Paying a debt of gratitude: when is the limit?
October 20, 2009 12:51am CST
A was offering words of comfort to a relative of mine who is continually pestered by his older brother's never ending requests for favor. She couldn't say no because he was the one who sent her to college and provided all she needed. Their parents were jobless at that time and could barely make ends meet. Her brother was always there when she needed him. Time came when he lost his job overseas and came home. He couldn't find a job locally so he always asks her for everything, borrowing money every now and then, depleting the contents of her small convenient store and said she couldn't refuse him because she owes him a debt of gratitude. In frustration, she will just cry alone. Meanwhile she feels that the small store is going bankrupt not being able to get the investments back. Will she be forever beholden? when put into her shoes, what will you do?
20 Oct 09
It is in our culture that we always paying the debt of gratitude but is should have limitation also. Sometimes they abusing you I think it is ok to refuse them sometimes if they want to borrow money from you because you also need the money for your daily needs.