Do people tke advantage of you?

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww how sad how could anyone do that to such a lovely caring person like you i have never met any one who has a heart as big as yours and i`m so lucky you didn`t shut me out i would of missed out on such a wonderful friendship that i don`t think i have ever known before or will ever know again i thank god that he has made our paths cross because without you my dear friend i would not be here today to be able to tell you this

I try not to let that happen but I have always been a yes person and have a hard time saying no when someone asks me to do something. I have made an effort to change that in recent years and I think that has helped. I don't like being taken for granted and a friend is not a true friend if he/she takes advantage of you.

yeh I know where your coming from, I should toughen up a bit I tell myself I am going to and then off I go again...I never learn...

I think many have experienced what you have. Whenever we reach out to help another with love and kindness, there is always a risk we will get hurt. It is natural to not like the hurt, yet if you do not forgive, the bitterness will change you in a negative way. It is not how we usually think, but do you realize that sooner or later every friend you ever have is going to hurt you. It is going to happen. Decide now that you will not let the hurt of a couple brief words or acts of unkindness be more important than a friendship. Hurt feelings should not be more important than a friendship either.

well first of all it's v sad to hear that you are being used by ur "friends". i m too, in a way, being helpful by nature and many a times i do get used by some of those whom i have helped. in the beginning i was unwilling to help. however it was after a good friend of mine who told me that if because of a bad experience that you decide to stop helping and trusting others, then those who really need your help n trust will be the ones suffering. after that i have decided to continue helping others and if i meet another of those who takes me for granted, i will know that these are people whom u can don't treat as friends anymore. =)

It's sad that the world has become how it has nikki. People only have themselves to blame when they turn around and say that society today does not care anymore. Still offer help but only if they are genuine and don't offer amounts of money. If they are hungry give them a sandwiche. If they are cold go inside and call a shelter/refuge and show them which direction to take.

there is nothing wrong in what u said, it happens normally to everybody who cares others feelings, like our friends calls us for dropping somewhere but when we ask they wont turnout..

If You help people with all your time , you'll never accomplish anything for yourself!.. don't get me wrong it's not bad to help people.. but not all the time.. learn to be NO.. being ASSERTIVE is a very good attitude to have.. just my advice.. :)

sometimes u do feel like that..when u acceed to whatver ur friends say..but then u have to think whether or not u are going out of way and helping them by taking the trouble urself..if thats the case..u should seriously think about saying no when u don't feel like doing something..sure its gonna have consequences and people would start saying things about u..but this is the time where u would differentiate between good friends and just friends...

no!!! im to head strong for that now

Honestly, Some times.....cheat me

I have been used too many times. Some people really don't care that they are hurting you... just as long as they get what they want in the end. Sometimes I feel like a paper plate, being used, eaten off of, then thrown away like garbage. I am definately not as trusting as I used to be because of this.

Yes, it has happened to me loads of times. I'm still vunerable because I can't stop not caring about people, its my nature. But I have slightly toughened up a bit and watch out for the signs of "being used". I hate it when people use others to benefit themselves.

Yes, peole do take advantage of me but that does not deter me from doing good nor does it make me stop being the person I am. It does change your name or talents so forget about them. If you're looking for a world on a bed of roses then you must have a rethink!

yeahhh..., i completely understand what you mean because i am the same kind of person as you... even until now... i hardly say no to people because i don't want to hurt them...

They did until I learned to say "no." It's not easy, but once you start, it's a very liberating experience.

Yes a lot of People have taken advantage of me and you would think that I would learn wouldn't you well I haven't I am still as soft and give all the time lol

sometime i think.

oh well... i am always abused, always had taklen advantage and taken for granted... man, i learned to fight then... you will not believe my whole story and this page will be all sure consumed. it is really hard to be have taken advantage by others... later i realized i need to love myself too and let others care for themselves. i just need to be neutral i guess... yeah, you are right, you don't need to help out a lot and not trust much or you'll get lost again... my lesson in life, don't let others rule your life and don't please anybody, let them accept you...

I can definately relate to your situation. I have a hard time saying no.