someone that you can accept a 20 year age difference. I love someone who is 14 years older then me and we get along well. The only morbid thing about being with someone older then you is that you may not have as much time with them as someone your age so I try to cherish each and every moment.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
For me love has no limits and boundaries. As long as you feel inlove to someone you cannot measure the difference between the ages and so on. As I have said from one of our discussions here about love, it is really a mystery in which we don't know the origin and hoe it begun. In a very simple way if I feel in love I'm happy!
@Craicha (801)
2 Oct 09
yes i do love someone that older in me but were 8yrs in gap and yes we love each other...for me theres nothing wrong with age gap as long your true eachother nah the reason coz have diff. purpose that others have....im his baby and his my honey and we truly true in our feelings..:)
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
When it comes to love JohnJeff age doesn't really matter no matter how old you are compared to your partner or how young you are to your partner. What matters most is the feeling of being in love and be loved. It's doesn't mean that when both of you are on the same age it can be considered as a perfect relationship. I read several stories wherein both partners are on the same age and had the relationship for 5 to 10 years but yet eventually they broke up. I also read stories about partners whose age is much older than the other but yet their relationship is still intact for almost 20 years wow. Love cannot be measured simply by looking at the age alone. Love requires a lot of sacrifices and thorough understanding between both partners. Age is not really important the most important thing is there is acceptance and also both partners can see the real meaning of their lives and that is to love and be love.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
2 Oct 09
Actully i cant say but at first i will not. even i will say that i dont even think in this way when i meet a person so elder than me, but if you talk about the age difference in love. it really does not matter. there is a song in hindi (na umra ki seema ho na janmo ka ho bandhan, jab pyar kare koi to dekhe keval mann) means in english (there is no limit of age and rebirth , when some one loves he looks only for heart.)
@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
2 Oct 09
I think I can't accept the man who is older than me for 20years older, because the gap of the big ages will cause the different life style and custom, and maybe it will exsits the gap between the ages. so I can't consider the man who is older than me so much.
@Trensue (5262)
• United States
2 Oct 09
There is a point when age doesn't make a difference. I would guess it comes about at age 24. Then things begin to melt then and everyone is an adult. I think it can be very damaging if it is done too early. There would be some controlling just by the nature of the age difference.