How often you call your parents?

China
October 8, 2009 3:23am CST
Hello, dear mylotters, do you live with your parent? How often do you call them? Do you have lots to talk with them? I call my parent once in two days, if I am not, they will call me in the third day. We have quite many topic to talk about. How about you? Do you think there is gap between you and your parent?
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• China
9 Nov 09
Hello,kk.Since I was in high school,I was seldom live with my parents together.Until now I am in university.But every week I call them.Although each words are very similar,I still insist on.Because I want to hear my partents,hope they are very healthy.On the phone,I say little.But in my heart I have many words say to them.They earn money diffculty for me to study, I cannot do anything but only for good grades.
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• China
10 Nov 09
Hello Josonance, I can understand your feeling. When I was in school, I feel the same as you. I think your parent must be very happy to have a child like you. Thank you for your response and have a great day.
@wwjjuan (12)
• China
26 Oct 09
hi karenkarenkk i think i'm lucky,because i joined the group and i can improve my english here. Thank you for the opportunity that you provide to us.I have not studied english for a long time,but i decide to learn it again,i believe i'll do well by the communication and your help. Now,i work in a different city with my parents.so i generally communicate with them by calling,but not usually.
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• China
27 Oct 09
Hello, wwjjuan, I am glad that you enjoy being here. Mylot is really a great place for us English learner, as we also having fun and making some extra money here. Have a nice day and happy mylotting to you.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
hello karen! how are you/ me, i also don't live with my parents but i just call them once in a week...hehe but that was a hole day talk through texting, anyway its not because we don't have much things to talked about, but because they are also busy and in just one day, we can talked everything & anything and that's enough for us...that way we don't missed each other that much...but when we saw each other...wow! haha we can talk almost the whole day! about just anything...hehe
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
hi karen! im fine also... well my father is still working and my mom just stay at home, taking care of my father & my brother...doing all the things in the house... its nice that your parents do have a garden of their own, its really nice to have our own garden, planting our own food...that way we can make sure that the veggies we're eating are really fresh!
• China
9 Oct 09
Hi, dear ckyera, my parents is living in a village, every family there have earth for them to grow plant. Yeah, it is great that they can eat pesticide-free and fresh vegetable. You remind me that we use refrigerator to keep our food fresh. Actually it is not fresh after several days storage. My prent-in-law like buying lots of vegetable, meet, other food in one time and keep them for more than 10 days.
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Ckyera, nice to meet you again. I am fine. And hope you are fine too. Does youre parents still working? My parents never get a job, they work for themself, and now they only have a vegetable garden to take care, they grow vegetable for themself.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I called also my parents once if am not on home early. I will not called her always because she is not away from me...We reside in one place that is why not need to called her always...I don't have gap with my parent's even before...Have a nice day!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
Parents-in-law, is hard to live with, my friend. I don't like they treat for their children wife or husband. It seems they are rule the world, where they set restriction on them...Have a nice day!
• China
10 Oct 09
Hello, Aerous, that is great that there is no gap between you and your parent, especially when you get to live with them everyday. I find I have gap with my parent-in-law. Anyway, they just come to stay with us for several months, after that, they will come back to their hometown. I am trying to keep good relationship with them... Hava a nice day too.
• China
11 Oct 09
Hello, Aerous, it may not true for all parent-in-law. I have gap with my parent-in-law, but still I think they are nice person, except we really have quite different living habit. And they love my son very much...
• China
27 Oct 09
hello ~ kk , i'm a college students now , and before i'm college i was stay with my parents . i call them once a week , sometime they are complain to me and said i should call them more . hehe~ i think i'm a big guy now ,and i should learn to be independent .so if i have meet with with difficulties i would like to overcome by myself . but i think i indeed should be more concerned about them .
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• China
26 Oct 09
It is sad to say that my mom calls me more often than me. She calls me about once two days. It could be because she think I am too busy to remember to call hom. It is not good tho. Thank you for the topic, Karen. I never realized that before. I'll call my parents more frequently.
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• China
27 Oct 09
Hello, Paltalkpages, thanks for your response. I think you are so lucky that your mom care you so much. Why you feel sad? So call your monther more if you got time. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
8 Oct 09
This has never happened to me, because I stay with my parents. But while I am in office to get the status of my family, I call at least two times to my home phone. When ever I need to talk with my parent irrespective of my location I do call them and talk to them to update the status. This is really important to me while its urgent to have discussion with them.
@gmkk1986 (471)
• India
10 Oct 09
I am very happy to be with them and even I got many offers to fly out from my location and my parents.. but I just rejected them. Because we cant get the time what I am having right now with them. Really I am glad with my parents, they help me in every moment and I share almost every thing with them. Money never matters in front of relationship.
