have you experience witnessing someone took their last breath and died?

@jndlponti (2408)
Philippines
October 14, 2009 2:33am CST
I would like to ask this question to you, have you? Well I did, I witness my late grandmother took her last breathe in her hospital bed then died. I was really shucked. I did not believe the doctor when he declared that she was gone. It was only me who is with her that time coz she really requested that I will be the one to be with her... I really was shucked, and was bothered for so many months, I was the only one whom she shared everything she felt and all about her pains. A few days before that she keep on telling me she was already very very tired and want to rest. So I said whe should. Did I say the right thing? Coz I feel that she finally give up her life coz she have my approval.what do you think?
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@larish (2193)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Yes, I have experience this, it was my friend's dad. He suffer from a heart attack and has been transfer to a regular room after being at the ICU for 1 week when he started to suffer convulsion and lost his breathe. The doctors try to recover him but his wife (my friend's mom) told them to stop and let his husband lay to rest. I admire the courage of this woman, she has seen how her husband suffer and doesn't to see more of his sufferings. I honestly commend you letting your grandma to resign from this life. She has achieve a lot from this life and I think it is really her time. Just always think of the fun and good things you spend with her and not the time of her demise. I am sure that she wants you to keep good memories and not the bad ones. You did a very good job.
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience with your grandma and grandpa. At least for now, you can share a lot of stories to your kids (if you have now) or to your future kids. Happy myloting.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
yes I do have. The little girl in the picture is my daughter Gwen. She is still 1 year old. Yah I will really share all the wonderful memories I have with my grandparents to her. For those people are really a good example, and they are the big piece of the puzzle why I came to this world and how my baby came to this world.
@jpso138 (7865)
• Philippines
25 Oct 09
Yes, I have been a witnessed to a lot of people dying and seeing their last breath. This is because I have worked as a paramedic for about 13 years and responding to emergencies is part of my work. Well, I have to give out my best and try to bring them back to life. There are those that I was able to save and there are those I cannot. What is important is that I give out my best.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
That is very true. You have a very been a very big help to those people. There are just sometimes that we say it is already there tim to die and we could not do anything about it anymore but just accept the fact. Thank you for being able to respond on this discussion.
@xannebull (1800)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
yeah i did, i was alone when i went visiting my grandfather at the hospital at that time, i visited him for no reason, my mind's really telling me to go to the hospital and visit my grandpa, so i hurriedly visit him. There was no people around the room since it's lunch time and my parents were just eating their lunch in our house, i suddenly saw my grandpa breathed so fast that he opened his mouth but his eyes were closed. i called him and shouted his name, but he never heard what i had said, until i witnessed his last breath, i could see his fingernails got black and his toes gets black too, i then hurriedly called the nurse and was shocked to what had happened it took me three days to sleep well after the incident.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I do feel the same way... I can really say that it is once in a lifetime experience which we call one of the bad experience but we keep on remembering it for it was the only last moment we have with someone we really love.
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
The mere fact that you see someone close to you dying is an unfortunate feeling.I felt so helpless. I saw my dad die and I felt that it was not right. That was 8 years ago. He was not able to bid us farewell because it was a heart attack. Until now I felt that it is still not right but life has to move on.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I feel sorry for your sorrow... Truly is. Life has to go on. we might not understand life most of the time but this are just things that would make us stronger and a better person.. It was just so sad that he wasn't able to say some last words for you or anyone of you. Praying for your comfort...
