Are you open to the idea of changing religions if asked by the fiancee? why?

@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
October 19, 2009 7:25pm CST
For may people religion is just like an extra curriculum in their lives. It is not that important as long as they believe in something. To others it is a major thing and their lives revolve around it. What is your personal opinion on this issue?
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@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Right now I'm in a relationship where I have different view in religion with. Though we're in the same congregation of Christianity, but we go in different church. I'm a Catholic and he is Born Again-Protestant... We believe in the same God, we believe in the same faith, its just so happend the name of the church is different. Next year we'll tie a knot, and neither of us is to convert of whose religion, because we don't see any difference. And for us, all that is important is our relationship with our God, and having Him as a center of our love..
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Thank you!! I believe that every couple should think this way to last longer and meaningful relationship.
@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
It's beautiful.. I do believe that the true way to God is love, not religion .. Because it's said that God is love, not God is religion...
• Mexico
20 Oct 09
Hi manong: No way, for me my religion makes part of me and i won't change it just because my future wife told me to that, i don't like these kinds of impositions. I'd tell her: my religion is as important as yours, i love you just as you are and you knew i was a catholic since we started dating and i knew you were XXXX since we start dating. You won't change my point of view, if you can love me like that take it or just leave it but in the case you do that i won't negociate with you, i'll let you go.
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
hi starsailover. i will definitely do the same thing as u would. i won't change my religion because he tells me so. if he does not like it, he is free to leave. but if he loves me, he will take me and my religion as a whole. i have a co-worker whose husband belongs to another christian denomination. they are doing fine with both of them rooting to their own religions. they live in harmony despite the difference in their faith. i can say that things can be worked out if there is love and cooperation between the couple.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Yes, since this has already been made clear when you started dating there's no point to change mind and later ask you to change religion. That is uncalled for. Our religion is really part of who we are. cheers!
@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
20 Oct 09
I have carefully researched the religion I choose to practice. Therefore I will not change it to please another human. I will not choose for another person either. The religion we practice is too important to leave to chance or to allow someone else to choose for us. Our eternal destiny is at stake!
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I agree, after carefully searching for a time and practice it, it doesn't make sense if just one person will come and change everything. cheers!
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I'm not a religious person so I'm open to the idea of changing mine if a loved one asks for it. Personally I think, the type of sect you're into is not important, it's your relationship with god that matters. Cheers!
• United States
20 Oct 09
Not being Christian, I have had to seriously contemplate the idea that if I do meet "the one," he may ask me to change my religion. A long time ago I decided that one of the major criteria for me to even date a guy, much less become engaged to him, is that he must be okay with my religion. He doesn't have to have the same religious views as I do or any religion at all, but he has to respect my religious beliefs. I have reached my religious beliefs after years of studying religion and looking within myself to see what feels right to me, so my religion is very personal to me. Marriage is supposed to be two lives joining together, not one person taking over the other.
@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
I don't believe in religions. But i believe that there is Ultimate Good we should seek after in our life. In my opinion, someone forcing the others to take his/her religion only look at his/her own good and doesn't open him/herself to that Ultimate Good.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I think it would be possible to get married even without converting to your partner's religion. I think Ive read something about that somewhere. Your religion is already part of who you are, your culture and your image. Changing it is like making an overhaul of your whole life personality. This is not love were talking about if you do not accept who the person is your with.
@Gongfuboy (130)
• China
20 Oct 09
I would never chang my belief which has already become part of my life. But your discussion is kinda strange. You and your fiancee should have a mutual understanding before getting married, so you must recognize the fact that she has an entirely different religion and make sufficient preparations to cope with this problem. And your fiancee respects what your choosed as well, or there will be a mess in your marriage life.