• China
10 Oct 09
Hello, Gmkk, it is great that you have a close relationship with your parent... Your parent must be very glad that you treat them as your friend that to talk about everything. Especially you consult with them for the problem you encounter... Have a great day and happy mylotting.
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• China
11 Oct 09
I actually hope to stay near to my parent if it is allowed. Anyway, there is no job opportunity for my in my hometown, as it is a village and few factory there... My parent said whenever their is festival, they think of us, as they think we are quite lonely here...
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
8 Oct 09
I call my parents at least once a day and on many occasions I could call up to 3 times a day. My parents live in Florida so I don't get to see them as offen as I wish. So I call and or skype them. Which is one of the best inventions ever.
• China
8 Oct 09
Wow, Lelin, I can see you have a great realtionship with your parents! What kind of topic are you usually talk about? You tell them everything happened around you? Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
8 Oct 09
Yes there is alot to talk about because I have my granddaughter living with me along with my daughter and her husband. We also talk about tv shows that we watch. About the weather and there health issues. Not to mention stuff that happens in the news.
• China
9 Oct 09
Hi Lelin, nice to hear from you again. I guess you have much in common with your mother, as both of you are grandmother So you gets lots to say... By the way, does your parents come here in mylot? I know lots of grandparent are here, but do not know if there is people who is more senior
• United States
9 Oct 09
I sometimes talk to my parents everyday and sometimes every other day. I dont like talking on the phone but we always find something to talk about. We will talk about my kids or things we have done that day, or tv shows. Sometimes we talk about there health and whats going on at my dads job and how they keep talking about laying people off. I dont live with my parents but we do live close. About 10 minutes apart.
• United States
11 Oct 09
10 minutes by car. Yeah they help us out a lot with our kids. My neighbor is my husbands mom and dad so we keep intouch with them all the time to. Its nice because we always have close family. The kids get to spend a lot of time with there grandparents and aunts.
• China
13 Oct 09
That is so great... You have are close to both of your parent and parent-in-law. We are living far away from both parents, especially parent-in-law. Both of my parents are not willing to come to stay with us, or only come here for a short time. So I have to send my son to live with them in another city... That is really sad
• China
10 Oct 09
Hello Heather, 10 minutes by foot or by bus? No matter by what, I think it is pretty close. I hope I can live close to my parent too. In that case, they can help me taking care of my son in daytime and I can see day everyday... My parent hope we can live near them as well, anyway, there is less work opportunity for us in our hometown, and we get less pay there...
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
9 Oct 09
My parents live interstate so I only get the chance to see them about once a year. We speak on the phone only about once or twice a month. We have a good catch up when we do talk and the conversation is usually long by the time I and my kids talk to them both. If we talked more regularly, I do not think we would have much to talk about! I am trying to get my mum to upgrade her internet connection and get Skype. My sister is interstate as well and we regularly call her on Skype and it is great because we can see each other through our webcams! We never call each other over the regular phone, because it is so much better with Skype!
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
10 Oct 09
No I did not miss them too much when I moved away as I only saw them about once a month when I lived nearby to them. It has only been recently since my sister has had children that I miss them all.
• China
11 Oct 09
You are so indepent! I think man are doing better than woman on this... My best wishes to you and your family.
• China
10 Oct 09
Hello, Rawbill, you must miss your parent at the beginning of your apart. I was homesick at the first year I left my hometown and I call my parent almost everyday... Yeah, it would be great if you and your parent can get in touch by internet, it is much more cheap...
• United States
8 Oct 09
I call my parents only when there is something that needs to be said. My dad and I have always been close from a "business partner" perspective; he helped tons in getting my real estate business up and running back when I started it at 15. To this day if I have problems with tenants or an actual physical property I can call him and get advice. My mother is a different story. She and I have major disagreements that I can't look pass for the most part because they come up in nearly every conversation we have. I only call her as often as is necessary to keep her happy and to keep her from calling me. I find that she never is too interested to hear what I have to say, and will never ask me about me in return for when I ask her about how she is, so it really isn't too fun to call, to say the least! I talk to my dad on nearly a daily basis, but I call my mom about once every two or so weeks unless there is something unclarified about a family get-together or there is an immediate question to be asked. There's a gap between my mom and I but only because of our differences. If it weren't for the rest of my family badgering me about calling her, I wouldn't call as often. I'm the type of person who doesn't care if you are blood related or not...if you are a good person, I definitely want to talk to you/know you, etc, and if not, I don't. My mom doesn't necessarily fall in that "good" category so I avoid calling for the most part.
