is it selfish to refuse?

I say that it all depends on what he considers important. He may just be going through something extremely important and haven't told anyone. But if you feel that you want to do what he did to you then hey go for it. You know your co-worker better that we do.

I wouldn't refuse him, if for no other reason than to see how things turn out. I have been in the situation where I have taken extra shifts for people at the last minute (and it was always the same two people) many times, but the few times I needed someone to cover my shift when my kids were sick, they were always "busy". I would help your co-worker out this once, but I wouldn't let it become a habit if he isn't willing to reciprocate.

It is never selfish to reuse ever. It is never wrong to say No. Some people in life get walked on by strangers and often friends. Some people don't like others that say No or refuse and I for one would not call any of them friends. At the end of the day the choice is yours

check on your values friend... if you want to make him feel how you felt when he refused you for that request and you will be happy about this then go for it (but that is revenge). if you want to try to be objective with your decision whether to grant his request then judgment call if his reason is really important and you have to define what is important/urgent so that you'll not feel guilty and the result will be a win-win situation wherein both of you will be happy. goodluck you can make it. this is just a practice for a more serious one...something that youo will decide on in the near future so try to come up with the best decision as possible! smile!

I would say its not selfish at all, but make the decision based on, do I want to help, would it be best for me to say yes or no here, can I work it or not? rather than just out of 'huh, he wouldn't help ME so I won't help him'. People do notice willing like that at work I think, but at the same time sometimes you need to say no for yourself, and have some boundaries, and not be taken advantage of. Only you can answer really!

I don't think its right to refuse if your purpose is just to get even. Better ask him what is that important matter that he needs to attend to. If you think its important enough, why not do him a favor. By doing that, I know when its already your time again and you ask him to exchange shift with you, for sure he will not let you down again. Your decision of saying yes or no to him must be based on his reason of changing shift. It is all depends on you. But as for me, it is just better to promote good working relationship with your fellow employee. If you would not want to exchange shift you must provide him with reasonable excuse to avoid any dispute. Just come out clean cutepink_13.

No it's not selfish to refuse in your situation. But I think your co-worker is selfish. he should not have texted you and instead asks other co-workers if they are willing to exhange duty hours. He refused your offer in the first place so he should be kind enough not to ask you. And you did well having two shifts in a row, thst must be tiring. And you will do the right thing in telling him that you refuse to do so. If he can get away with it for the first time around then he will do the same in next duties or whatever.

It's not selfish to refuse, it's a person right. We don't really have to do as others say. As same as that, you can refuse him as it's your right to do it or not. He has his important thing, so do you. You don't have to change your shift with him if you don't feel like it (especially after he refused yours) unless he tells you what the important thing is and you feel you can accept the reason. But that's up to you.

If this happens to me, i think i will change my shift with him. don't let other people's selfish to interact you since you know that feeling. but you have to make this clear to your coworker. you can talk to him in joking way or ask your another coworker to help you. just make it looks like you are not that selfish people like he is. Have a good day!