How to Improve Your Relationship with the Boss?

China
October 16, 2009 12:05am CST
It is said that the best way to lower your workplace stress is to improve your relationship with the boss. Yes, if you have a strong relationship with your boss, you can increase your day-to-day workplace happiness and have more chances to improve yourselves obviously. But for most stuff, it is really a challenge to try to improve your relationship with your boss. You see, they are not familiar with their bosses and they have no idea about which category does your boss fall into, understanding, friendly or scathing. It seems that it is impossible exactly for them to get along better with your boss. Have you met such a situation before? How to improve your relationship with your boss? If you have tried to improve the relationship, do you regard it as an important part of your job?
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@shajerrl (309)
• China
16 Oct 09
The best way I think is improving your work peformance, every boss will want his/her followers can try their best to work for him/her, so if your work can be well done always, your boss will turst you more and of course you will have a better relationship with your boss... anthoer point, if you have better personal relationship in privacy with your boss, maybe it's not good for you to improve youselves...but i not sure for this point, just for my imagination, this also will differ with different persons...good luck.
@shajerrl (309)
• China
16 Oct 09
I still think you should not to develop the private relations with your boss, the only thing you need to do is hardworking and creating more values to your boss, that's should be best and effective way to get the trust from your boss.
• China
16 Oct 09
Work peformance is an important part, relationship is important too.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
16 Oct 09
This advice is probably good for the subordinate, but most bosses would not be encouraged to get too familar with their staff.
• China
16 Oct 09
Why would most bosses not be encouraged to get too familar with their staff. From where I stand, people can do well if they keep a good relationship with their boss. In my country, nowadays, more and more bosses are encouraged to try their best to get familar with their staff, which is a friendly way to improve the work efficiency.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
16 Oct 09
Maybe I laft out a very important adverb - 'TOO,' familar. Which is different to friendly, as that can create jealeous feelings amongst the staff.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
16 Oct 09
I am not the right person to give you tips and tricks about imprssing your boss. The only possible way I can tell you is hard work and timely response. That is how I work with my boss. I have seen many people impressing their boss by flattery. I mean just by saying 'you look good in this dress' or 'this hair cuts suits you well', etc. stuff. I hate flattery and I am sure that I can never do that to anyone.
@AD1970 (116)
• Canada
16 Oct 09
I hate flattery too..In fact, if I don't like something my boss is doing, I will usually say it, but in a polite way...Unlike most of the others in my office who just flatter him and say only "yes". Like I said before, hard work is the key...And you have to make him notice that you did the job...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
To improve relationship with your boss will be a good performance. Because our employer need a good and better jobs that makes the company strength. But sometimes there are people improving relationship with their boss is physical to gain more attraction to their boss...Have a nice day!
• Malaysia
18 Oct 09
in an ideal case, being good to your boss is the way to go. However,the ideal situation may not exists fro you at the office. Office politics often make this difficult to ensure an office that exudes teamwork and camaraderie. What we see is competition and backbiting. For sure, I will try to improve my relationship with my boss. However, again it is two way street affair. Some bosses are just slave drivers for performance. Sometimes he plays favourite especially with the sweet young prima donnas of the office. If I have done my best and I continue to be treated like furniture, I will look for a new job.
@mdmdeg (38)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
I think to improve your relationship with your boss, you need to know your boss; what makes him tick, what makes him happy, what his likes and dislikes are. It is also important to note that you do your best in your work as well. I am lucky that I do not get a "bad" boss. I always get along with the bosses that I get.
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
I'd like to share my experiences. My boss and I respect each other but the only problem is the amount of work she give to me. I can't finish it within a day because I have so many more important works to deal with it. What I do is to always ask her what is her deadline over the work she give to me and I will do it whatever it takes. I am not a good subordinate I do also complain and refuse order but I let her see me as a hardworking employee, meaning I refuse some work coming from her because she can see obviously that I have many things to do or else i will submit what she want in later time. I am very professional and very multi task. I show to my boss she can depend on me always but I have reason if I can't do a certain job and make sure it is a valid reason.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
17 Oct 09
I do not deny that a good relationship with the boss can help you greatly when climbing up the corporate ladder. However, I feel it is the ability and capability that counts. Bosses, in my opinion, certainly do have certain quality before they are "fitted" to be considered a respectable boss.