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Lovinglife, I am sorry to hear your feeling about your mother. I too care more about true feeling but not blood relationship... Good luck to you and your family.
• United States
8 Oct 09
It's good to see others that care mostly about personality. I honestly thought people would insult me for posting that. I can't change my mother but I can wish for what can't be. The good thing is that I'm adopted and have a whole other family in another state that I can talk to if need be. Not everyone has that option, so I'm very grateful.
• China
9 Oct 09
Hi Lovinglife, I think I can understand your feeling, so should others... Good luck to you, my friend.
@malpoa (1216)
• India
11 Oct 09
I ring up my mother more than once in a week. Ultimately we talk more than 3 or 4 times a day. She calls up when she feels like and I call up when i feel like. Other than these times we have fixed call time son wednesday evenings and sunday mornings. My motyher lives 200miles away from me and as she isnt into computers, calls are the only way to keep in touch with her and to know what is going on that side of the country. We too speak a lot every time we call and it can be anything about the new palnt sahe palnted or gossips about relatives hi hi
@malpoa (1216)
• India
13 Oct 09
Last year when my husband went abroad on work, I went and stayed with my mom for over a month. It was a riot hi hi and i vowed that I wont go there this year. I am not going...It is better to be in talking terms than being in cold war. Here also we have this practice of going and staying with parents during pregnancy. I have already decided that I wouldnt go and stay with her hi hi. There is a correction, I live 2000miles away from her. Goodday to you too.
• China
11 Oct 09
Hello, Malpoa, it's great that you are having a close relationship with your mother. You are so lucky as not everyone can have lots of topic with their parent. One of my colleague even said she do not like to back her home, as most of the time they keep silent, they just have nothing to talk about... Thanks for your response and happy mylotting.
• China
13 Oct 09
Haha... Malpoa, I can understand you. I was actually being in the same situation like you. When I deliver my son, I staied at home for about four months, and at that period, we have the worst relationship... We have lots of divarication, especially when it goes to my babyson... Anyway, after I leave them and working in another city, we back to the good relationship... Have a nice day and thanks for your response.
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@seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Oct 09
Hi karen, How sweet of you with your parents, how i wish i could have same time with you talking to my mom. I'm living far from her and our only way of communicating is by calling her and through the internet. I only call her when it's emergency as it is too costly, otherwise I'll send her an SMS to chat with me online via internet. In three weeks time she's coming to visit us here abroad and I'm excited to see her again after almost two years when I last have my vacation. Good Day!
• United Arab Emirates
11 Oct 09
Hi karen, No, the avatar is just taken from the net. My baby is yet to be born end of this month. I don't know if you've gone through same experience, having some illusions on how he would look like. I really feel so excited as he is my first baby, a precious one after so many years of trying.
• China
13 Oct 09
Yeah, I am a mon of a 12 months old son. Anyway, I think you will never know what he looks like after you see him/her. There is a saying in our area, son are tend to looks like his mother, while daughter looks like her father. It of course is not true for all cases, my son looks like his father instead. Congratulations for becoming a mother soon. With my best wishes to you and to your lovely baby!
• China
10 Oct 09
Hello, Seanbryan, it is not bad talking through internet as well. It is convenient and a cheap ways if both of you have computer at home. I can understand how much you miss your parent... Is the avatar your baby's photo? It is so cute! Have a good day too.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I live alone, and I call my mother every day. I am handicapped and if I don't call her or tell her when I have something scheduled she thinks there is something wrong with me. I talk to her every morning, so we don't really have much to talk about. I am usually tired and I don't want to talk much, not that I have much to say but I am usually glad we don't talk long.
• China
10 Oct 09
Dear Cerebellum, I hope everything goes alright with you. Why not live with your parent? I think you will not feel lonely if you get to stay with your family... By best wishes to you and your family. Good luck.
• China
11 Oct 09
Hi Cerebellum, I am glad to know your positive attitute... and you can manage yourself alone quite well... Welcome to mylot and join us if you have time. Best wishes!
• United States
10 Oct 09
I like living alone and my mother does also I guess I do need help, but I can usually get a friend to help me. I don't really get lonely. When you live alone you can do whatever you want whenever you want. She stayed with me for a few weeks after I got out of the hospital and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, but I was still glad when I had the house to myself. Also, she lives on the 3rd floor of an apartment building, and I have difficulty going up the steps, I would never be able to do laundry there, and the bathroom isn't set up for a handicapped person.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
12 Oct 09
I'm staying with them; so normally when I'm outside, I don't really make it a point to call unless they need me to check on them to buy something outside or not. I can't imagine staying away from my parents; because right now, they are getting older and all that and I keep getting worried if I stay alone, away from them.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 Oct 09
Thanks so much, Karen. You are a good daughter yourself and I know what you mean because my parents are also very sentimental about the place they have stayed for a long time. Hope that we are able to repay back the kindness to our parents always. Take care yeah..
