Help!How can I get through witiout her?

China
October 14, 2009 9:58am CST
It has been six months since I parted with my girlfriend.After the break-up,we are now living in two different cities respectively.However,what the matter is that I still cant't forget her.Each time I chat with girls,I always recall the memory of happy time with my ex-girlfriend.Frankly speaking,I love my ex-girlfriend very much except that she is not undivided.Anyway,we separated,so how can I get through without her?
10 responses
• Nigeria
15 Oct 09
you are a man, after all its not the end of the world. there are girls out there better off than her. go and enjoy youself. think of the future not the past. the past has gone today is here and tomorrow is yet to come. enjoy women they are given to men to enjoy but don't let them have control over you it is quite fatal. they have a dangerous way of sapping ones will power diverting ones aim in life and causing trouble. once more others are out there waiting 4 u.
• China
16 Oct 09
thanks.your suggestions are quite to the point,and i'll think over it.
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Hi Keenhan. Break up... Honestly I don't know because I haven't been in that situation yet. Because I havent been in a relationship for the past 26 years of my life. However, I am never tired of waiting for my God's will because I know he will come if it is really His will. I enjoy being single. I can do all the good things I want without any restriction from a partner. But I know I am not a typical 'bad girl' stained by modernity. I can do all the things I ever wanted and I enjoy this freedom. Maybe the reason why he is not coming yet is because God is writing the best love story for me. God speed. Maybe you wont believe me. But one thing that helps to keep you going on, moving on, letting go and healing---Pray and you have to push it. Push means... P - ray U - ntil S - omething H - appens. God bless you.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thanks for your comfort and advice.maybe i should learn from you.
• United States
15 Oct 09
move on and be hopeful if your meant for each other then fate will bring you back together, if not then find someone who deserves your love.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thank you,it's so nice of you to say so.
• China
15 Oct 09
I think time will help you. I know it is difficult to break up with the one you really love. But time can heal you. I think you should try to do some chatity work and turn your romantic love to true love for other people. And you will surely enjoy it and then one day I think you will find your Miss Right someday when the proper time comes. Now you just turn your attention on romantic love to other forms of love, I think you will soon over come with it. Good luck with you.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thank you.i will rethink it profoundly.
@SallyAnna (142)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Hi Keenhan, I'm sorry to hear about your breakup, I know it hurts right now but givin time things will get easier. There are many things you can do to start moving forward after a break up. Find other actiivities to do start a new hobby. Try not to dwell on what use to be or what could have been. Distance yourself emotionally and as hard as it may be at this point accept that it's over.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thank you.i believe i will recover sooner or later.
@solared (1207)
• United States
15 Oct 09
find a rebound, it won't help you find love, but at least raise your self esteem, but but be honest with whoever it is.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thanks for what you said.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
im sorry to hear about you and your girlfriend parting ways and i know how hard it is to recover. I suggest that you spend more time doing your hobbies, be more with your family, friends and best of all is to spend more time with God. He allows this to happen because he has something better and someone a lot more special for you. Happy posting!
• China
15 Oct 09
Thanks.anyway,tomorrow is another day.i will be ok sooner or later.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hello Keenhan! Breaking up is really hard. Especially when you really love that person. But no matter what happens, if it's really not meant to be then you have to learn to accept that you're not meant to be. Set yourself free with all those memories. Remember it but don't live with it. Just go on with your life. Anyways, what do you mean by " I love my ex-girlfriend very much except that she is not undivided" happy mylotting!
• China
15 Oct 09
Thanks.i will be just like what you said "remember it but don't live with it". P.S so far,that girl was my sole girlfriend.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Time will find its way for you to be able to move on. I think it is normal that you always compare the girls you meet to your ex. simply because you have the unconcious mind that just in case you will fall in love again, you will wish that she should be better than your ex. Maybe the next girl for hasn't arrive yet. Just take it slowly and be patient in waiting. Don't expect that you will forget your ex that easy, it will definitely takes time.
• China
15 Oct 09
Thanks for your advice.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
expressing your heartaches to a trusted friend is a very effective way. i think it's not that easy for boys since it's not in your nature but believe me, it will be a great help. instead of ignoring the pain, feel it until it hurts no more... :D
• China
15 Oct 09
thank you.i will try the method you recommend to me.