Do you mind if your partner earns less than you?
By karenkarenkk
@karenkarenkk (1121)
China
October 7, 2009 8:59am CST
One of my female friend is hesitate to get into marriage, the reason is her boyfriend earns less than her. They have been dated for 2 years, she feel lots of pressure from her family, because her parent hope she can find a more capable guy. She do not know if she should stop the reasonship for this cause... Dear mylotters, what do you think of it? Will you mind if your partner earns less than you?
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8 responses
@maviGurL (14)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
i actually had that same experience your friend is having... well, my family particularly my father want someone else for me since im earning more than my boyfriend does. my friends also mentioned that always to me. it really did put a pressure to our relationship.but i love him very much and im willing to fight for our relationship. I really dont care which earns the most. His my happiness and money cant replace that. I dont know if your friend feels that way too unless your friend doesnt love his boyfriend that much. Is she willing to give up her love just of money?..
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@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, MaviGurl, I think my friend does not love him that much, as she also feel hesitated... Anyway, it is a relationship that she has in for two years, it is hard to decide... Do you think she should give it up? In my opinion, only a little people can find their true love and forever love... What is your ponit?
@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Starsailover, yeah, we have to best weight them before making our decision... Thank you for your response and have a nice day.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
7 Oct 09
Here's the real discussion, we have to make a weighting between love and economic factors. Is this problem so big to make you reconsidering the option of a future marriage? Are you sure your partner won't be a good husband because he doesn't win the money you expect that he wins today or do you think that you can build a future together just as you are.
@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, 450052, thanks for your response and best wishes to you to find your true love...
@mirali110 (435)
• Hyderabad, India
7 Oct 09
One might call this stupid earning more and qualified more only thing here is there should be understanding between the two more after marriage, if she loves him and thinks that she can cope up with him and does not criticise him whatsoever then she can go ahead and get married. Who knows maybe after marriage he might start to earn more or find a better job which can pay him good so the earnings are levelled or he starts to earn more then her. It is competing in a healthier way without criticism...smiles...thanx
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@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Mirali, I do agree with your point here. Encouragement makes things better and criticism is likely to make things worse. Anyway, it is hard to encourage someone all the time without criticism. So, she had better to weight how much she loves him, can love conquer this difficulty? And yeah, sure, he may earn much more than her later, who knows?
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
well many women for practical reason choose those guy that are stable and most of all earn more than to her.but when true love came this cannot be the issue why you cant be with him because he earn less.i dont think so when you love someone who can accept all what he is whatever of less earn.couple share everything no dominion there is equality in all everything they have.sharing,understanding,caring,loving is the true essence why you love him.
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@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Amyson, thanks for your response. It come to another question: what is more important, money or love? I myself once encounter the same situation like my friend. My husband lost his job last year, and for about one year he can not find another job. I faced great pressure at that time, we have a baby to feed, lots of bills to pay... I think love and money are the same important, without either of them, life can not be happy...
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
7 Oct 09
I think that winning money less than your partner means that you don't have the required stability. The economy is more competitive now so this doesn't mean anything. What matter is love and that you're partner would be mature to be your husband.
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@paltalkpages (7)
• China
26 Oct 09
I am a male, so I think I should skip this question. :)
But if my partner earns more than me, I think I won't mind too. But I'll work harder to catch her up. We both need to strive for a happier family, whatever it is, right?
@crystalfealy520 (50)
• China
21 Nov 09
My dear friend, I am so suprised to know that you have married. Best wishes for your family, especially your little son. i am very interested in this topic. I am a teacher, which is a good job in many people's eyes. And in their opinion, i am capable to find a guy who can buy a house. But between love and money, i choose love. I think i'll never mind if my partner earns less than me. Love is more important than money, though money is really important to our life, in my opinion. And if my partner earns less than me, i'll give him courage, i'll encourage him to work hard, but not leave him.
