Ladies, would you ask a guy out And pay for dinner?

United States
October 14, 2009 9:34am CST
I would. If I had the money and a guy I liked,I would definitely ask him out.and I would tell him Before we left that the night is on me. I know this sounds strange coming from a starch male chauvinist but I believe whomever asks the other person out pays. Iwould never ask aguy to take me out and assume he is going to pay.
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@wolf2999 (212)
• China
15 Oct 09
I don't think it is a big deal.I'm a guy.
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• United States
15 Oct 09
So you wouldn't think that the woman is too bold? Great!Thanks for your response.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I've never asked a guy out before, but if I did I would pay for dinner. I like to be asked out to dinner :-D But now that I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, we split just about everything because it's not like we have the money to go out that often.
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• United States
15 Oct 09
That's okay too. I can see asking a guy if we could go out but then asking if we can split the bill.Do you plan dates for you and your boyfriend?
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I would not dare ask a guy out in the first place and surely not pay for dinner! In the first place i dont believe that i should be the one to ask out a guy because for one, guys that knows that you like them may tend to take advantage of you and his feelings may not be as genuine and sincere as compared to those guys that asks you out.
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• United States
15 Oct 09
Why Wait for the guy to ask? I can see if you don't have the money to pay for both of you but there are plenty of places you two can go for free. I think if a guy is insincere ,he will be that way regardless who asks whom out.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Yes....if I did the asking then I expect to pay....it used to be that it was one sided but since the evolution of women lib I think if you ask...you pay!
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@sblossom (2168)
14 Oct 09
It depends. if i need a help from the man I maybe invite him out and pay for the bill. if just for romatic relationship i definitely would not move the first step. I say like that, but it does not mean i agree with it. it is just from my nature. if as a lady you can move first step you would have more chances in life , in particular to choose partner. in fact if I think it twice maybe I will totally change compared to my past life. my husband always said I lost my chance when it came to me.
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• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hi there, i say, it depends on the personal circumstances of the person, so if the guy does not have enough money for the occasion while i do, then there's nothing wrong with me paying for dinner.
• Canada
15 Oct 09
I agree with you. The person who asks, is the person who should pay, and knowing you as I know you, I AM surprised you'd say that! LOL Interesting that the femininst and the non-feminist agree on this one. *grin*
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• United States
15 Oct 09
Well I guess I am old fashioned but not That old fashioned.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Why not?! I love it! Nothing's wrong with this set up.Asking a guy for a date? It would be fun but i think we can have an argument with regards to paying for our dinner. Men loves treating ladies for a dinner but men don't want the other way around.hehe happy mylotting!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I guess i'm still a little old fashioned. When i go out for dinner, I like the guy to do the asking. If a guy does ask me to dinner, i expect him to do the paying as well. I've never been comfortable asking a guy to dinner and paying for it. When I was married, it was different. It was a joint effort then.
• United States
15 Oct 09
I guess I am getting bold, If I met a guy and we got to talking and I had the money , I would ask him out to a movie or dinner.
• United States
15 Oct 09
Oops . I forgot to add , when we became a couple , I wouldn't give it a second thought to plan And Pay for an outing.