Here's how the friendship ends!

Lithuania
October 6, 2009 9:08am CST
This girl wasn't a very close friend.Now she's became a person I simply hate.She went to study in France without good language skills,after one week she cries and writes me she needs a good dictionary to be installed on her laptop.OK,she sends me money,I buy the program and send it to her.One week passed and she's writing again.She said she forgot to pay for her flat and the owner called her and he was angry.Again,I went to that guy and paid him the money she sent.Today she asked me to print a document she sent me,make a fake signature and give it to a particular person.Now tell me guys, would you go against the law for a person who never was your friend actually?Oh God!Finally I saw her true face! Never let people use you like she did use me.
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10 responses
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
6 Oct 09
Hi silver, Now all is over as you have realized well the intent of the girl. It is one way traffic. You did your job by helping her in whatsoever way you could but this not fair to pressurize one to do the all. Your post reminded one such incident. Of course here there is no girl. We had been friend for say almost two and half years. He wanted to earn money on line but unfortunately his English was not acceptable by the NET and what he would do is to send the article topic to me and some of his friend and half of the meat he would consume. I never minded that but one day I simply asked him why he alloted the task that was my share. and lots of things might have passed his stupid head and you believe he deleted me from mylot friendship. It hurt me. But though people with ugly mentality do exist and this friend of mine and one is yours.
• Lithuania
6 Oct 09
Nice to have you here,Rajib.This is what best fits my topic - "one way traffic".I never asked myself:what does this so-called friend give you in return?The answer is:nothing.I especially hate those who try to use your intellectual material for their own purposes.Let's us be critical and careful next time.
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@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
How come you get to know each other and she ask you a favor if you never meet up? How did you find her and get contacted? If I were you, I won't hesitate to entertain such situation like that because I don't trust person I never met yet.
• Lithuania
7 Oct 09
We met only twice in our lives and then she went to study.The funniest part is that she went there to study french literature but she graduated in English,maybe she lied.Anyway, it was very strange and unpleasant thing to know her.
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
Really? Don't give time to that person and I think you better your communication to her.
@livewyre (2455)
6 Oct 09
Seems like you responded like a good friend/acquaintance would with the reasonable requests, but you have to draw the line at putting yourself in an unreasonable position. Asking a friend to lie for you, is an unreasonable request and you should say that you were happy to do the straightforward tasks at your convenience, but you are certainly not about to involve yourself in anything that could be fraudulent. I would return the document and point out that she must ask someone else as you are not prepared to do this. There is a good chance that she will stop corresponding once you tell her that.
• Lithuania
6 Oct 09
I have to cool off first before I can respond her.
@livewyre (2455)
7 Oct 09
ha ha - good idea
• Spain
7 Oct 09
I have one friendship that ends 3 years ago. It was just a simple misunderstanding and miscommunication. Well, I don't think there's any more to blame except for both of us. We've been friends for decade and suddenly we crashed! I don't know how it happened just suddenly but that's just life. I somehow missed my ex best friend but life has to go on. But still, I consider her as one of the best ever friend I have in my lifetime.
• Lithuania
7 Oct 09
My school friendship ended after 3 years.I cried because I put all my soul in that friendship.That friend knew all my secrets and was closer than anyone else.Now I never let people to come that close.Except mylotters.
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 09
hi silvercoin well it was a tough lesson to learn but she showed you what she is really like. No I like you would never go against the law for a person like your fair friend.my you are a real love to do so much for this jerkess, just coined a new word,meaning a woman jerk. I have learned the hard way not to let people use me. It took awhile but I did learn. Also if you had been caught printing a document and signing a fake signature you would also be prosecuted for the crime. smart thinking on your part.
• Lithuania
7 Oct 09
And very smart from her part - do illegal things with my hands while being abroad.This jerkess(nice word,by the way)is incredible.
@Craicha (801)
7 Oct 09
still we cant trust friends thats why if i got friends i have my limitations dnt even get one so called the bestfriend coz i do believe that your bestfriend is your best enemy.....lots diff kinda of friends..that only be friend of you coz they want you for there needs..like used you and when they get over in you just dump you easily....and some friends just take advantage in you especially they saw you that your nice..
• Lithuania
7 Oct 09
Don't be nice and bad people won't stick to you.
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
hello silvercoin, She's being abusive, that's what it is. you should have known that when she starts demanding things. i don't mind helping a person but if she started doing that am gonna stop helping her, since she's an adult and shouldn't be doing that thing. it's unfair, what if she get caught and get you involved in the crime scene, that would be humiliating on your part.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
6 Oct 09
People of good will often have to fend off others who will take advantage. Best to just learn to say no, just that little word. You don't have to use it often before the users get the picture and go away. Make sure you don't let them play the guilt card. Good Luck
• Lithuania
6 Oct 09
This guilt card is the only problem left for me when dealing with people like these.But it's getting easier every time.
• India
6 Oct 09
Yes silvercoin you should not help anyone who is asking you to go against law. Its very good to help friend but not in an illegal manner.
• Lithuania
6 Oct 09
Welcome to Mylot.And,no, I won't do things like that.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Sounds like this girl has a LOT of growing up to do. And, as long as friends and family cover her tracks for her (however well-meaning), that will never happen. Since she apparently takes using people for granted, she probably isn't very appreciative, is she? If you (and others who do things for her) stop answering the emails and phone calls, she'd be explosively angry, but that may be the catalyst she needs to start the process of growing up. There's a difference between usery and friendship, and in a relationship if one person is one way, and the other the opposite, it's a pretty unbalanced relationship. Start letting her solve her own problems, and perhaps in 5 or 10 years she'll be some one you'd really LIKE to have for a friend. Good luck, want to borrow my headphones?
• Lithuania
6 Oct 09
Yes,your headphones will serve me a lot!Thank you for very wise and accurate reply.