@happy6162 (3009)
• United States
14 Oct 09
No I have not witness someone taking their last breath. I think you did the right thing by telling her she should rest. You should not feel bad for letting her know how much you love her and understood what she was going through by telling her it was okay to rest now.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Good for you that you haven't seen one. Thank you for that, you are one of those many who told me I did the right thing. After I posted this yesterday and got all your responses I was really felt relieve. I was finally free with that guilt.That I thought I should be.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I think what you do is the right thing to do at that time. Your grandmother and just like other dying people would have want to live this world knowing that their love ones will be okay when they go. She just wanted your assurance that you can be able to accept her disappearance in this world. As you said, you are closely attached and together you have gone to so many things. The reason why she kept on telling you about the pains she was having is because she wanted to hear from you that you are ready to let go of her. What you did is actually an act of bravery and selflessness. If you told her the other way, you would just probably prolong her agony and pain. Can you stand to see that? That will be harder for both of you. Your grandmother is in a wonderful place already. A place without pain, sadness and hunger... a perfect place beside our Lord God! And thanks to you. It is her time and you had just gave me her a favor of making her leave at peace. She really wanted to leave but having a second thought because of you and other love ones. Do not worry at all, your grandmother would not want to see you feeling guilty or blaming yourself for nothing.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yah.. I guess so. But don't know that I only shared this to my mother that I let my grandmother go. Cause I was so scared to tell my Aunties that when my grandma said she was very very tired I told her that it is time for her to rest, she had done everything already for her children and now she has to choose her self. That was the exact thing I told her.. I was scared to tell my it to my other aunts, for one of them told my grandma that she could not die unless she haven't signed the will. I really don't like that Aunt. She is so selfish.
@sender621 (14951)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Unfortunately, I have witnessed someone taking their last breath and dying. It's a picture in my mind that I'll never forget. it was my husband. He had cancer and was on hospice care for the last two months of his life. A hospice nurse was coming for a visit. Before she arrived I was with my husband. I literally watched him breathe his last and slip away. There was nothing I could do to help him. It was so devasting to me.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
14 Oct 09
I was there when my mother breathed her last. It was an awful feeling; te whole world had collapsed on me and all I could see was darkness. Yes, I loved my mother a lot and to see her dying in front of my eyes was the last thing I wanted. She was in hospital at that time and because she had sugar, she had lost her kidneys and was on dialysis. Even though I knew that she wouldn't live much longer, I lost the most loving person on earth.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Oh I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you still find comfort after that incident and I hope you already overcome the pain. I do understand what you felt. Just thinking that my mother or father will just die one day it makes me feel so scared. I really felt sorry. I'll pray for you to overcome the pain.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
14 Oct 09
Very hard question to remember the answer. that was my grand mother. when i was only in my 9th standard and very young. during that time i saw that incident, when every body was saying that now nothing left and she was leaving us. she took her last breath as we come to know when there were no movement in the vein of her neck. that was a very different kind of thing in my life.
@rainmark (4302)
14 Oct 09
Nobody wanted to see our loveones to suffer pain, so what you said to her is right. She should rest from all the pain. I can feel what you feel too, it also going to bothered me if I'm in your situation, coz it's not easy to lost your loveones. But in my case, I never experienced it, when my late grandDad past-away, I was in my parents place, but i will never forget him, his a good grandDad to me. Happy myloting.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
good for you... You know what they say about grandparents? They said that grandparents tend to love their grandchildren even more than their own children. Most of the grandparents are very supportive and protective with their grandchildren. Where parents says they were not able to experience it during their time before when they were young.
@Zenstrive (239)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 09
No, not yet. But If I must, I want it to be in a peaceful setting
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Hope so... But there are some incidents that we could not expect.
• China
14 Oct 09
Hi, jndlponti, I'm sorry to hear that. Fortunately, I haven't experienced it so far. When my grandparents leaving, my parents protect me avoiding this situation. My parents just informed me when grandparents had passed away. I'm sorry that you have this feeling that your grandmother's leaving with your approval. That's not your fault indeed. Sometimes I just think we should respect the person's own idea. I think she was relieved because you have grown-up. You have been a independent person. We all have to face this situation, our close relates or friends pass away sooner or later. It's really heart-struke. But I think it's not your grandmother's will to make you regret. And I think she gets the eternal peace. Hope you will be better soon. Cheers up, for your grandmother!
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
good for you then... but maybe it was really my fate to see my grandparents die.. Since maybe because I am the eldest among the grandchildren. I already been in the situation for 3 times... Thank you for cheering me up!
• United States
14 Oct 09
I agree... I did not witness my grandmother die but I did see her a couple days before she passed and told it was okay if she had to leave us.... We would understand.... She held on long enough to see my cousin and passed on... I felt awful for not being there with her but I think she knew I would not be able to handle it... I was supposed to go see her the next day... So yes I agree with you! If she was tired and suffering I think you said the right things....
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Our grandparents are really dear to us... Glad to know that I did the right thing. I hope our grandmothers now are already friends their in heaven. Thank you for that reply! have fun mylotting!