Pls. sit down as we finish our meal.... is this rude?

@manong05 (5029)
Philippines
October 7, 2009 10:15am CST
If uninvited and unexpected guests suddenly show up in your house while your family is the the middle of having a meal, will you ask them (sincerely) to join or have them wait till you finished eating. I'm not sure if this is a cultural thing but here in the Philippines, the common practice is to ask the guest to join in the table even when the food is not enough. Will you feel comfortable not to ask them to join and tell them to sit down and wait? Any particular reason?
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• United States
7 Oct 09
I would ask them to join in on the dinner. I would not feel comfortable asking them to just wait somewhere in the house until we finished our meal. To me, that would be rude or tacky. If there wasn't enough food, most people would probably notice that and decline your offer or maybe just sit with you while you finish. I always have something quick and easy to make in the kitchen anyway so I would ask them to join me and then go make a quick cheese platter or something to set on the table for them to munch on while I finish my meal.
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
i agree with u, sderringer. that is what we usually do here in the philippines. even in our workplace, we used to eat our lunch there and sometimes, clients beat lunch break and hurry for their transactions to finish and go see us at this time. we invite them to join us in the table, they being strangers to us. we know that they usually decline the offer and when they do that, we offer them newspaper to read while waiting for us to finish the meal. for very urgent business transactions, even if it is our lunch break time, we stop eating and attend to the client.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
I have a westerner friend whose argument is, that the unannouced guests, coming at meal time must not be offended and should respect the privacy of the family. Of all people, they should understand that the food prepared was only for the family at that particular time so they should not expect something. Much more come at that private family time. I'm sure not all westerner share this idea, and it can just be her personal attitude. I'm interested to hear what is the common sentiment in the western world and if this is something cultural.
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
7 Oct 09
if we were eating dinner and someone came over id ask them to pull up a chair and join us, having them wait while you chow down is just rude
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
I, personally, agree with you.
@hobegao (136)
• China
16 Oct 09
it's hard to say, it depends on what kind of guests you got,if the guest is your boss,what are you going to do, and if it's one of your best friends,what you gonna do? and if it's a stranger for you ,what's your ideas?