Does everyone want to be appreciated and loved?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
October 10, 2009 10:36am CST
It has often been said that under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. Have you ever found this to be the case? Do you believe it to be true for everyone? Personally, I think that it may be true but it takes a certain person to penetrate that hard surface, and it's not always the person we think. Sometimes it may even be initiated by that person himself. One example that always comes to my mind happened when I was young and just starting out in the work force. A young man who everyone thought of as tough skinned was offered a job and while it paid a higher salary, he apparently didn't feel qualified, and for some reason he recommended me. When I got the job which I was very excited about at the time, he appeared very pleased. I let him know that I appreciated what he had done and we are still friends today. Others who don't know the story are often surprised.
2 responses
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
13 Oct 09
Hi Pose,
Yes, I think everybody wants to be liked and appreciated and it has to do something with our ego. When somebody likes me or appreciates me, while I feel that my efforts and qualities have been recognized, I also feel a certain pride and elation with myself which I believe massages my ego, no matter how much I may want to control it.
People who act tough I guess are either inherently introvert or insecure or their level of ego is higher than the rest of us. They kind of play hard to get and for whatever be the reason, they feel kind of smug in the knowledge that most people around them hold them in awe of something. They feel that if they open up and expose themselves, the aura of toughness is gone and they become more accessible and therefore more ‘common’…*shrug*…I like to be open and accessible, though!
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
12 Oct 09
Pose-
I believe everyone wants to be appreciated. I see it every day in those I deal with. When you take the time to give that little extra attention of a thank you, or an acknowledgement of really appreciating one's service, activity, or what not you build them up in a healthy way.
I think sometimes we forget this in our busy world of hustle and bustle. Perhaps it is just a need for us to slow down our day and give love to those around us. I've noticed that sometimes it is just a mere smile that makes someone's day.
A few stories that come to mind are when an older Vet will stop and talk to my husband. One was priest who stopped my husband on the way into our bank one day. The man just wanted to share his story with someone and was so touched that my husband would listen to him.
Namaste-Anora
