when someone shouts at you

Philippines
October 3, 2009 12:36am CST
hi all! what do you think when someone shouts at you? i mean, like your parents, your spouse, your child, your friend, etc.? is shouting natural? are there people who are prone to shout at others during bursts of anger? while there are those who are not hysterical even when angered? how do you feel when someone shouts at you? especially someone you love? how do you react? especially when there are other people around...or it is done in a public place? it angers me as i feel humiliated. that is why my reaction is either to retaliate or to turn my back on the person. but in reality, i really would like to tell the person a piece of my mind. the nerve! anyway, how about you? it is time to share your opinion. take care all and God bless you! happy mylotting :D
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16 responses
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
3 Oct 09
i could say i am very lucky that i never get to encounter such humiliation. my mom alway keeps her temper an only blows it out when we are already at home, and for that we always knew we did something wrong and keeps quiet about it. my friend are very civil that they don't do this shoutting when they got angry in public. But if in case it happens it will depend on the situation, if myt griend is shouting in anger at someone else i will try to pacify my friend, but if i am the one being shout at i will surely turn around act like i don't know him/her and i am going to leave him or her behind. i will not be a victim of a public humiliation as i simply know myself that i will not provoke any anger to my friends and family
@Archie0 (5636)
3 Oct 09
many people shout when they are at the peak of their emotions. many times, people shout because of their worries, not because of the people they are shouting at. so get over it. not everything that happens... happens because of you.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
4 Oct 09
If my parents shout at me then they only do it when I am wrong otherwise they would never do it. I never shout at someone unless I am very angry at that person for doing something wrong. If someone else other than my parents shout at me for no apparent reason then I will most definitely make that person quite. I will make that person pay for shouting at me ( not in a harmful manner ).
@indybaty (368)
• Panama
3 Oct 09
Well to be honest, shouting gets you nowhere unless the person you are trying to reach is in Mount Everest and you are on the ground. With my loved ones, we dont shout anymore. Before, my family had the serious problem that we would shout about anything and everything, the home enviroment became a bit hostile to say the least, but as I matured I realized that it really doesnt help to shout. You just prove to other people that you are being a nut even if you are angry for a justified reason. Like I said, my loved ones, hubbie and I we dont shout to each other or anyone else. Now dont get me wrong, if we were being assaulted or something we would let our voice explode!, but in situation swere its not really required to shout not really, and even if it gets to that point. I dont shout back, I just wait for my hubbie to calm down and I talk to him later. Now, in my line of work is a different story. Some people think that if they shout they can be better heard or think they will get the service or attention they need and what it does is the contrary, wich is that no one wants to attend you.
• Canada
3 Oct 09
I'm a good student at school, so I rarely got shouted at by teachers, which is a good thing, because I really don't like being shouted at. My mom does that all the time, and she is really picky about everything. Whenever she shouts at me, I would get really agitated and annoyed, because sometimes it's about really small things. I want to shout back, but that would be impolite, so I'll have to hold my irritation inside most of the time. I get really jumpy too, when she shouts at me. It's definitely not a good sensation to be shouted at XD
@asem93 (48)
3 Oct 09
guys when someone overlaps over voice and luder this is shouting when some actully does that dont that happen to your people? if your pearents do that dont shout back give them respect back or ignore them this will make them hyper so the shout or use there body to harm you so consider as advise and thank x
• China
4 Oct 09
hello spoiled, good discussion. I am a person who easily get shocked, when someone shout at me, i would shocked and may not able to think for a while. In this way, I won't shout back, after my shock period, their anger may have reduced a little, and then I would think, if i really wrong? I won't shout back even if i was right and they were wrong, I would try to talk to them peace to peace, let them know there's misunderstanding. i think I am quite considerate.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
it is really annoying when someone shouts at you, it makes me mad everytime someone yells at me. when someone yells at me, i don't shout back, i talk to the person and ask him/her privately what's her problem . later i believe that everything will be alright...
@daliaj (5674)
• India
3 Oct 09
I don't like people shouting at me, esecially in public. I will keep quiet if the mistake is with me. I will try explain things and get rid of the issue when there is a misunderstanding. I don't like to shout at people; I only shout if I feel really hurt and I suspect that the same person will repeat doing similar things if I keep my mouth shut.
@Archie0 (5636)
3 Oct 09
[i]Hello spoiled, well when someone shouts at me i cannot bear that, i get hurt deeply.I stop talking to anyone for a long time.Though i dont talk much these days i keep really silent and sad since some time from now. When i am angry i dont usually shout and create a mess but i keep my quite and dont talk to anyone at all.[/i]
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I used to shout if I lose my temper already with my sisters or to my parents I know it is bad but sometimes I can't avoid to shout if I really angry to them. My mother also used to shout us when she gets angry to us but not in the public. It is humiliating if your loved ones shout at you outside your house. It is burglar and it is not appropriate but sometimes it helps to release your tension and rage.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
3 Oct 09
I would feel humiliated and ashamed if a Loved one yelled at me outside in Public. I would try to control my anger and not make a donkey of myself because there maybe children around listening in. So I just ignore it and not make it any worse.
@deniblue7 (122)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 09
If I were I would stay calm and talk with him well, because anger can not be the opponent in anger. One way to calm. so if there is someone who shouted to me I tried to stifle her anger and then I asked what made him angry. If it was my fault I'll apologize. It would feel embarrassed if someone yelled at me in a public place, so in essence I still would be cool to solve these problems
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Gee... I really hate that situation. When someone or even any of my family member. Its very shameful to think. It many people will see and know how the things that happen between you and the one shouted you. It makes you feel angry and being humiliated into public places. It kinda hurt more.
@gohigh00 (65)
• China
3 Oct 09
If somebody shouts at me, normally I will shut them back.hehe~ But nowadays, I am more clam down than before. If I really made a mistake myslef,and than somebody shouts at me, I will keep quiet to wait the other people to calm down to talk with the prolbem and acknowlege the fault. ALso,if other touch the deep pain in my heart, I can not control to shout at others.Sometimes, others do not know your deep pain in your heart. One reason for shouting them is that, i am really mad. The other reason is that,I believe, to some extent, this is a good way to let others know how you care about the issue. A good way to let others know. However, letting others understand you by shouting way isn,t a really good idea. To have a conversaiton peacefully is much more better. HEHE, Good luck at last
• Singapore
3 Oct 09
I resent those person who shouts other people. I mean when we have to pint out something, they can explain it without raising their voices. That way, the receiver will easily understand what he/she is talking about. Shouting is brought by the sudden burst of emotion and those that cannot control it has problem handling their own emotion.
@codris (781)
• Italy
3 Oct 09
i shout only when i'm very very angry with someone, or when someone shouts at me, this is rare , i don't remember the last time that someone shout at me, maybe my parents some years ago.