- Need your help - She threw a metaphorical brick to my face...
By diamania
@diamania (7011)
Netherlands
October 19, 2009 6:49am CST
I just called by a female friend of mine and asked me whether I would like to visit her on Thursday. The initial plans were that I stayed over but because a female friend was also going to visit her I couldn't stay over because they wanted to have some time together.
I agreed, but I don't feel comfortable about it. I feel more or less shut out. It isn't the first time it happened with this female friend of her at school more or less the same happens. I see her sitting at a table, alone... I ask whether I can come sit next to her, she accepts... then when her friend starts to set next to her I am politely asked whether I could sit somewhere else... Maybe I am just a muppet but it feels as though I get hit with a brick time and time again...
Is it just me or is this ridiculous? What can I do
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5 responses
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
19 Oct 09
I don't think that I would call this person a true friend. I hope that I don't hurt your feelings by saying this but frankly, it sounds like this person only wants your company if there's nothing better to do. If she is really important to you, you could sit down with her and tell her how her behavior makes you feel. Perhaps she isn't aware that you feel excluded. Personally, I would simply stop accepting her invitations. Friendship is a two way street and it doesn;t seem like your friend is holding up her end of the bargain. Good luck
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@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
19 Oct 09
We had a walk with her dog and she said that she doesn't befriend with just everyone, with each friend she goes all the way. With her actions she doesn't show me that though. I might as well just go Thursday and when it isn't fun or anything just take her for a talk and tell her I feel excluded ( that's the word I was looking for)
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
19 Oct 09
I think that she just gave you your answer. You said that she doesn't befriend anyone that with each friend she goes all the way. That seems to apply to everyone except you. Essentially, she's telling you that you are not a friend.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 09
hi diamanis oh yes this friend is being really really unkind.
If she thought of you as a friend andasked you to visit her and then reneged because of another so called friend I would sort of think twice about her friendship with you. that was the last insult to ask you to sit somewhere else. That was cruel and thoughtless and not what a friend should say. You are not being ridiculous but she sure is.I would dump this spiteful so called friend. you need her like a hole in the head.
@trilliansramblings (160)
• United States
19 Oct 09
If she really wanted to be your friend and not just leave this at the acquaintance phase, then she would want you to meet her other friends. It's true that sometimes people want time alone with their friends, especially if they haven't seen them in a while, but if she is making a continuous effort to keep you away from her other friends then she doesn't really value your friendship.
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@tatazbrush (126)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
wow i think she is hate you, but you should forgive her do not hate her, because if you hate some one, some one else will hate you =)
