Discussions and no details

@bdugas (3581)
United States
October 10, 2009 11:07pm CST
have you ever come across people who post just a few lines on here as to start a discussion and they give no information as to why some thing is happening in their lives and you in reply give them information as to agencies that can help them, and then they start a second discussion as to all the info they didn't put in the first one, and then come down on you as being rude and offensive for making those suggestions when they already tried those things. What is it with people that don't write but a few lines in a discussion and then want to belittle you for asking questions, is it that I am the only one that wants to know why something is not working or that offers info as to agencies that could be of help to them, Is that sticking my nose in where it does not belong. What do you do when you offer information that could help them and they come back on you as you are reading between the lines and making judgements that are not true. We can only go by what someone types in a discussion, we can not know the facts if it isn't stated. Do you just skip the next reply or do you try to defend your self and then get in a heated arguement with them.
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@sid556 (30997)
• United States
12 Oct 09
I know the discussion you are talking of here. You should have re-read the original post and you would (or should) see clearly that you did not NEED the additional info that you insisted you needed. You responded completely off-topic and would not listen to anyone who tried very hard to explain to you. The poster was not asking for help or sympathy at all. Personally, I feel you owe her an appology. I have misinterpreted things at times and it is easy to do. I found that an appology works wonders and the people here are very forgiving. Hope you consider it. I think you would feel better.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Well said!
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Thanks cat. I agree with you. sometimes it is just hopeless and way to frustrating to try to reach someone. time to give up.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
12 Oct 09
If I misinterpreted the intent of the discussion, I'd appologize. If you go back and read some of the responses, you will see that that is the case.
@bdugas (3581)
• United States
12 Oct 09
I only went by the original few lines, I tried to offer help as to where they could go to maybe get help for their problem and they came back attacking me that I was judging them, and when i answered more of what they wrote it became a fight that appeared to me to be getting them attention, and them their friends jumped in and had their say so. 2 statements in the original would of cleared up the whole things, and no matter how many times you told them that, they proceeded to want to come back with attacks on me, if she had stated her age at the beginning and that they had tried all the sources of help and could not get any because they had no under age kids living with them, it would of all been over, after her friends dropped in to offer their thought then they posted the whole story. To me they was looking for a pity party and that is what they got. Although she doesn't want any of the fight she still sending me messages that I now ignore. What she wanted was I guess for you to just agree with her, I thought that this is a place for discussions, you post it and we discuss it. Maybe I'm on the wrong site and don't under stand, if I don't under stand something then I will ask questions, is that wrong?
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
13 Oct 09
That would be best. Just to avoid any confusion to anyone who may not have seen that discussion, constructive & friendly help is always welcome. You choice words that were in fact very offensive whether you meant to or not. You said, "If you had done right when you were younger you would not be in that spot". etc. It was offensive enough that your remarks have been removed. I'm sorry you can't see it for what it is and just offer the lady an appology.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Well spoken Sid. I can't understand that either. However, I'm only going to bang my head against the wall for so long before I'm ready to move on. Which is now...lol.