How to be a good husband

Singapore
October 18, 2009 11:45am CST
I just got married. So just started my marriage life. So anyone can give me some good suggestions? Share your views pls:)
9 responses
@daliaj (5674)
• India
18 Oct 09
There are lots of things which can get you the label 'good husband' from your wife. I am not a very expirenced person. I have been married for around months. Being a wife for this period I can share with you somethings which I really liked and appreciated and even dropped tears because of his love and caring when my husband did it for me. 1. Make your wife feel special (you can give her gifts once in a while, give her small surprises by ordering for her favorite special dessert for dinner, she might not know about it till the resturant guy deliver it at your home) 3. Try to understand her always. Think from your part. Put yourself in her shoes. Don't hesitate to apologize for your faults. Forgive whenever required. 4. Don't be a miser when it is the time to show your love. Understand the wife in such a way that you you will know automatically when she expect a hug or kiss. 5. Treating her parents in a nice way makes a wife very happy. The same thing applies to the husband also. 6. Find time to have fun together (you can book tickets for a movie, arrange for shopping, plan for a short trip, plan to spend one day in a theme park, etc. 7. It is normal to have difference in opinions or small fights, but make sure that you are not continuing the issues. Disscuss the issues with open mind and come to the stage of completing the issue on that day. Don't let small issues continue in your life. Hope my points will help you. Good discussion.
• Singapore
18 Oct 09
Hi daliaj, U r right on the nail. Thanks for reminding me about my wife's parents. I should also take care of them and she will be happy if i treat them as though my own parents. and i do hope we can get the issues sorted out without quarrel. I hate quarreling. Thanks for ur wonderful advices. cheers
@daliaj (5674)
• India
18 Oct 09
I am so happy to know that my points helped you. My husband considers my parents and family a lot. He makes calls to them more than I make calls to my parents. It makes me happy that he likes them a lot and they like him a lot too. Now, they keep telling that he is nicer than me. So, I am a bit jealous. Thanks for your comment.
• Singapore
18 Oct 09
Well, i just feel that parents to my wife is very important. As she leave her family to live with me. And her parents will be alone. So it will also be my duty to be nice and take care of them. I believe this is also part of the duties of a husband.
@jugsjugs (12967)
18 Oct 09
I am a wife and i have been married for over 13 years.To me a husband should always talk to their wife about anything that may be bothering either of you.Ahusband should always treat his wife with respect as well as show that he loves her and appreciates the things she do for her husband as well as a few compliments also go along way.
• Singapore
19 Oct 09
Wow, married for over 13 years is a really long time. but i sure u must be a good wife that why ur husband be with u till 13 year and many more years in the future. Anyway thanks for ur advice:)
• Brazil
18 Oct 09
I think that the most important virtues to be a good husband are to be honest and sincere, those virtues are keys of good relationship and I use to have those virtues everytime.
@mohan89 (240)
• India
18 Oct 09
hi jasmene. First of all congratulations for your newly married life. how to be a good husband a regular question every new married man asks. But till date no one can perfectly found the answer for this. I'll just say enjoy every moment with your wife, share your feelings, speak more to her, make her feel like When ever she feels alone you are there for her. happy mylotting
• Singapore
18 Oct 09
Thanks bor, i know there is no perfect husband. But i would like to try to be near to perfect husband. Hope i can be one!! Cheers
• Moldova
18 Oct 09
Dont cheat and show your love as much as possible. Women like that, especially now, after you got married. Cause if not, they will always make stupid gealous things :)
• Singapore
18 Oct 09
Haha. thanks for your advice. So how ur relationship with ur wife ? Must be very sweet am i right ? HAHA
@jimple27 (51)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Make her happy everyday! I mean, get an affair on her everytime. Make her special and don't ensist your wants if shye don't or she's not in condition(i think you know what i mean).
@dipak06 (913)
• India
18 Oct 09
i have not married yet...but i think i have little bit idea about it because i have a girlfriend...the most important thing is to care about your wife..just care about everything about her...i mean to say when she becomes happy,when become sad...observes all the things...try that she will believe you in all case,she can depends on you....so she can know that whenever she will get into trouble then always she will get your helping hand...try it..i think it will give result
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
18 Oct 09
well it seems to be great that you want to be good husband see love is very important for any realation but trust is most important to make relation perfect so first you should be best friend of your wife and give your time to her and trust her and love her and discuss you problem with her it is wonderful way to be good husband and compromiss is also very important but listen this points important for every relation follow these points i hope i gave you answer
@mrfdg1972 (3237)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
this is my secret and now i am giving it to the whole world. a few days after our marriage, i told my wife, You know no one is perfect, but i will try to please you in every way that i can.. but i need something from you so i can do it 100% whenever i did something wrong, you have to call me like Mr. blah blah blah, (e.g.) so that i will know that you are angry at me. therefore i now know she is angry at me, and what i do now is i ask her why, what. the reason behind this is that she will be open to conversation and we can resolve the matter right then and there. and there will other codes as well, like if you wanna have se_, call like hunny. if you want a favor call me bunny. like that, the secret here is that you know how she feels at the exact moment she mentions your name. and you can do vice versa as well. COMMUNICATION is the most important thing in a marriage. Tip 1 ( so it is hunny when you wanna have s_x) just before she enters the frontyard, coming from somewhere, shout out loud so that the neighbors would hear you, HUNNY.. i tell you she's gonna fart laughing.