Relationship Status

United States
October 19, 2009 6:23pm CST
I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 months and facebook still says he is single. Should I make an issue of this? Or just ignore it?
10 responses
@k1tten (2318)
• United States
21 Oct 09
*headdesk* Ignore it. Men are men and facebook relationship status issuses don't mean anything. If you're so worried as him, but don't force the issue. As long as you know you two are together, then everything is just fine.
@Zenstrive (237)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
Make an issue of it. If he is irritated, dump him. He is not true to his feeling.
• United States
20 Oct 09
I wouldn't ignore it, but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it... yet. From personal experience, I've found a lot of people to not provide true information on their Facebook pages, for one reason or another. I've had people get upset for not being made someone's "top friend" on Myspace or the "in a relationship" status isn't consistently updated. From what I've found to be best, you have to assess a few facts before deciding on your action. 1. I know a few people said this before; you have to consider his activity level on the site. If he's there everyday and the type of person whose status constantly updates, you may want to question it a bit. The reason being is that these kind of people like for everyone to know everything that's going on all the time, and if they aren't updating that part of it, where everything else around it is constantly up to date, then you have to wonder if he's hiding something, or if his view of you is different than yours of him or you are two different points. If he's rarely on, you can probably ignore it as him not being able to get to it. 2. The kind of friends/comments he gets on his wall. I know this might sound a bit nosy, bit it can be important. That stuff is public, so check it out. 3. His relationship with his friends and whether they know you and that you're dating. If his closest friends know you, or know of you, then the status carries less meaning. It might just be an oversight. But if he's keeping you from friends or not introducing you to others, especially if you are exclusive after 2 months, then it could signal trouble. Actually, the best thing is to talk to him about it. Just ask; one time, not obsessively, but simply, and find out. Sometimes the best way to find something out, well most of the time the best way, is to go to the person yourself! Good luck though!
@mama_bear (1118)
• Canada
20 Oct 09
ha ha gotta love facebook, where everyone's business is laid bare. i am not sure if it is a big deal or not. after all it is not the real world, and you have not been together that long. my ex has a new girlfriend that he has been with for almost a year or whatever, but he has not changed either his facebook or his myspace status. so it might be nothing, why not just do the same and see if it impacts him.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Maybe he is too busy to go online often.. May I ask have you two make your relationship official? I think the two of you should talk regarding this matter (if it really bothers you). Its just not fair for you to invest too much emotion while the other's not...
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
It depends on how serious you are with the guy because if you consider him as your boyfriend already, I think he should change his status but if you are still in the getting to know you stage and you don't really consider each other as boyfriend/girlfriend, I think you should just let it slide and as the relationship gets serious in time, I think it will be in his initiative to change it.
@crys7881 (249)
• United States
19 Oct 09
After two months I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if ya'll were living together I would say something! Like someone else suggested, do the "in a relationship" request thing with him and see what he does!! Or you can randomly mention it to him, be like, "Oh I noticed your status still says single, whats up with that?" lol something relax and just see what he says! But honestly I honestly wouldn't be worried, just more curious I guess.
@jugsjugs (12967)
19 Oct 09
There are alot of people that do not change their relationship status on facebook i have noticed,you could always ask why it has not been changed as it is easy to change it as you know.
@mynestegg (519)
• Philippines
19 Oct 09
Hmmm... Maybe he just doesn't log in that often. If he does and you know he is the type that constantly updates his facebook account then that's something. Invite him to be your bf or something. I think facebook has that feature right?
• Philippines
19 Oct 09
If you two are living together then you can I ask and open the topic on him but if not I'd rather ignore it because I think its not my business anymore. Anyone can lie about theirselves when it comes to online information and more people are doing that. I too do that because I've got other accounts in Facebook. On my personal account all are facts there because I have to add my relatives and I dont wanna make an issue about it. But on the other one, I'd rather put false information or none at all.