I'm frustrated with my bestfriend

October 4, 2009 8:54pm CST
Hey all. I'm just letting off steam because I'm so frustrated with my best friend. She's with this guy and they have three kids, but they are not married yet (yes, i know, that was her first mistake). So anyway, she stays home with the kids, take care of the guy's mother's house (do house chores) and never even gets a pair of socks as a thank you (kind of like Dobby the elf). And the worst part is, the guy has like, three other girlfriends! I told her, she better start moving her butt out of their lives, and start thinking for herself and her three kids, and she answered me, "he needs me.". Aaaargh!! to do what?! I'm really ready to slap some sense into her. I will. Soon. hahaha.
2 responses
@lynnemg (4538)
• United States
5 Oct 09
As her friend, I am sure it is very frustrating to you to stand by and see what she obviously is not seeing, yet not be able to do anything about it. The sad fact is that she is going to have to learn for herself and when the pieces fall, she will need you to help pick them up. Until then, all you can do is be her friend and try to support her as much sa possible.
• United States
5 Oct 09
The thing is there really isn't much you can do - just be there as her support but realize people normally need to make their own mistakes before they really care about listening to people about what they are doing wrong. So just be there for her, continue to try to help her and give her ideas about getting out of the situation, and when the time comes when she is really ready to leave him, be there for her when she needs to find a place, or needs a babysitter etc. Because becoming a single mother living on your own and taking care of everything by yourself can literally kill a person if that support staff isn't there.