18 Oct 09
I think it's a poor excuse for irresponsibility. Friends with benefits or perhaps a way to capture people who are either too desperate or naive with relationships. Anyone who couldn't commit to you is someone who shouldn't be given a chance to hurt you. These are selfish people and they don't deserve attention at all.
18 Oct 09
i totally agree with you on this. yes, i believe that if someone wants to have an 'intimate' relationship with you, with all the benefits that entails to you and to that person then they should know that they have a responsibility to you and to the relationship.
18 Oct 09
Yes, I totally agree with you. I have a friend who does this and she just end up getting hurt. Ahem, actually I don't call it pseudo relationship, I actually told my friend this.. what are you guys actually, fuc*ing friends? She just laughed and said maybe you can say that... and she just ended up crying. No matter what anyone will say that they know what they are getting into, they actually don't.. I said to her that what guy in his right mind will commit to you if he's getting what he wants without it? I don't care if he says he's not ready to commit or what... If he wants you he has to hold on to you and commit, if he doesn't then just let him go, it will give you the chance to find someone who will love and commit to you. well that's my take on that.
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19 Oct 09
Hi Briyana I agree with you completely. Such relationships are nothing but a step towards disaster. You are either lovers or you are not. There's no in between. Relationships are simple, it's just that we make them so complicated, we finally end up not knowing in what kind of relation we are. If you are in love, just tell them, if you are not, don't lead them on. Most of these more-than-friends-but-not-quite-lovers relations happen mostly either because they are too scared do admit their feelings or they just don't care at all. These are not at all good ways to start any relation.