• China
13 Oct 09
Hello, Zed, I am tell you are really a good son. And I think your parent must be appreciate for what you done for them. I am not able to live with my parent as there are short of work opportunity. I am asking them to come here and stay with us. Anyway, they do not want to, to leave a place that they have been staying for about sixty years... With my best wishes to you and to your family. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
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@dodo19 (47043)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Oct 09
I don't live with my parents. I live with my husband, two hours away from our parents as we go to university two hours away from where they live. I don't really talk to my parents very often. I'm not really close to my parents. I'd probably say that I talk to my grandmother and my mother-in-law more often than I do with my parents. I just don't really have a great relationship with either of them.
@dodo19 (47043)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
12 Oct 09
Yes, I agree with you. A relationship should be based by both sides. Both should work on the relationship. Otherwise it doesn't really work.
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Dodo, I believe some people are more closed to their mother-in-law than to their parents. Relationship need to be build by bothside...
@grimsage (28)
• Romania
8 Oct 09
Well, I've moved out of my parents house about 3 years ago and I rarely call them but this is due to the fact that my mom calls me almost every day. Most of the time she calls to see how am I doing and making small talk and rarely about a real problem/issue/concern/question.
• Romania
8 Oct 09
The problem is that I can't keep up and call her before she calls me :D, but now and then I try to phone her first ;) Have a nice day and happy mylotting to you too.
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Grimsage, thanks for your response. Yeah, all parents love their kids, but to lots of them, there is a gap in between. Why not call your mother sometimes before she call you, I think she must be glad if you do that. Have a nice day and happy mylotting to you.
• China
10 Oct 09
it's not regular to me. sometimes i call my parents everyday, or even several times a day. but sometimes several days or weeks. certainly there is no several months mostly, we talked abt the conditions in the countryside where my parents are living in now. and my job, and my future marriage...
• China
12 Oct 09
hi, karenkarenkk, thank you very much. i hope so too. and best wishes to you too!
• China
11 Oct 09
Hello, Yolanda, my best wishes to you and your future marriage... Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
Hello karen, I live far from my parents and from my siblings. But i don't missed them that much coz,we always call each other almost everyday and send text messages everyday. And,i am also thankful for this internet,i am able to see them thru webcam. My mom and i used to chat everyday so,in this manner i don't missed her absence. And,i always tried to visit my siblings 2 times a year during December break and summer vacation.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
there are lot of promos for smart calls here in our country my friend. Like,20 pesos(US$ 40 cents)for 10 minutes,and 20 pesos for 2 days texting messages. Other networks here even offers a monthly unlimited calls for only 300 pesos($8 US dollar) And even internet connections,there are low rates offers for computer to mobile calls.
• China
8 Oct 09
Hi Jaiho, you remind me, there is such promote in our country. But only for the same city or same province, or it does not work...
• China
8 Oct 09
Hello, Jaiho, so do you spend quite a lot on your phone charge? Is the communicational charge in your country expensive? It's quite expensive here, only about half hours talking spend one-tenths of my daily earning. My parents do not know how to use a computer, so we never chat by internet. Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
19 Nov 09
Hello,Karen. Now I don't live with my parents.I went university to study last year.Then I must go far away from my hometown and my family,to persue my dreams.I miss them very much,even every day.I must talk with them on phone or by internet. Generaly,I will send short messages to them at least once one week.I feel very sorry to my parents for not call them quite often.Only when I need money and I have difficulties in school life,I will call them.It's very bad. So I say to myself,I determine to call my parents and brother much time every week.Though I have a lot to do in school and my parents and brother also have their job and are busy,I will promise to call them much. I go back my home in summer and winter holidays,we will talk much about my school life and their new changes at home.Sometimes,they will ask me whether I have a boyfriend,and they will imagine and describe the appearence of my future lover.It make me shy and laugh.I think they are so funny. I like stay with my family,which take many joys to me.I will value the time we stay together.When I must leave for school,I am sad but strong to smile.I don't want them to see my tears,then they must be very sad as well as me.I just smile to wave my arms after hugging them to say goodbye.
• China
19 Nov 09
Hello, Daisy, thank you for your response. I can see you really have a great relationship with your parent and your siblings. So you must miss them a lot at the first several months after your leaving home. I have been in the same situation as you, I go to another province that is far away from hometown for study and can only go back home in summer and winter holidays... Anyway, everything will work out right. Cheer up and wish you be happy everyday.