@Leixa003 (867)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
I had read in a newspaper regarding a seminar on how to improve in relationships with people. It talks about how to categorize them effectively, like if they are visual, auditory or people that are more on feelings. I think it is a better way on improving your relationship with other people like your boss if you know what type of person he or she is. Like for example if you boss is visual, you need to present your ideas with photos or a clear picture of what you want to tell. If he or she is auditory then you have to make your speech clear, your ideas well said and stuffs like that. If base on feelings (i think i miss the proper term for this third type ) you have to be detailed in you ideas. I think the basic stuff is just to be doing the things that makes your boss happy. Not that you need to do things beyond your work prescription like doing laundry or stuffs like that. It could be simple things like passing your work on time, researching, stuffs that make your work efficient. I do not think any boss will not be happy if you do your job effectively and efficiently and if he or she is not happy then I think it is better to resign
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
I tried very hard to please myself to comply all the task im engaged into and not my boss. I don't need to please them just to improve myself. If I work well, I will be noticed by my boss because of my work. You're just creating jealousy if you tried to build a good relationship with your boss.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
18 Oct 09
Whether you like his decisions or not, simply obey him and try to complete the assignments given to you by your boss in time and don't try to give him ideas or suggestions, unless asked because no boss likes his subordinates advising him
@ericaldo (35)
• Indonesia
17 Oct 09
I have never tried to attract the attention of my boss because all the boss would be interested in staff who have good performance. So, in every chance I only work with all my heart, love my work, discipline with the existing schedule. I work not for my boss, but for myself.. for my pleasure, that I applied and I was one of the staff favorite and trust for my boss. If we work for a boss, I'm sure everything will be chaotic because we do not work with sincerity
@Imsweet (27)
• Pakistan
16 Oct 09
Hello! This is a good topic for discussion...If someone is honest,hardworking,punctual,obediant and loyal he can improve his relationship with his boss by these characteristics....
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
17 Oct 09
Yes it is necessary to improve relationship with your boss or should i say THE BOSS. But in order for you to achieve you need to be cautious, one hint that your boss sees in you that you are tagging along, this will not result in a good situation, the minute he/she notice what you are doing (trying to improve relationship) they will take you for a RIDE. So how do you do it, as much as possible dont ever talk to him business/pleasure/friendship it is important that The BOSS gets to notice you first in the workplace... by.... means,,,, excelling in your "prescribe" responsibility, like if you have to report on something, prepare in neatly and concisely and make comparison from other projects, which means you are digging deeper for your company's profits and needs. and like if you have peers in your workplace, you could personally remind them of their work thus building leadership and once your famous you will get noticed by you boss and you will get what you bargained for.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
16 Oct 09
Hi there! I think that it is pertinent to have a good relations with you boss at work place. One needs to be submissive and be attentive to listen to commands and requests of one's boss. Boss should never be undermined or disrespected. One should accept the fact that the Boss is better qualified and experienced than him, that is why he is the boss and he be respected. We should have cordial relations with your boss and we should always listen to him/her and should not displease her/him, without any substantial reasons. If one wins the heart of his Boss, he would be in his good books and will be benefited in the long run.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
16 Oct 09
Yeah it's hard to get well along with the boss. Some bosses are hard to be close to because they have to be serious all the time or have to be authoritative. I never tried to improve my relationship with the bosses i used to have because i'm a very quiet person. It's difficult for me to do that although i agree with you. All i tried to do is to try my best to work hard during the working hours and enjoyed myself after work.
@liujuanxh (170)
• China
16 Oct 09
i also want to know the good method to improve the relationship with my boss.
@buping (952)
• China
16 Oct 09
well i do not need to do this kind of thing. for my boss always in hongkong and maybe once in a month visiting here. and he is a man that judge a person by his achievement on his work. as long as i did well on my own job, he would be good to me. and i think it is better to improve your achievement rather than improving relationship with boss
• India
16 Oct 09
i think an intelligent and wise boss are not like flattering. to be close and make a good relation with a boss you need to care and sincere on your office duty first. by your sincere and satisfactory work, you may get attention and comes close to your boss. he may like you.but if you treat it's like a friendship as like as office mate, college friend,personal friend, it will not good may be.always need to remember, boss like you by your official activities , sincerity and performance. you must keeping respect to him. off course its a important part, if your boss like you and you able build a good relationship, boss may increase your increment and other facility, which are improve your living quality.
• China
16 Oct 09
Getting along with boss well is more an artistry than a univsersal rule. There , however ,are still some generally recongized principles that people would do well to follow. First, try every measures available to fulfill your daily tasks handed over from your boss and preferably less complaints. Second, aside from making routine reports to your boss, you'd better ,from the your boss's stance, to check and recheck your work rather than just do your part. In short, borden your view and rethink your work from a higher stage. To make suggetions about improvement of your work really matters. third, you should give compliments/render thanks to your boss when feeling necessary without worries that you are flattering him.