Expectations in a relationship with your partners

By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
October 4, 2009 9:55pm CST
I like to hear compliments and appreciation from my partner in small things I have achieved. I like to be hug and kiss by him. Talking with him comfortably and sharing our thoughts is a good sign of great relationship. I like that I was encourage to do the things I wanted to do, and especially showing his support to me. Same with I will do to him. Hug and kiss him, Encourage and support him in his activities, talking things that are uncommon and common to us, gives compliment and appreciation to him. This is a little way that sparks the relationship. How about you? What did you expect from your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend? Did they do that or opposite with this?
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8 responses
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
5 Oct 09
I think expectations can be good and sometimes can worsen a relationship. I used to have a relationship whereby I didn't have any forms of expectations but the opposite party wanted more; like wanting to be someone that I was not. So I could not be that person; but I tried to savor the relationship, instead of just walking away. But at the end of the day, both of us realized that what we wanted out of one another was totally different. So I think a relationship is like a shoe fit. If it fits, it fits. Good discussion here..
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Its likely like a shoe fit, if it fits and it fits, but there are circumstances that we put allowances to the shoe. Its also like in a relationship, we put a little space for adjustments and a little space for excitements.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
7 Oct 09
Hmmm, very well said. I think you've summed up well about the fit and all..
@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
My expectations in a relationship is sincerity and loyalty towards each other. And encouragement to each partner is more better for having a good and happy relationship. A relationship can be tested through its hard time and how can you deal with it both of your partner.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
With sincerity and loyalty, when tested through hard times both will hand in hand to deal with the struggles and trials. There are many things many encounter along the way, a good relationship will be tested with time. Though time, we will know how sincere and loyal the person is to you. A relationship is also an investment of time.
@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
5 Oct 09
I expect time, mostly. I expect that we'll do things together and be supportive of each others' goals. Beyond that, I don't really worry about it; we have a pretty good relationship.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Most of us, expect for time. This is important because we could see how we are valued by our partners. Being together can strengthens the relationship.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
I think these little acts of thoughtfulness keep the flames of love alive. We act out of the abundance of the heart and if love is there it will always have an outward expression. Mutual support and encouragement help the relationship to grow. Have fun.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Yahhh. Thoughfulness can keep the flame of love burning.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
5 Oct 09
I have learnt not to have too many expectations from a partner because expecting too much only leads to disappointment. There are some basics that are not negotiable like loyalty and affection but I think that if the right person comes along it will just be ‘right’ and no boxes will need to be ticked. I think what is important is to communicate your needs clearly to your partner because falling in love doesn't automatically give one mind reading abilities!
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Too much of expectation really can lead to disappointment, especially what you want and your partner can't do it because of some instances. We should also learn to understand, he want to do that but he can't. We should also know their capabilities and capacity. We will also try to tell them what we want.
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@daliaj (5683)
• India
5 Oct 09
I also hear lots of complains from people because their life partners have not satisfied their expectations. I thinjk you can avoid these problems if you take care of two things. 1. Don't keep too many expecations and always try to expect less so that you can be happy if you get more than what you expected. 2. Please share your expectatiions with your partner. You can't blame him for his actions if he is ignorant of your expecations. So, if you can share your expecation with him, he will at least try to statisft your expectations because your happiness is important to him.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Having many expectation and being failed by the partner to do can lead to frustration. It can worsen the relationship, and it is not healthy for relationship. Many a relationship being happy and full of life. It is really true that we have to share to our partners what we want him to do. Especially telling him that you want a hug or you want a kiss. At least they know what you want especially they are not use to it. This come in the communication. Having a well and great communication, builds a better relationship.
• Singapore
5 Oct 09
I think that compliments and encouragement serve as reinforcement to a relationship to last for long. We are doing the same as yours. It is a nice feeling if your partner praises you on thing you have done and he liked it. You are encouraged to please him over and over again and vice versa. There goes a mutual respect the will enhance your relationship further.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Compliments and encouragement is one of the ingredients of a relationship.
6 Oct 09
since i am a fan of novels i expected a lot from my boyfriend and end up,disappointed. i think one should not expect but just let things happen.