Are you a liar???

@34momma (13882)
United States
October 5, 2009 10:00am CST
have you ever been in a relationship where your partner always wants to believe the worst rather then know you are there for them. Do they always think you are lying to them about one thing or another? are you that person in your relationship? I guess my real question would be, why would you want to be with someone who always thinks you are not being honest? and on the flip side of that, you are the one who always thinks your partner is not being honest, why do you stay with them if you don't trust them??? Thanks for posting
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Oct 09
No, I can't say so but I did meet a girl who told me her husband never believed her. She was a hooker and I guess that might be natural in her case but a relationship like this I would avoid. For Christ's sake ! How can you love someone who never believes you ?
@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Oct 09
hey bluepatch you are right. it must be really hard to love someone who doesn't think your word is any good
• United States
5 Oct 09
well, for that matter, how can you believe that someone who always contradicts you or calls you a liar really loves you?
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@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
5 Oct 09
I had to think on this one my hubby an I been together for 18 years an I hid the fact Iwas wican from his family an him cause I crushed on him in middle school an high school an didnt want to lose him his family was the type I was against they preach to you one second an sined the net well one my hubby bought me a neckalace an put it on my neack yes it was a pentagram an he told me to wear it proud I don't know how he found out but i glad I been out of the broom closet now about 12 years an none in his family say anything just ask me if I worship the deveil of course I don't an then they leave it at that
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
5 Oct 09
i am glad that he accepts you and what you believe it enola.... i think it's important to be honest even about something like that. more for yourself. cause you go through all that feeling bad for nothing. he didn't even care.... good for you honey
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@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
5 Oct 09
well funny thing is when I came out of the broom closet i found out I had alot of wiccans in the family but they were hidding in the broom closet also so now we lean on each other an if there is something I don't know I will ask them an now as far as hubby is concern he claims to be a nonbeliever in anything but i catch himreding my books an when I ask you got questions he dose so you never know
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@nova1945 (1612)
• United States
5 Oct 09
My first husband was a pathological liar. He would tell far-fetched stories about things that never happened just to entertain his friends and make himself sound macho. He would tell his parents things that were totally false. And I didn't stay with him. The first time he hit me I walked out on him. Good riddance to bad rubbish. He never got any better from what I've heard.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
5 Oct 09
I hear that sh*t Nova. let his a$$ go and keep it moving. good for you honey.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
hi 34 momma no I am so glad I have never ever been in a relationship like that. I would never have stayed with someone who did not trust me. a man or woman who checks up on their mate is probably a controller and is apt to sooner or later start with the hitting to control their partner or mate. I would not stay with someone who I felt was not being honest and I would not want to be with someone who thought I was dishonest.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hey Hatley, you make some really good points here. I and I so hear where you are coming from. controlling partners always lead to something else, and hitting is such a deal breaker
• United States
6 Oct 09
It can be that sometimes someone has lied in the past, and the relationship has been resolved on the surface, but you always wonder if you can then trust that person. It is not easy to just throw away a marriage based on suspicion so you choose to tell yourself to trust. Not always that simple! I have lied in my past - in my college days I invented a whole life for myself because I hated myself so much I thought everyone else would too. After a couple of years of this I wrote a letter to all of my friends on the same day, confessing everything and sent them, and as far as I knew I would lose all my friends, but I didn't want to lie anymore, but to start living authentically and that was what it took. As it turned out, all of them either phoned me or wrote back when they got the letters and said they knew the 'real' me was a good person and they thought I was actually brave and thought more of me for telling them after all that time. This was about 12 years ago and most of them are still my closest friends now.
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@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
I'm I will indulge into a relationship, I will be always be honest and loyal and my partner will also do they same thing. How could you be in a relationship with dishonesty and insincerity, you better break it up because it won't work out.Once you choose to be in a relationship, you have to give full cooperation to feel special and be special to your partner and cooperate that you have better relationship.
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• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Hello 34momma, Trust is one of the most important ingredient in a successful relationship. You should trust your partner, and in return, you should also be honest to your partner. Never do something that will break that trust. I myself don't want to relationship where there is no trust. Where there is always a doubt coming from my partner. I would not stay in this kind of relationship. Have fun mylotting!
@Rakshas (223)
• India
6 Oct 09
hi 34momma,Yeah i lie to my partner not because i m ding anything wrong but because my partner is not able to understand me.It is very hard to lie to some one whom you love more than yourself but If you wanna stay with him we have to.And my partner lies me too but seriously telling i dont like when he lies to me because i try my level best to understand his problem except other girls problem.God bless.Happy my lotting.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Hi 34momma,No!I hate a person who's not telling the truth.Well for me i am trying to be honest always in every thing because i want to live happy and peaceful.I don't want to lie because i don't want to feel guilt.I am encouraging my children to be honest always.With regards to relationship,i would rather tell my partner to be honest always to prevent misunderstanding.Good Luck!
@Melbee11 (230)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I do lie alot but, when I get caught lieing it's not good. So I try my best not to lie. I hate when people think I'm lieing when I am serious about what I am telling them. Well I do hate lieing but most of the time I tell the truth but, than agian they all think I lie. So I don't know what else to tell them. They can all believe what they want?
@Craicha (801)
6 Oct 09
if you mean tell or do lies in the relationship....i prefer nah...coz u cant gain nothing f u do lies...so happen i meet a right guy that i trust him much i know he dnt lied to me even do things that make me sad and hurts...coz he offers me his unconditional love with respect, trust and honesty....
• Spain
6 Oct 09
I've been in a couple of relationships and no matter how much you would like to stay true to them, there will come to a point where you will need to lie. But all I can say all of them are white lies. There are just things that you cannot say to them because you would like to guard their feelings or it's a way for me not to start an argument.