How to react with your girlfriend?

Syria
October 12, 2009 8:59pm CST
HI i have a girlfriend and i love her very much by the way,but i seem to have trouble with her every time and then,she gets mad at me and sometimes she doesn't talk to me for about 2 days.what do you think i should do?(do not consider leaving her because i can't stand living with out her).
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@sid556 (30999)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Hi there Elie, What sort of things does she get mad at you at? And how often does this happen? Well, I think communication is very very important in a relationship. I understand that it can be healthy when angry to walk away and cool off. Not talking to your partner for 2 days at a time is the silent treatment which can be very painful and not good at all for the relationship. It doesn't help anything. I think that you need to talk to your girl at a time when you are not arguing and tell her how you feel about this. It sounds as if you really care deeply about her. Hopefully she will care enough about you to with you on this problem.
• Syria
13 Oct 09
to tell you the truth she does care too but i think in her own special way, you know what i mean. most of the things are not important but none the less we fight about it. and yeah you are right i do care and love her so much.
@yyfyqb (97)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Do not keep asking her"what is wrong with you ?". Obviously she is mad.You can get in touch with her after two days and at that moment she will not be mad.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
13 Oct 09
dang you must really make her upset.. but you need to first of all stop getting her that upset and say sorry. but sound like you both need to learn to talk and listen to each other
• United States
13 Oct 09
I would suggest talking to your girlfriend about this. If it bothers you so much and if you want to stay with her, then this is something that you guys will have to figure out. Believe it or not, silent treatment is a form of abuse, and should not be used in any types of relationship. Encourage openness in your communication, and for your part, listen to what she has to say without interruption, don't get overly defensive, keep your calm, and then figure out a way that you both can do something or change something to avoid another dispute.
13 Oct 09
hahaha i'm kinda like your girlfriend. i also quarrel my boyfriend for no reason at all. that is because sometimes something gets me irritated and i release my irritation to him.