My daughter likes playing with boys toys!

United States
October 6, 2009 1:19pm CST
Hi Everyone! My mother has been making a big deal about my daughter playing with cars. I honestly don't see anything wrong with this. She likes a variety of toys from cars to dolls. Shouldn't my child have an opened mind? Why is this a big deal to my mother?
6 responses
@livewyre (2455)
8 Oct 09
My daughter has a train set and electric racing cars and a radio-controlled car (before it got broken) she loves them all, and her teddy bears, and her Barbies... A well-rounded child will enjoy playing with all sorts of toys - she has a sense of what is a boys toy and what is a girls toy, but enjoys either activity. She likes to wear a lot of pink and even has some kiddie make-up (yukkk) but that doesn't stop her enjoying playing soccer and riding her (pink) bike. I don't think it's healthy to push a child towards one type of activity against their natural inclination whether you think it's appropriate or not - it can often send out the wrong signals. Your mother is from a different generation, whilst you should respect her views and recognise that things were different for her, she also has no business making a big deal out of it...
• United States
8 Oct 09
Hi livewyre! Nice to hear from you! Yes! True my mother is from a different generation and has different views! But it gets me angry when my mother is visiting and takes away a toy from my daughter because, it qualifies as something a boy would play with! I love my mother dearly, her advice, and opinion mean so much to me! But this is one topic that always gets a little heated! Thanks for responding!
@livewyre (2455)
8 Oct 09
I think that would probably push my buttons too! I am fortunate that my parents don't really poke their nose in - I should be really grateful for that, you have enlightened me to how pleasant it is to have parents that don't try to tell me how to bring my daughter up. I am sure your Mom approves of most of your parenting - if this is her main bug-bear you can't be doing too bad a job...
@pudgles (414)
• United States
6 Oct 09
there is nothing wrong with your daughter playing with boy toys... i have 4 daughters and one son.. growing up he played with all there toys and when they wanted something new to play with they went over to his toys.. its ok for kids to get an inside view of all different types of toys
• United States
7 Oct 09
Hi pudgles! That is what I thought as well! Toys are toys, they are around so children can play with! I don't know why my mother is like this, but hopefully she will snap out of it! Thanks for responding!
@littleone3 (2065)
6 Oct 09
I really don't understand why your mother has a problem with your daughter playing with 'boy toys' My daughter use to play with cars and tool sets and did not like dolls at all. My sister brought her a Barbie one Christmas and she pulled its head off and binned it. I had the same problem because one of my boy liked to play with dolls my mother-in-law told me that I should not let him play with dolls. But when I asked her why all she said was because he was a boy.
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi littleone! I think maybe because my mother is what you would call "old school"... Boys play with boys things and girls play with dolls! That is the only explanation that I might have! There is really no reason why our children shouldn't be open minded and play with they want!
• United States
6 Oct 09
Your mom would not have been able to stand being around me when I was growing up. I played cars, cops and robbers, cowboys and indians, and all of those "boy" things more than I ever did girly things. Heck, you could find out in the woods getting covered with dirt from head to toe at any given time. And yet, I turned out perfectly normal...or at least, that's what I think. I am a happily married mother to 4 gorgeous girls who, by the way, are being taught that getting dirty and having fun doing "boy" things is fun! There is absolutley nothing wrong with your daughter playing with cars. They're fun!!!
• United States
6 Oct 09
HI tonika! Awww! Well while I was growing up, my mother always wanted me to be clean and wear dresses! It turns out, with all her effort, I am the total opposite! I like to work on cars and haven't worn a dress since I was about fourteen! lol... So maybe she is trying to make my daughter into a girlie girl! Which I am not liking at all! I want my daughter to discover herself!
• Portugal
6 Oct 09
She's from a different generation... I played with cars too, and my grandmother didn't like me playing with cars either, but my mom let me, and I had an awesome remote car, which I loved, and here I am, girlie as a girl can be. It's always good for people to be open to several things, and if your child already is open at this young age, better yet.
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi catarina! Yes! I too would play with cars when I was younger! My mother than would always yell at me!!!!!! lol... I am sure that even though she plays with cars now! She will be a girlie girl! Thanks for responding!
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
6 Oct 09
I don't see anything wrong. My daughter was the same. She loved to play with cars and tracks and never opened her Barbie dolls. She didn't like any of the kitchen toys, always preferring a bat and a ball. She's 14 now, and becoming a bit interested in make up and clothes, now, but playing with "boy toys" was not a big deal at our house.
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi di! I don't see it as a big deal either! But my mother, is driving me insane with this! I thought at first I was maybe doing something wrong, but as long as my daughter is happy, I do not see any problem with this. Thanks for responding!