Unexpected Pregnancy... cannot cope up

Hi joy, I understand you are in a difficult situation but you should be blessed for bearing kids without any difficulty. I had to undergo several treatments before conceiving, by the way I'm on my 9 months on the way now and expecting my first baby end of this month after 5 long years of waiting. Coming back to your predicament, you have to talk to your husband during his best mood and explain to him that he has to embrace the consequences of life wherein we have to take responsibility for all our actions. It means acknowledging all that is happening whether we do it deliberate or unintentional. A responsible person makes mistakes yes, but when they do, they take responsibility and make it right. Though having another new member of the family is not a mistake at all, it's a blessing. Thinking too much about problems, worrying endlessly about the future, regretting the past, feeling sorry for our selves can be exhausting. Instead, suggest what are the ways you both can do to augment a better income for the family in preparation for the coming of the new baby. Hope this could be of help. Cheers!

I think you can't choice to have this baby without first having a serious talk with your husband. See is point of view and make the choice together this could change your relationship.

I think that it might take your husband to take in the news that you are pregnant and see it in a positive light. You could tell him how happy you are that you are pregnant. You could explain that it wasn't planned so therefore it is a gift. Your daughter will be delighted to have a baby brother or sister. I know that having a second baby isn't as pricey as having a first baby. It might possible to get free baby clothes from friends and some baby equipment. I have a two and a half year old son and a four month old baby girl. I still had some of his old toys, my sister gave me a cot with bedding and friends gave me lots of clothing. I also got a sack full of maternity clothing that only cost me twenty pounds. Good luck with having a happy pregnancy with a supportive husband.

It is good to know that thing is getting better and you husband is more accepting with the baby. Sometimes, we have many worried because we think too much on the negative aspect of life(problems focused). We will end facing more and more problems (more than the real problems alone). Relax and take one at a time. Share your feelings with your husband and support one another at this moment. Children are blessing and gift from God. You will realize that they will give you bundle of joy than you can expect. It is more than just focus on the cost of rearing a child. How about the emotional gain of having one more loving child. God bless you. Sylvia Mak http://wiseparents.net http://twitter.com/pregnantcoach

Hello joy, congratulations! It is indeed a blessing! I'm a Filipino also working here in Singapore. my wife and my son is with me here.I understand what you feel(I could relate).This is often the dilemma of many Filipinos working abroad. Having these feelings are normal specially we're working abroad.Have a heart to heart talk with your husband and discuss everything including your worries and fears. Remember both of you are drawing strength from each other and are supposed to draw strength from one another. Remember that family should always come first. We work hard because of our family Pray to God for strength and guidance Godbless!

Really a tough thing. Anyway, wether keep it or not should be decided by you two according to your practical situation. In China, many people prefer to work in another city far away from the hometown, keep their children with their grandparents, which leave many questions and problems for both grandparents and grand-children. also there is psychological problems for children. So I suggest that no matter what the situation is, keep your children living with you, both good for you.

Well, first off maybe the Stress of worrying about this can be overcome by seeing what type of help there might be Financially in a case like this as well. Also talk to your husband and work out the fears together. Many times it is often a fear of the unknown and when faced with something New but able to talk about it often makes it seem a lot smaller for sure. No matter what, I am truly wishing you the Best.