Diggin' for gold or following your instincts

Hi, Naylani One thing my mother said that really stuck with me is that she did not want me to marrya rich man. She would prefer that I marry a poor but business-minded man. Someone who is not lazy, someone who knows how to work hard and provide for his family. I understood what she meant and agreed with her. One can run out of money but if he is not lazy then he will never be helpless. Cheers!

There is an old saying. Marry someone for their money and you will earn every dime!You have to go for true love. Anything else is just a mess.If you marry a person for money, what will you do if the money runs out?? Hmmm???

Sorry, can't help to barge in. I have nothing but utter respect for women whom are independent and I cannot bear to see when a lady has been used (especially in terms of money) to support a man and etc. I feel it's the duty of a man to take care of a woman, and that includes monetary wise. Not for those materialistic needs, but more towards a comfortable life of living; a roof above the head and some nice food on the table. That's a man's role, really, besides showing warmth, love and compassion to their women. Good discussion topic here.

Well I'm not the gold digging type ether, but we cant live and feed our family on love alone and most woman with kids what to have the chance to provide there kids with a better life, and chances then what they had, and if there significant other dosent or cant provide and the woman has to struggle on her own, or he or she has little to know help its just doesnt seem fair, dont get me wrong I'm all for couples in love working towards a goal and achieving there goals together, but if the couple is not working towards any sort of goal and there sufficient other is not really motivated and there content to do almost nothing, then thats another story.

I see women with two or three kids with men that have no future and have no ambition in life. So men can use women just as easily as women can use men. A lot of women are the breadwinners now. Some women don't make a lot of money but they get help from the government, especially if they have children. Women should look for both love and security. Many women have such a low opinion of themselves that they just settle for any idiot. However, some women have too high opinion of themselves and won't date a man that offers her a real future. Just my 2 cents.

I think there are alot of women out there that use alot of men for their money and when the money has ran out then the man gets dumped i also think men do this to women as well.It is so sad that there are people out there that can do this to anyone.I would rather struggle as well and we are struggling and we are married.If i was single i would rather struggle as i did do a few times before.

naylani no love doesnt pay the rent but being all alone with the rent paid is also not fun. so love will go a long way for two people who both work and so the rent does get paid and the love is still there too. I am also speaking from a lifetime of experience. I was never rich in money but was rich in love from my hubby and my child who is now an adult of fifty.

Personally I dont actually find anything wrong with women that gold dig and use men for money however there has to be some kind of other attraction there also to simply stay with them, be with them and of course have marital dealings with them because otherwise I wouldnt understand how they could live with them day in and day out. Security however is something that we need financial security wards us from arguments and of course relationship breakdowns so why is it so wrong to seek this when we seek men out to fall for?Seek a poor man and we will be poor and in love but will that love fade when the bills come flowing in and the house cannot be rectified and you cant get that food item you need to feed yourselves for the evening, of course it rots any relationship, so seek far and wide and richly!